Hi Cheesegirl,
Illa is pregant and fighting morning sickness and so has not been on the forum much.
MrsPayne212 and I started a co Beck Silver Diary and are posting our ARCS (avantages response cards and thoughts about cognitive behaviourial therapy) in it.
I went back to CD (seriously) and have had a good first week -- I lost 4 pounds and am now back to what I weighed at the end of August. I am 9 pounds from my 2011 low weight -- I'd love to see that before New Years' Eve but it is unlikely. I have my official weigh-in on Tuesday.
I had my own breast cancer scare in 2009 -- the process went on for months (mammos, referrals, ultrasound, a mammatone biopsy, a surgical biopsy -- and conclusion that I had a condition that is not cancer per se, but indicates that I am at a higher risk to have cancer. My mother has had breast cancer. So, I have an annual follow-up and am on an American "tumour registry".
The hair thing is extreme... I have heard of some loss, but I was told that it was because on a VLCD you so not shed, so when you start to refeed you lose what would have, but that it stops fairly quickly. I hope yours does soon.
I wish I could give you some support with the BF, but I am rather hardcore with toxic relastionships. I would walk -- but I am not you.
I hope you are well -- and am glad you are back.