Frances' New House, New Life, New Start Diary...

[Dubchick81]

Sorry to hear about the omelette, must be annoying! x Day looks fab nevertheless! Are you enjoying walking Stringer?

Morning hun.. Yea am loving it.. Tho yesterday we didn't get very far at all without being stopped! We were out for 30mins but I'd say at least 5mins of that was stopped talking to people while they petted him!! That's what I get for having a cute puppy!! ha ha.. Great for my WW/diet too, getting some exercise in.. Up to now I done NOTHING at all...

 

[bulldogdaisy]

My friend had mentioned going to BK n having a chicken royale.. So I made something to get rid of that craving Was yummilicious...

What a great idea doing your own version :0) boo to your new wok! What a let down!

 

[Dubchick81]

What a great idea doing your own version :0) boo to your new wok! What a let down!

I know.. Only I was in good form I'd have whacked it off the wall!!
Dunno why was in such good form.. Still not speaking to Jonathan.. yesterday was the first FULL day of having NO contact since we got back together...

 

[bulldogdaisy]

I know.. Only I was in good form I'd have whacked it off the wall!!
Dunno why was in such good form.. Still not speaking to Jonathan.. yesterday was the first FULL day of having NO contact since we got back together...

What? I didn't know you guys weren't speaking! Sorry if I missed that,I did see a comment bout you not being happy with him on Emma's diary.

 

[Dubchick81]

What? I didn't know you guys weren't speaking! Sorry if I missed that,I did see a comment bout you not being happy with him on Emma's diary.

Yea. Just fell out kinda over the puppy. I told him he needs to pull his weight.. I do everything and its not fair.. Its meant to be OUR puppy. Yes I get I have to do most of it as he's living in my house ATM but he looks after himself and then considers the pup. Then gives out coz the pup is more attached to me. I can tell he resents it but what am I to do??!!
So he didn't like what I said and shouted "Fuk off.. What did I just..." Don't know what the end of that sentence was coz as soon as he said fuk off.. and he was shouting.. I decided I wasn't gona be spoken to like that and hung up...
Haven't heard from him since and unless its with an apology I don't want to! He can feck right off if he thinks he can speak to me like that! Yea I get he's tired from work but so am I!
He gets to have his sleep until its time for work, where I have to get up early to bring the pup out. Then he gets his dinner handed to him!! I have to come home, look after the pup, then start preparing mine before anything gets cooked!
Now he's away again working.. He was leaving from Tralee this morning (I think).. Not sure when he's home.. Think he's gone for 1 night, could be 2 tho..

 

[bulldogdaisy]

Yea. Just fell out kinda over the puppy. I told him he needs to pull his weight.. I do everything and its not fair.. Its meant to be OUR puppy. Yes I get I have to do most of it as he's living in my house ATM but he looks after himself and then considers the pup. Then gives out coz the pup is more attached to me. I can tell he resents it but what am I to do??!!
So he didn't like what I said and shouted "Fuk off.. What did I just..." Don't know what the end of that sentence was coz as soon as he said fuk off.. and he was shouting.. I decided I wasn't gona be spoken to like that and hung up...
Haven't heard from him since and unless its with an apology I don't want to! He can feck right off if he thinks he can speak to me like that! Yea I get he's tired from work but so am I!
He gets to have his sleep until its time for work, where I have to get up early to bring the pup out. Then he gets his dinner handed to him!! I have to come home, look after the pup, then start preparing mine before anything gets cooked!
Now he's away again working.. He was leaving from Tralee this morning (I think).. Not sure when he's home.. Think he's gone for 1 night, could be 2 tho..

Oh no,what a nightmare and I don't blame you for hanging up the phone,I would've done the same thing.Probably be easier once you are living together though I think you will still doing a lot then aswell! Sounds like you guys need to have a sit down and chat about it as its no good him being resentful and you fed up.If he spent more time with the pup then I'm sure the pup would be more interested in him so up to Jonathan to make the effort!

 

[Dubchick81]

Oh no,what a nightmare and I don't blame you for hanging up the phone,I would've done the same thing.Probably be easier once you are living together though I think you will still doing a lot then aswell! Sounds like you guys need to have a sit down and chat about it as its no good him being resentful and you fed up.If he spent more time with the pup then I'm sure the pup would be more interested in him so up to Jonathan to make the effort!

Exactly.. Its always been said you get from a pet what you put in.. So if he's not gona spend with him, what does he expect!!
In fairness it will be better when we live together again (pup wise) as he'll see him more and will be around more to do stuff for him.. But like, don't text me after 6 o'clock thinking "we'll bring the pup out now as I'm fed and washed etc" when his walk time is 5:30! Like, he needs 3 walks per day.. So bringing him out at 6:30 isn't gona work. Coz he'll be too tired then to go on his later walk at half 8/9... He just thinks of himself.. It'd be so easy for me to think "oh i'll look after myself and then sort out the pup" of an evening but that's not fair on the pup. He's out the back all day long.. the least we can do is bring him out the minute we get in..
Though yes I do agree.. I'll still be doing most of the work when we live together.. But as long as it not ALL left to me I'm cool with that.. I love doing it..

 

[Dubchick81]

Exactly.. Its always been said you get from a pet what you put in.. So if he's not gona spend with him, what does he expect!!
In fairness it will be better when we live together again (pup wise) as he'll see him more and will be around more to do stuff for him.. But like, don't text me after 6 o'clock thinking "we'll bring the pup out now as I'm fed and washed etc" when his walk time is 5:30! Like, he needs 3 walks per day.. So bringing him out at 6:30 isn't gona work. Coz he'll be too tired then to go on his later walk at half 8/9... He just thinks of himself.. It'd be so easy for me to think "oh i'll look after myself and then sort out the pup" of an evening but that's not fair on the pup. He's out the back all day long.. the least we can do is bring him out the minute we get in..
Though yes I do agree.. I'll still be doing most of the work when we live together.. But as long as it not ALL left to me I'm cool with that.. I love doing it..

And sure, while i'm out walking the dog, he can be home cooking me dinner

 

[bulldogdaisy]

And sure, while i'm out walking the dog, he can be home cooking me dinner

Haha..I knew you'd have it all planned ;0) yea Lola always goes out straight away if we've been out shopping or out for a while.You sound like me,I'm happy to do whatever but some help is always appreciated and deffo don't like to feel like a dogsbody!

 

[Dubchick81]

Haha..I knew you'd have it all planned ;0) yea Lola always goes out straight away if we've been out shopping or out for a while.You sound like me,I'm happy to do whatever but some help is always appreciated and deffo don't like to feel like a dogsbody!

Exactly.. D'ya know what?! If he just offered to help sometimes, I'd be grateful! But he doesn't.. He just sits on his skinny boney lazy ass!!!

 

[bulldogdaisy]

Exactly.. D'ya know what?! If he just offered to help sometimes, I'd be grateful! But he doesn't.. He just sits on his skinny boney lazy ass!!!

Them offering to help makes all the difference! It's a lot better at home now for me and the OH,I don't expect much when he goes back to Uni but I think that's fair as I'm at home,so long as he still takes the bins out lol and if we have a roast he will cook it ;0)

 

[Dubchick81]

Them offering to help makes all the difference! It's a lot better at home now for me and the OH,I don't expect much when he goes back to Uni but I think that's fair as I'm at home,so long as he still takes the bins out lol and if we have a roast he will cook it ;0)

The only thing Jonathan can really "cook" is spag bol!! And that's from jar sauce!!! But its something.. I don't mind doing the cooking as I love to cook... Most times he'll do the washing up and that's fine.. Its the bigger things.. Like washing windows n floors n hoovering etc that I'd like help with.. Or even just offer to do it.. Most times I'll say no anyway.. I'm very particular so chances are I'd end up going over what he's done but it was the fact he would never offer.. or never help when he'd see me doing it all.. he'd be happy to sit n watch..
Whereas no matter what he'd be doing I'd be there offering a hand.. S'pose its down really to how you were brought up isn't it?! My Mam would never just sit there while my Dad was doing anything.. Even when he was building sheds n walls.. She'd be helping mix the next batch of cement of putting wallpaper paste on the next sheet while he put up a sheet..
Whereas his Mam does EVERYTHING in the house while his Dad sits on his ass reading the paper!

 

[bulldogdaisy]

The only thing Jonathan can really "cook" is spag bol!! And that's from jar sauce!!! But its something.. I don't mind doing the cooking as I love to cook... Most times he'll do the washing up and that's fine.. Its the bigger things.. Like washing windows n floors n hoovering etc that I'd like help with.. Or even just offer to do it.. Most times I'll say no anyway.. I'm very particular so chances are I'd end up going over what he's done but it was the fact he would never offer.. or never help when he'd see me doing it all.. he'd be happy to sit n watch..
Whereas no matter what he'd be doing I'd be there offering a hand.. S'pose its down really to how you were brought up isn't it?! My Mam would never just sit there while my Dad was doing anything.. Even when he was building sheds n walls.. She'd be helping mix the next batch of cement of putting wallpaper paste on the next sheet while he put up a sheet..
Whereas his Mam does EVERYTHING in the house while his Dad sits on his ass reading the paper!

I agree that a lot of it is how you are brought up and it's often the case that Mums don't expect their boys to do owt,I like the fact my kids aren't shown sexism that way and alot of my friends kids aren't either! I think it's more from years ago.My Mum was the same as your Mam,deffo wasn't one for just sitting there!

 

[Dubchick81]

I agree that a lot of it is how you are brought up and it's often the case that Mums don't expect their boys to do owt,I like the fact my kids aren't shown sexism that way and alot of my friends kids aren't either! I think it's more from years ago.My Mum was the same as your Mam,deffo wasn't one for just sitting there!

I do think its a thing form last generation and kids (boys) are brought up now to help out n pitch in..
My nephews do the laundry, both washing and hanging out, load and unload the dishwasher, do bins, feed their dogs, and clean their rooms.. WAY more than any of us done in my house... (My Mam never let any of us do anything. She said we were kids and we'd be a long time as adults so now was our time to play!) But even so my brothers are great in their own houses now.. My brother who's kids I've just mentioned does all the cooking in their house... And my other brother does all weekend cooking and cleaning.. He doesn't cook anymore during the week but that's only in the last couple of months.. he works in Dublin but lives in Wicklow, so an hours drive each way and his wife is at home all day twiddling her thumbs.. So they've come to the arrangement (after I had a word with her to sort it out!) that mid week he'll do the bins n heavy work but not the cooking and cleaning (dinner dishes) But he's very much like me and can't sit doing nothing so he'll usually put on a wash or do the floors while she's washing up after dinner ha

 

[bulldogdaisy]

I do think its a thing form last generation and kids (boys) are brought up now to help out n pitch in..
My nephews do the laundry, both washing and hanging out, load and unload the dishwasher, do bins, feed their dogs, and clean their rooms.. WAY more than any of us done in my house... (My Mam never let any of us do anything. She said we were kids and we'd be a long time as adults so now was our time to play!) But even so my brothers are great in their own houses now.. My brother who's kids I've just mentioned does all the cooking in their house... And my other brother does all weekend cooking and cleaning.. He doesn't cook anymore during the week but that's only in the last couple of months.. he works in Dublin but lives in Wicklow, so an hours drive each way and his wife is at home all day twiddling her thumbs.. So they've come to the arrangement (after I had a word with her to sort it out!) that mid week he'll do the bins n heavy work but not the cooking and cleaning (dinner dishes) But he's very much like me and can't sit doing nothing so he'll usually put on a wash or do the floors while she's washing up after dinner ha

Your Mam was right ;0) i can tell your Mam was a special lady :0) thats great about your nephews and your brothers.Naughty that your brother's wife sat at home all day and then expected him to do stuff after a day of work! No wonder you had a word!

 

[Baby-belle]

Men are rubbish!

 

[Dubchick81]

Your Mam was right ;0) i can tell your Mam was a special lady :0) thats great about your nephews and your brothers.Naughty that your brother's wife sat at home all day and then expected him to do stuff after a day of work! No wonder you had a word!

I kno! He had to get up extra early to drive to Dublin to work.. Do a full day.. Drive home, go shopping, come home and cook.. then clean up while she sat playing on FB all day?! Eh not with my brother as yer husband!!! (Am a little protective of my brother.. he's older but he's too nice for his own good)

 

[bulldogdaisy]

I kno! He had to get up extra early to drive to Dublin to work.. Do a full day.. Drive home, go shopping, come home and cook.. then clean up while she sat playing on FB all day?! Eh not with my brother as yer husband!!! (Am a little protective of my brother.. he's older but he's too nice for his own good)

Does sound like she was taking full advantage of him! Treating him like a slave more then a hubby! Got to look after your own at the end of the day!

 

[Dubchick81]

Does sound like she was taking full advantage of him! Treating him like a slave more then a hubby! Got to look after your own at the end of the day!

She totally was.. N I hate seeing people taken advantage of.. especially when they're my blood!!

I'm the opposite in my other brothers house tho.. hee hee.. i give to him coz he totally takes advantage of his wife.. long story.. they love together, but actually aren't together anymore.. But they don't see other people either... But she does everything but wipe his ass!!!

 

[Dubchick81]

Feeling very snacky today.. Came out this morning without any fruit for in between meal snacks and am really noticing it.. Note to self.. MUST BRING FRUIT!
Also have nothing out of the freezer for dinner so will have to be careful when I get in.. That usually leads to being bold.. hmm.. thinking cap on as to what I have in, that can make a nice healthy low fat FILLING dinner... hmmm