Hi Oasis
I've commented on your thread, we're not far apart at all date wise.
Hi Diva! It's definitely not a quiet one this year. We're off down to see my family (we had Christmas with A's family last year, next year I want it at home so might invite them over to us or we could have dinner there, they're only 5 mins up the road). We're staying at my sister's who is a vicar so she has two services to do Christmas morning so I'm on cooking duty. We're going to prepare all the veg etc. the night before but it might still be a bit manic, there'll be 14 of us! It'll be a bit less stressful than anticipated, my niece was due to have her baby on the 27th but gave birth today! To a little boy, A is highly disappointed because he wanted us both to be girls so that they could grow up as the best of friends and didn't want them to have a boy so that she wouldn't have two boy cousins to gang up together and pick on her. Apparently it's okay though because he'll be her best friend instead. Bless him!
We've got our 20 week scan tomorrow. I'd kind of forgotten about it in the excitement of everything, I think because we had one only a week and a half ago there wasn't that rush of wanting to see her and find out the sex. We're still looking forward to it though but, if I'm honest, I'm a little nervous. The midwife at an appointment last week say that I have an anterior placenta (at the front) which is why I haven't really felt Spud move yet (I feel like I'm missing out here and actually am quite sad about it, hopefully the movements will start soon!) but they'll properly check the location tomorrow at the scan. She could just tell from listening to the heartbeat but if the scan shows that the placenta is also sitting low then it gets complicated. A low lying placenta means having to have a caesarean but if it's also at the front it makes a caesarean difficult because it's in the way. Even if tomorrow they say it's low, it could move further up later on so fingers crossed that's what happens. The thought of a caesarean terrifies me even more than having to give birth!
Weighed myself this morning and I'm up 1lb from last week, which puts me at the same that I was about 5 weeks ago but 2lb less than I was at my 12 week appointment. My big goal that I set myself was to have not gained much weight by tomorrow's appointment with the consultant's clinic after the scan. As much as I've said up until now that I don't really care how much weight that I put on, I'm just going to eat healthily and whatever happens, happens... that's not quite true. I do care. I care more than I should and I need to be careful that I don't obsess over it. When I get on the scales (most days) I can be a bit hmm if the number goes up, I don't mind really if it stays the same but I don't like seeing it go up. I have been most bothered about not gaining loads before tomorrows appointment I think and, looking back, I think my experience of my 12 week appointment is what's made me that way.
The doctor that I saw within the Consultant's clinic really wasn't very nice. S
he tried to harp on at me about how it's important I eat a balanced diet now I'm pregnant, that I need to change my habits, that I need referring to a dietitian etc. until I told her that I'd lost 6lb since finding out 6 weeks before and that kind of shut her up but she was just so rude. So when I go back tomorrow I want a total up yours moment of being able to show her that I don't sit and eat crisps and donuts for breakfast, lunch and dinner as I've been able to not gain. Stupid I know. Though, if she walks in the room I think I may walk out and ask for someone else. Stupid cow.
I don't really care what she thinks because she made judgements based on knowing nothing about me at all. I'm just looking forward to going ha to her if I see her again. She did the whole if you put on too much weight you're at risk of gestational diabetes, high blood pressure, pre-eclampsia, premature labour etc so you need to change your eating habits now when I already had, before getting pregnant. When I saw the midwife last week she kept saying that things seemed like they were going really well, really good heartbeat, no ketones or sugar in urine (so no indicator for pre-eclampsia or diabetes), blood pressure was perfect and all in all, I'm a 'picture of health' apparently. I just want to be treated as more than a BMI number, which I don't feel like I was at that last appointment so maybe tomorrow I can prove to her that I am.
Anyway, I think I've rabbited on enough now. Sorry ladies!