bettiesrevenge
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Bloomin Brilliant Missy Jo!!!
I am just reading day 8 of 100 days, its funny but "this is what I want" actually verbalising how you want others to react to you (or support your efforts) HAS a huge impact. I realised after mulling it over for a while. I have a few unsupportive people in my life who range from the very naggy "dont eat that" (meaning you are fat enough already, you dont need to eat any more cake/biscuits) to totaly not acknowledging the effort that is needed to stay focused on SS and saying "oh come on, one bit wont hurt" (my husband for instance) to being totally unaware of what my actions say about my mood (coming in from work, frantically looking in the fridge/cupboard for any kind of substance that will make me feel carb-calmer)...
It's all about saying - hey you know what, I am not going to fall into this trap. I am going to say no. I am going to stay on track! I can do this!
It's so simple yet so meaningful and actually I kind of see that my food battle, isnt really about food. Food I can take or leave. Its about feelings, and those feelings not getting the right sort of responses from the people around me, or worse yet, that I dont interact on a meaningful level with some of my close companions, I JUST PRETEND EVERYTHING IS OK...then in the past (of course) I would just inhale a bag of haribo, or devour an entire pack of caramel digestives...I would then feel vindicated "ha, see! I can make uncomfortable feelings go away - I dont need you people!"...
It's amazing how this two pronged aproach is actually opening up a whole new perspective for me! Roll on day 9!
I am just reading day 8 of 100 days, its funny but "this is what I want" actually verbalising how you want others to react to you (or support your efforts) HAS a huge impact. I realised after mulling it over for a while. I have a few unsupportive people in my life who range from the very naggy "dont eat that" (meaning you are fat enough already, you dont need to eat any more cake/biscuits) to totaly not acknowledging the effort that is needed to stay focused on SS and saying "oh come on, one bit wont hurt" (my husband for instance) to being totally unaware of what my actions say about my mood (coming in from work, frantically looking in the fridge/cupboard for any kind of substance that will make me feel carb-calmer)...
It's all about saying - hey you know what, I am not going to fall into this trap. I am going to say no. I am going to stay on track! I can do this!
It's so simple yet so meaningful and actually I kind of see that my food battle, isnt really about food. Food I can take or leave. Its about feelings, and those feelings not getting the right sort of responses from the people around me, or worse yet, that I dont interact on a meaningful level with some of my close companions, I JUST PRETEND EVERYTHING IS OK...then in the past (of course) I would just inhale a bag of haribo, or devour an entire pack of caramel digestives...I would then feel vindicated "ha, see! I can make uncomfortable feelings go away - I dont need you people!"...
It's amazing how this two pronged aproach is actually opening up a whole new perspective for me! Roll on day 9!