Miss Kassy Getting Sassy (Re-Start)

[Bella30]

Hi Girls

Sounds like you've all had good weekends.

Stacy, your party sounds brilliant, hope you had lots of fun!
Bin, hope you enjoyed seeing Bryan Adams - saw him on Xfactor and thought he was brill!
Viva, well done on your 2lb loss, that's great news! Keep up the good work!

I've had a very busy weekend going out and socialising and xmas shopping! (It's a hard life, ay!) Had a very busy day at work but it's going so quickly, think the run up to xmas is starting to creep up on me!

Hope you've all had a good day. Kassy, if you pop by, we'll be thinking of you tomorrow and big hugs to you.

Speak soon girls xxxxx

 

[stacy87]

Thinking of you Kassy ((hugs)) xx

How is everyone's diets going? (I don't like using that word!) I have been so bad! Think it's always worse at this time of year though!

Oh I've also decided I really need a new look! But I don't know where to start? Any ideas?? lol

Hope you all have a good week xx

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[Viva La Diva]

Hi gals !!!

Oooo....a new look Stacy87....are you going to change your hair ?? I am desperate to get mine cut again, as it's past my shoulders and driving me madddd !!! I always hesitate about bigger changes, etc, as I still fall into the fat girl's thinking trap about that. You know the one, where you tell yourself it doesn't matter what you change or wear.... You still look fat !! That's really hard to get out of your head sometimes, well it is for me !!!
I am planning to do the whole thing when I get down nearer target, a whole makeover, hair, makeup, personal shopper experience EXTRAVAGANZA !!!! Yay !!!

Diva x

 

[stacy87]

Yes change my hair too!! It's down to my waist now, so I need to do something with it!! lol I'm kind of in that mindset too, but I'm sick of always wearing jeans and t-shirts!! And I feel like not making an effort most of the time, but want that to change! xx

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[Viva La Diva]

Wow, super long hair !!! Just like I used to have !!! Down to my bum !!! Then chopped 12 inches off, and then went shorter....now longer....now....bored with it !!! Plus, I cannot find a decent hairdresser here, which adds to the frustration, hehe !!!

I don't know if I will ever get sick of wearing jeans, though as I wore the fat girl's uniform of giant tops and black leggings for years !!! Would like to wear more dresses, as I rarely do, especially in the Summer when it's scorchio here for like 5 months !!!

Diva x

 

[stacy87]

Yeah super long!!! lol I was the same - when it's short I want it long, and when it's long, I'm not happy either! lol

I have to admit I love my leggings, but only have a couple of tops to wear with them! I'd like more! Leggings are just so comfy! xx

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[bin59]

Thinking of you today Kassy x

A new look Stacy wahoo exciting. I used to have long hair had it all chopped off and now I grow it so far then it starts driving me mad as it looks awful so I chop it off again. Like you I seem to wear the same things I am always in jeans.

Diva a complete makeover I would love to have my make up done proffesionally rather than me slapping on the same old colours. Well done on the weight loss 2lb off brilliant.

Bella you seemed to have had a busy but fun weekend, Christmas is certainly creeping up on us pretty fast. When do you fo to S Africa bet you are getting really excited

Saw Bryan Adams last night he was really good he did a 2hr 30min set a fantastic night, loads of songs to sing along to, we got back to Portsmouth at just gone midnight had to wait until 1.30 for next ferry so got home about 2.45! Thats it for 2011 no more live bands to see,
have now got to wait until June for IOW festival unless I get tempted whilst looking on ticketmaster

Have taken most of this week off work only at work on Friday, have taken Sat off too as have footie to go to and it is early kick off.

Hope you all have a good Wednesday xx

 

[Miss_Kassy]

Hiya All

First off, thats for all your kind words and thoughts. It means alot.

I'm back but not quite me yet. Grandma had a lovley send off (as far as funerals go). Lots of people came to pay their respects. It was very religious though as she was a catholic. None of us kne what to do or say as none of the family are religious at all. Gran would have loved it. It really took it out of me emotionally though and and am really hurting for my mam also as it was her mam. It'll take a while before am back to the old me again.

I keep bursting out into tears, I cant sleep (or when I do sleep I have horriffick nightmares), I am binging and I feel really detached from everything. I bet I have put on half a stone in the last week ( I'm just gona take each day as it comes. Hopefully will start to cope better and better every day. Just got to remind myself Gran wouldnt want me to be depressed as she suffred wth that for years and hated every moment. Gonna get back on my det and to the gym on Monday. Gonna allaow myself to wallow a little while longer.

Stace - A new look will make you feel great. I think you should keep your hair long but still get quite a bit took off and some layers in it to give it some body and go really blonde. Pleased you had such a good time at that party. It sounded fab.

Diva - Good job on the loss. Keep at it. I used to wear leggings and tops all of the time too hahaha. I'm a lack pants and jeans gal most of the time now though but just recently re-introduced a pair of skinny jeans and am trying to start wearing heels more. Its a hard rut to get out of whe you have been in a comfort zone fo so long aint it.

Bin - How was Brian Adams??? Tell us al about it.

Bella - Hows you? You get much Xmas shopping done? I need to do all mine over the next 3 weeks.

Well all, I think I still want Little Mix to W8in X-Factor, although I do like them all the same. You are right though, no one eally stands out as amazing this year, although Amelia has done well considering she was out of the comp for so long.

Oh, forgot to mention, the weekend at the log cabin was bliss. I could easily live there. We just ate and drank like it was going out of fashion and snuggled up on the couch infornt of TV and fire and went to a few pubs, etc. There was some fab charity shops and I got another 2 jumpers and some jeans for £11.

My first day back to work today following the weekend away and te funeral and my head is not in the game at all. Cant wait till I perk up.

Well, better get back to it but will speak to you all soon xxxx

 

[bin59]

Big hugs Kassy, it is still early days you are bound to be upset just take each day at a time and it will get easier. You will always have the happy memories of the times you spent with her.

Glad you and the Adonis had a nice time at the log cabin it sounds lovely, very romantic

Bryan Adams was great Kassy second time I have seen him and both times he has put on a brilliant show. My eldest son came with me as Mr Bin does not like concerts much, so I am lucky that my son is quite happy to take his old Mum with him! Seen the Foo Fighters twice this year with him.
The line up is slowly being announced for next years Festival, Bruce Sringstein, Tom Petty, Pearl Jam, Elbow, Biffy Clyro, Madness, Noel Gallagher its looking good so far

Am back at work tomorrow, then am off on Saturday.

Hope you are all ok and have a good Friday x x

 

[Miss_Kassy]

Ah Bin, I love Foo Fighters. You sound like you are a right little raver going to all these concerts hehe. You cdan't beat the atmosphere wehn you are there though. I have been to a few - Creamfields, Bassement Jaxx, Rooster and Christina Augulera. I must start going to more. Would love to see Lady GaGa.

I'm feeling better still today. I will doas you say and take each day as it comes. And you are right, I have soooo many happy memories.

I think I will also feel a bit better when I start eating sensibly again as binging on junk just makes me workse in the long run.

We have a Xmas lunch to go to with work today so thats a good skive then will probally just get to go straight home after so the Adonis and I are going to go to the pub for a bottle of wine then go home and chill.

What are you all getting up to this weekend?
xxxxxxx

 

[Miss_Kassy]

Hi all

How has your weekend been?

I have been really really struggeling with my depression. I know its coz I am grieving and that has lead to binge eating which has resulting in a bit weight gain therefore low self esteem. I need to rty and pick myself up this week but if I cant it'll be a trip to the docs for me. Gotta tell myself my gran would hate me feeling like this so gotta pull myself round for her!!!!!!

I have been stuffing my face and gained a further 3lb this week. On Friday night the Adonis and I went to my mams for drinks and it was a good laugh but then he wanted to go out and I said I really didnt want to. When I feel low I avoid situations that could make me feel worse - thus dont go to the pub where lots of people are dolled up. But he kept asking and asking and I felt like a bad girlfriend if I didnt so I said if we go and I feel uncomfortable can we just come home and he said yes. Annyhoo, went out with no make up on and not dressed up or anything and I felt like crap. Really really uncomfortable so I said I wanted to go an he was being really arsey with me and it caused an argument. I have felt off with him all weekend now and keep focusing on little things that bug me and its making me feel really distant. We are okay now in a way but i feel a bit detached now. I'm hoping once I get over this tough patch things will feel 'normal' with us again. My head really is all over at the mo.

Annyhoo, how is everyone getting on for Xmas? Not long now. I am gonna try be dead good and get back to the gym for the next 2 weeks then have 1 week off. Still gonna try go to gym between xmas and new year though coz I keep paying for my membership and never hardly go and I hate wasting money.

Anyone got any good gosspit to take my mind off things?

What did you all think of X Factor? I was sooooo pleased Little Mix won. I wish I put a bet on them as I said from the start I thought they were fab. Pleased Marcus came 2nd though. Now what are we going to watch on a Saturday night? hehehe.

Well, better get to wor but hope to hear from you all soon. Could no with a bit girly goss xxxxxx

 

[Viva La Diva]

Kassy.... We have missed you...all the feelings you are experiencing are completely normal, it's just going to take time....though I know it's not much comfort hearing that, eh ?? They say there are different stages of grief we go through and this is very true, and we do take it out on our nearest and dearest.....
I know I did when I lost a parent suddenly a couple of years ago. Don't bottle up your feelings hun, talk to the Adonis, and if you need some medical support for your depression, seek out the help.... Big hugs, hun, you will get through this...

Diva x

 

[Miss_Kassy]

Thanks Diva, its good to know that I am feeling the same way anoy one else would. I think becuase this is the first person I have lost I wasnt sure how I would feel or supposed to feel, so your words mean alot.

If I am still this emotional next week i'll seek further help, but I think I must just be going throyugh the stages like you say.

I have tried telling him how I feel but whenever I talk I cry and I bet he is sick of seeing me cry. He really doesnt understand depression which comes over me every now and then. But I'll drag myself out, I always do.

I'm hoping if I can re-focus back on my diet and exercise it will help, as the binge eating I done to help me cope with grandma's death has left me feeling more anxious than anything else and lowered my self esteem. One day at a time though but I think i'll get there soon.

Thanks again Diva. So pleased you are all here to vent to xxxxx

 

[elm]

I hope it starts getting better for you, love! I'm sorry that you have so much going on.

 

[bin59]

Hi Kassy,
Big hugs, talking is a great help if you feel you can not talk things over with the Adonis ( I agree with Diva we do take it out on our nearest and dearest) have you a friend who is a good listner, just some one who you can rattle off to, if not we are always around to listen.
Some times I think partners feel helpless because they can see we are hurting and they want to help but do not know how.
You can not hurry grief it is a natural process that takes time so take each day as it comes, in time it does become easier. Go and see your doc about the depression.
One day at a time Kassy. We are all here for you.
Hugs xx

 

[Miss_Kassy]

Well girls am feeling better still today which means I am on the way up again. I have loads of friends to talk to but my problem is, when I am really down, I cut myself off from people and I go very quiet and dont want to speak to or see anyone. But now I am feeling a bit bgetter I am off to one of the lasses houses on Friday for a good natter. We'll put the world to rights. Its great having you all here though as when I cant face people I can always face the computer and thrash away at the keyboard and have you all to put my head right

I gt back to the gym last night and feel better for it and was really good on my diet. Hope I can keep it up xxxxx

 

[Miss_Kassy]

Morning all

Hows everyone? Have you all had snow yet? Its du here any day I recon.

Well, I have been good for 3 full days and been to the gym every day so am feeling perkier but sill not quite myself. But slowley does it!

We break up for Xmas next Thursday. I cant wait. So i'll probally not be online for the 2 weeks over xmas and new year as I dont have a laptop but promise to come back in the new year, just incase you start to wonder where I have gone.

Have you all got much planned this weekend?

What are your fave holiday films? Random question I know, just like the crack. I love Elf and Gremlins and Home Alone.

Well, btter go do some work. Hope to hear from yous soon xxx

 

[bin59]

Hi Kassy, glad you are feeling a bit better, as you say slowly does it.

We do not get much snow down here last winter was the first time my two sons had sledged they are 21 and 25!! Mind you they had great time

This Sunday me and Mr Bin are going to Portsmouth to see footie can not wait as the atmosphere is electric at these local derbies. We have to get coach from Southampton and get our match tickets once on coach, there are around 50 coaches going all with police escort as they do not want any trouble. Just hope we win

I finish work lunchtime christmas eve and go back 30th and 31st then off untill 3rd.
I have got 8 for christmas day 2 sons, mum and dad inlaw and my parents.

Spend quite a lot of time at my mums helping her with my dad, I go over on my days off to wash and dress him, which gives her a bit of a break and she can go shopping or play bowls just a bit of time to herself. He had another small fit the other day so have upped his pills.

Favourite holiday films I like Polar Express and I know it is an old one but I do like White Christmas reminds me of Christmases when I was little.

Hello everyone hope you are all ok xx

 

[Miss_Kassy]

Morning Bin

I dont think I have ever seen those films. Will have to look out for them.

Have a fab time at the match, sounds like the atmosphere will be buzzing. Do you think there will be much trouble?

Bet you cant wait to get finished wiork for a few days off? Cant believe yous hardly get snow. Its great at first but after a while we get sick of it haha. Especially when it turns to hard ice and slush. Yuck!

Thats wonderful of you helping out and giving your mam some respite. You should speak to some charities as they will offer respite holidays and breaks away. I know our charity does, but you have to be an ex-miner.

ounds like you ging to have your hands full xmas day but I bet it is a brill day with all the family togeather. I am spending mine with the Adonis's family this year then mine next year.

Ive still been good on my diet (bar a few cheeky sweets) and been to the gym 4 days in a row now and am even gonna go tonight. I am determined to really get into the swing of it.

I'm still not 100% with the Adonis. I still keep focusing on negatives. My head is swimming with my own speached most of the time and what he's doing wrong, etc, etc. Is this still part of the grieving process do you think? Also, I keep getting horrible thoughts about something happening to my cats and I get myeslf really upset. Is this normal? My mind just wont seem to calm dowm. I think its what is giving me the drive to go to they gym as it helps me zone out!

Annyhoo, speak to you's soon xxxx

 

[Miss_Kassy]

Hiya girls

I have some amazing news but no one on here anymore to share with but in the hope that you are all just busy with Xmas and will b back soon here it is....

The Adonis has proposed to me hehehehehe. I aught me the most beautiul ring and was going to ask me at the cabin but when my gran died he thought the timing was wrong. So he was going to do it Xmas eve but done it on Saturday night after we got home from the pub. I said yes of course. I totally relise I have been taking my grief out on him and totally underestimated him. I have been on his back about numerous things latley and I think he thought I thought he didnt love me as much as he does. So he couldnt hold out any more and popped the question on Sat. He has had the ring hid for the last 5 weeks hehehe. So am very happy today.

Also, I lost 3lb last week. yey.

How are the rest of you? xxxx