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[Lostris]

Thansk so much for the encouraging words ladies, really means a lot. I am at my parents currently, was there yesterday as well hence the "my room" thing.

ohhh hunny sending you hugs xxxx no1 should ever feel like that. id hate it but you gotta think he is with you and ( dunno if you live together) but he goes back to you. Try and rub it in her face latch onto him and be a over him lol own him hahaha just put the silly b***h behind yi.....I kno easier said than done. my bf gets loads of female attention as he is a body builder and drives me nuts but he comes home with me and loves me. if he was any way interested in this thing then sure within the 14 years something would of happened he clearly just sees her as a friend and she seems desperate she has to be little her self to become that clingy. chin up hun xxxx

We live together yes, we have since March last year. And we have plans for the future together as well. I know he isnt interested in her at all, he has told me several times and I know it is true. Its just that I feel very uncomfortable around her and feel like I am telling the bf what to do and what not to and that I want this and that and... I just feel umcomfortable and feel that I may be taking it out on him a bit. Meh.
I sent him a very long whatsapp about this, as I am not at our house at the mo, and he took a lot of time to reply to me this morning. I told him that I have been feeling down for a while, which is true. I used to eat away bad emotions, like sadness or something like this. I told him I would normally go to the store, buy 5 bags of crisps and eat them all to feel better. Now that I am on a diet, I can not do this. I can not use food to feel better anymore, not about the emotionsl stuff anyway. I told bf that every time I saw this friend, I wanted to punch her in the face but instead of doing that I would go to the supermarket either day before or after, buy bad foods and stuff my face. It is kind of how I deal with stuff, by eating.
Anyway, bf replied with long and considerate post and said the situation made bim uncomfortable too but that he loves me and really isnt interested in her at all. He just likes it a lot when I come with him and hang out with his friends etc, and that we will talk about it tonight.

Hope you're feeling better today and honestly don't worry about it, he's with you and not her. If he wanted to be with her, it would have happened after all those years of friendship. She probably knows it annoys you so she does it more. Think positive and don't show you're annoyed just have a really nice day together and it will piss her off more x

Thanks Yes, I know it will never be something between them. So does she, really. But she just makes such lame commens that it makes me feel bad because I try to keep the peace and dont want to cause a major blowout between her and me so I pretend to be nice to her, she does the same thing to me.... We both know its fake though. And its exhausting. Argh.

Also I am sure he'll be sticking up for you. I he knew how much it hurts you then surely he would change the situation?

Please don't be upset honey xxxx

Ys, boyfriend does stick up for me however a lot of things he doesnt even notice. He seems to be oblivious to her comments r he just does not hear them. And that ticks me off, a lottt. I do not want him to stop seeing his friends and she inevitably comes with those friends so I really dont want to not allow him to see her as it would mean me telling him he is not allowed to see people he has been friends with for like, 20 years now. Thats crazy. I even let him go visit her with some of these friends when she was abroad, I felt awful about it but I didnt want to stop him from going either. He had a great time and I didnt have to see her try to cozy up to him so that was okay. I dont mind them hanging out too much its just the way she is around him and how oblivious he is to it. He really doesnt mean it but he just doesnt see what she does, the subtle things, thats why I hate going somewhere where she is. I see all the subtle things he doesnt and get annoyed... Plus I really want to smack her face in.

Aw I'd hate to have to face that situation she sounds like a nightmare. I'm a bit of a hot head so I'd probably slap someone like that but I think you should definitely go to the celebrations and hold your boyfs hand with pride

Thanks Me hitting her, though I have definitely thought about it, wouldnt solve anything and would probably cause a lot of friction kn their group of friends. Apparently, she is close with all my bfs friends from their group, some gfs feel she is overstepping too but she does it a bit more towards my bf because honestly, she is still in love with him. She may not say it out loud but it is clear as day. She keeps hoping that we will break up that is how it feels. I always tell bf, "Later, when we have a baby. She can not hold the baby!!! I do not want her to hold my baby!!", he feels it is a bit much but he had better go allng with it in a few years. No way in hell that b tch is holding my baby. F.her. Sorry minimins for bad words, I am abit.... Pissy today.

thanks again lovely ladies for the words of encouragement xxxx

 

[Lostris]

Breakfast. 2 wraps with cheese and chicken slices with chives, toasted. 13pp
Banana 0pp

Lunch:
No idea yet will add later

Dinner:
red cabbage ""pot"", with red cabbage and apple cooked together and pork sausages in it too and server with baked potatoes and (of course) some mayonaise lol 12pp

25/35 dailies so far
Earn 3 AP walking today
49/49 weeklies left.

 

[chips with everything]

Hi lostris, sorry you're feeling stressed A word of caution. Don't want to sound like a smart a*se, but jealousy is not an attractive emotion and can pull people apart. Do not, let this girl get the better of you. Avoiding the situation is not a wise option. You will be forcing boyfriend to choose between his friends and you. Not wise. I know it will be incredibably difficult, but you need to put your favorite outfit on, spend time doing your make-up so you feel as attractive and as confident as you can. Put a smile on your face, hold your head high, and go along and be pleasant to everyone. Hide your feelings for her. Even offer to get her a drink or food or whatever. Take her by surprise. Either that or pretend, as much as you can without making it obvious that she isn't there. By reacting, you are adding fuel to the fire. And remember, as someone else said. It is you he goes home with love chips xx

 

[Lostris]

Hi lostris, sorry you're feeling stressed A word of caution. Don't want to sound like a smart a*se, but jealousy is not an attractive emotion and can pull people apart. Do not, let this girl get the better of you. Avoiding the situation is not a wise option. You will be forcing boyfriend to choose between his friends and you. Not wise. I know it will be incredibably difficult, but you need to put your favorite outfit on, spend time doing your make-up so you feel as attractive and as confident as you can. Put a smile on your face, hold your head high, and go along and be pleasant to everyone. Hide your feelings for her. Even offer to get her a drink or food or whatever. Take her by surprise. Either that or pretend, as much as you can without making it obvious that she isn't there. By reacting, you are adding fuel to the fire. And remember, as someone else said. It is you he goes home with love chips xx

Hi chips,

Thanks for the encouraging and wise words I definitely know jealousy is not an attractive emotion, and I know I do not want to force him to choose. When I say I would rather stay home, that means I really want him to go but do not really want to go myself because of her... I would be upset if he didnt go its just... i'd much rather he go without me if you know what I mean... It is just so hard being around her and I feel so insecure, I know boyfriend comes home with me, is in bed with me, loves me and kisses me but...
I always try to be nice to her, but its so hard. She is a lot more jealous of me I reckon, and I know she is not at all the type my boyfriend is attracted to. She is blonde, he likes dark hair, she is very bossy and not so much sweet etc.
Will try my best tomorrow, I willbe bringing diet foods of my own to eat so won't offer her any of that hahaha. But boyfriend will surely buy her a drink.
Xx

 

[sarahloub1]

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Breakfast. 2 wraps with cheese and chicken slices with chives, toasted. 13pp
Banana 0pp

Lunch:
No idea yet will add later

Dinner:
red cabbage ""pot"", with red cabbage and apple cooked together and pork sausages in it too and server with baked potatoes and (of course) some mayonaise lol 12pp

25/35 dailies so far
Earn 3 AP walking today
49/49 weeklies left.

that looks lush xxx

 

[Lostris]

that looks lush xxx

Thanks, its lovely I have had it for dinner a few times too. Very easy to make, just need cold wraps, cheese and/or meat/or veggies and a toaster and you just stick it in and it toasts haha.

 

[nikki299]

Hi, hope you are feeling better now and looking forward to queens day, don't let that girl spoil your day. If i was you i would either avoid her or if she says something nasty to you ask her why she treats you that way. I have a big mouth and would definately confront her!!! If you don't want to say anything maybe your bf could say something about her behaviour making him uncomfortable and ask her to stop it. Anyway i hope you are not going to stay at home and miss the fun.

I also love the toasted tortillas, thats what i had for breakfast on sunday but i do mine in a frying pan with a little frylight to toast them up!!! I must start adding pics to my posts but i'm not sure what the easiest way to do it. How do you add yours?

 

[sapphirestara]

I love your breakfasts! I hate normal breakfast foods- much prefer something savoury and not soggy like cereal! But this seems much more exciting!

 

[sapphirestara]

This girl sounds 100% vile. Why do women behave like this!?!? Blokes don't look at women who behave like that and think mmmm irresistible! They think yuk!!!!!! I can't believe that your other half even bothers working at a friendship with her. I think your best move is o carry on being your lovely self. There's no come back from it. I'd also feel a little sorry for her- she's clearly got nothing better to do then be nasty! X

 

[Atomic pink]

Hope you are feeling a bit better than yesterday. It sounds like you maybe need to feel a bit more confident about yourself, and then *some* of the comments and actions of this girl probably wouldn't get to you quite as much. OH clearly isn't interested, would it be possible for him to have a word with her about how her actions make him (and you) feel a bit uncomfortable? I am very much into honest social dialogue. If we don't tell people how their behaviour is making us feel we don't give them the opportunity to change it. Although I do suspect this would be better coming from OH than you. The other option is to be as nice as you possibly can be to her, makes it far more difficult for her to play her games

I agree about the breakfast - unsual breakfasts are awesome. Leftover pizza makes the best breakfast in the world, although that is not very diet friendly...

Looks like you are having a good week foodwise so far. The actifry chips look awesome

 

[Lostris]

Thanks for your support ladies xxxx

Hi, hope you are feeling better now and looking forward to queens day, don't let that girl spoil your day. If i was you i would either avoid her or if she says something nasty to you ask her why she treats you that way. I have a big mouth and would definately confront her!!! If you don't want to say anything maybe your bf could say something about her behaviour making him uncomfortable and ask her to stop it. Anyway i hope you are not going to stay at home and miss the fun.

I also love the toasted tortillas, thats what i had for breakfast on sunday but i do mine in a frying pan with a little frylight to toast them up!!! I must start adding pics to my posts but i'm not sure what the easiest way to do it. How do you add yours?

Hi Nikki,
I am feeling a bit better thanks, calmed down a bit. I was so upset I had a hard time sleeping to be honest and at 5:30AM the birds outside the house were chirping like craaazy. So annoying. I have told boyfriend again how I feel, we will talk about it tonight so I hope we can agree on some things and that he will pay extra attention to me tomorrow. I am sure he will to be honest, he isvery considerate. He said his ex girlfriend never liked this girl either, ha. I wonder why....... Not. We will see how it goes, maybe after I have been with bf for almost 4 years she will calm down... I am going, already agreed on that so that is good. I will also not have to start work on Wednesday till 11 so that means train at 9:30, decent time to just unwind and relax a bit fore work.

I put my tortilla wraps and all the stuff inside in a grill machine, no oil or fat. I also have a pan that does not need fat or cooking oil so I could make it in there too. Usually, I try to add veggies but we were out of tomatoes and I was hungry. 13pp is a lot of pp for breakfast, I guess, but 1 wrap and more fruit or a veggie salad would also be enough for breakfast.
to be honest, I am still struggling with photos. I have no idea why sometimes they show up in my post and sometimes they show up as attachment lol. I am on the forum on my iPad and I use my camera to take the picture and post it directly from the iPad on the forum, I use the picture button which is 3 to the left from the smiley one at the top in your post. Hope you willhave a great week

I love your breakfasts! I hate normal breakfast foods- much prefer something savoury and not soggy like cereal! But this seems much more exciting!

I have cereal sometimes but when I am home and have the time, I almost always cook my breakfast. I really preferit and it fills me up a lotttt more. The tortilla wraps are very easy to make, especially if you have a grill/toaster thing where you can put the wraps in flat. They are lovely. You can add any kind of veg you want, sausage you want, and I always use herb tortillas as I find the plain ones boring hahaha.

This girl sounds 100% vile. Why do women behave like this!?!? Blokes don't look at women who behave like that and think mmmm irresistible! They think yuk!!!!!! I can't believe that your other half even bothers working at a friendship with her. I think your best move is o carry on being your lovely self. There's no come back from it. I'd also feel a little sorry for her- she's clearly got nothing better to do then be nasty! X

Well, thats how I feel about her. Bf isnt interested at all because of how she acts, she is wayyy dominant too. Very unbecoming...
Bf has been friends with her for decades, lol, so I do understand that he would not like to lose the friendship. They are a group of 8 if I am not mistaken and they are really fun to hang out with minus of course lady b.tch there.
Yes, I reckon I will just put on comfy clothes, fix my hair and make up and have my claws around the bf all day while smiling at her. I think I should be able to do that. Hope you had a good day, will swing by your diary in a bit.

Hope you are feeling a bit better than yesterday. It sounds like you maybe need to feel a bit more confident about yourself, and then *some* of the comments and actions of this girl probably wouldn't get to you quite as much. OH clearly isn't interested, would it be possible for him to have a word with her about how her actions make him (and you) feel a bit uncomfortable? I am very much into honest social dialogue. If we don't tell people how their behaviour is making us feel we don't give them the opportunity to change it. Although I do suspect this would be better coming from OH than you. The other option is to be as nice as you possibly can be to her, makes it far more difficult for her to play her games

I agree about the breakfast - unsual breakfasts are awesome. Leftover pizza makes the best breakfast in the world, although that is not very diet friendly...

Looks like you are having a good week foodwise so far. The actifry chips look awesome

Thanks hun, am feeling better. Calmed down, mostly. Sometimes I can really have a moment where I cry and it doesnt stop. Usually involved also stuffing myface, whilst crying. I do need to feel more confident about myself, I just...dont really right now. I feel unattractive and fat and she emphasises that feeling just by being near me Sigh.

I think my bf actually already had a word with her once, and she did back off a bit. It is just such an uncomfortable situation, for him too I guess. He is stuck in the middle. I am much more for the, be as nice as possible thing, it is more me. Though I am burrrrning on the inside lol.... I get what you're saying but I honestly NEVER talk to her, she is so not appealing to me nd I really try to stay away. When it is us walking next to eachother its usually quiet..... :"")
I will see how it goes tomorrow, hope she just keeps her cool. She wants to come late anyway so I will have most of the morning, beginning afternoon with just me and bf and possible other friends.

I love unusual breakfasts, like I said cooked breakfasts are my fav whether its fish fingers, sausage, eggs, hash browns, pancakes, grilled cheese, tortilla.... Doesnt matter to me as long as it is nice and warm hihi.

Yes, the actifry chips are awesome. They just need 35min of cooking in there and they are nice and coloured hehehe. Hope you are having a lovely day xxx

 

[Lostris]

Heres my dinner, red cabbage with apple cooked in the fat of pork sausages that were later cut in pieces and added to the mix hehe. Oh and potatoes and mayonaise, of course

 

[Lostris]

Food today on Queens day
B: 2 light zero fat strawberry yoghurts from activia 3pp
Banana 0pp

L:
2 wraps with philadelphia light chives, chicken, tomato 15pp

D: ?? Depends on where we are, could be ham sandwich approx 9pp and Vietnamese springroll 5pp or could be bbq food..... Nervous about possible bbq hahah. Helloooooo points....

S:
Mango and banana 0pp

18/35 dailies without dinner
49/49 weeklies left
Will earn a lot of AP as will be walking all day... Not at fast pace so instead of 6hr walk I will put 3 or so.

 

[Mrsm79]

Food today on Queens day
B: 2 light zero fat strawberry yoghurts from activia 3pp
Banana 0pp

L:
2 wraps with philadelphia light chives, chicken, tomato 15pp

D: ?? Depends on where we are, could be ham sandwich approx 9pp and Vietnamese springroll 5pp or could be bbq food..... Nervous about possible bbq hahah. Helloooooo points....

S:
Mango and banana 0pp

18/35 dailies without dinner
49/49 weeklies left
Will earn a lot of AP as will be walking all day... Not at fast pace so instead of 6hr walk I will put 3 or so.

Happy queens day, I'll be thinking of you.
Have a fab time.

 

[sapphirestara]

You've got loads of leeway babe with points! Well done!

You can do it girl! Don't take any crap! X

 

[Lostris]

Happy queens day, I'll be thinking of you.
Have a fab time.

Thanks Tracy, I will think of you! Do you guys get the ceremonial part on TV? Queen abdicating and king stepping onto throne etc?

You've got loads of leeway babe with points! Well done!

You can do it girl! Don't take any crap! X

Thanks I just hope it doesnt cause too much damage ha-ha. Scales said minus 14kg total this morning so I am going to try and top that for Fri/Sat weigh in lol.

Have a good day xxx

 

[Mrsm79]

Thanks Tracy, I will think of you! Do you guys get the ceremonial part on TV? Queen abdicating and king stepping onto throne etc?

Thanks I just hope it doesnt cause too much damage ha-ha. Scales said minus 14kg total this morning so I am going to try and top that for Fri/Sat weigh in lol.

Have a good day xxx

No, I don't think so, I'll be able to find it somewhere on the net no doubt though. It's really really frustrating for me I've just seen some footage of dam square on the telly.

 

[sarahloub1]

enjoy Queens day xx

 

[chips with everything]

Hi lostris, hope you are having/have had ** a lovely day - ** please delete as appropriate
Happy Queens Day :queen: A bit late for advise, but barbecues can be good, I used to take my own fish in foil, or Quorn peppered steak to throw on. You do need to stand guard while it's cooking, preferably with a long sharp implement to stick in the back of someones hand when they try to steal your food ....... Lost 3lb this week, so 18½ in four weeks, so I am a happy bunny While browsing smilies I came across this one. It made me think of the female you were not much looking forward to spending time with today .... chips xx

 

[Lostris]

Hi all
Just a really quick msg, will respond to all of you tomorrow. Queens day was great, had a lovely time. I actually had a lot of pleasent convo with miss b.tch, she really really tried not to be annoying and touch my bf in inappropriate ways and I actually really respected that. it was hard for her and both me and bf could see that, she sorta avoided him a bit..
It was much better than anticipated I am very glad I went.

I had my allocaed wrap, though I ae 1 1/2 and nrot 2, yoghurt and mango banana. I calculated 3 hrs of walking in AP (was more like 8 but was slow so... Counted 3), was 13AP according to app. For dinner I spent 25pp so the stats are
35/35 dailies used
5/13 AP used
49/49 weeklies left

I always deduct from AP first so I can have some extra on days where I work out a lot or walk a lot in this case. I seem to be in the clear heheh. Very proud of myself for not going crazy @ bbq and going despie my reservations.

Hope you all had a great day, will reply to all tomorrow. Bedtime now xxxx