. MY LIGHTERLIFE LIFE.

Argh! You so have to leave him with the kids all day and night!!!!!!! Bloody men who think it's easy!!!!

Go to the gym, you deserve to go to the gym, you'll get those endorphins racing and you'll feel fab. In fact I recommend you go to the gym before you go out on Saturday too ;)

Kath xx

U go sista!!!!!!!! LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!

*does a wiggly head movement to emphasise this!*
 
Ohh, methinks thats the real problem!!!! U can not longer be mentally pushed about - and he's scared that u will trade him in for a new model! At the end of the day, as callous as this sounds, it's his problem! He will have to deal with u losing the weight and inturn he'll have to learn to respect u more than he does.

*get off soapbox" - sorry, I just hate it when men think that women don't have a life too ~grr!~

Bigs hugs, chelle xx

Your right chell,I want to go to college and I know he hates that idea too.
I need to go out occassionally and I feel I need a life.He said he'd be happy watching a film everynight?
XXC
 
Your right chell,I want to go to college and I know he hates that idea too.
I need to go out occassionally and I feel I need a life.He said he'd be happy watching a film everynight?
XXC

God what a shame you don't live in Birmingham - you could come out with me, we could've even done a college course together!

Don't let anyone stop you doing what you want matey xxx
 
Your right chell,I want to go to college and I know he hates that idea too.
I need to go out occassionally and I feel I need a life.He said he'd be happy watching a film everynight?
XXC

WHAT????????????????!!!!!!!!
OMG!!!!!!! Is he a control freak??????????
*and breathe!*

Seriously hun, please please know that u're worth more than this!!!!! This 'man' cannot control ur life for u babe!!! If u want to go college, be pro-activ and u go hun!!!
If this means sacrificing ur relationship for hun to get a life, then maybe it's a call u may have to take.
Oh hun!

xx
 
WHAT????????????????!!!!!!!!
OMG!!!!!!! Is he a control freak??????????
*and breathe!*

Seriously hun, please please know that u're worth more than this!!!!! This 'man' cannot control ur life for u babe!!! If u want to go college, be pro-activ and u go hun!!!
If this means sacrificing ur relationship for hun to get a life, then maybe it's a call u may have to take.
Oh hun!

xx

Oh that's what I wanted to say but didn't know how! So - ditto what she said :)
 
WHAT????????????????!!!!!!!!
OMG!!!!!!! Is he a control freak??????????
*and breathe!*

Seriously hun, please please know that u're worth more than this!!!!! This 'man' cannot control ur life for u babe!!! If u want to go college, be pro-activ and u go hun!!!
If this means sacrificing ur relationship for hun to get a life, then maybe it's a call u may have to take.
Oh hun!

xx

He is a control freak,Ive said that too him lots of times he says hes not.I will go to college when babe can speak properly which will be in the next 6 months,that gets my weight off and my self confidence back.
he doesnt like it because I tell it to him how it is,he usually finishes with girlfriends who ''nag'' as he puts it,in other words ladies who have a mind of theyre own he dumps!I asked if the 2 ladies he spent the longest with before me ever ''nagged'' as he puts it he said no????????? they were happy and didnt need :confused: But i have found lots out since aboutthe relationships!
I need to get my life in order before I take the next step.
XXC
 
*does wiggly head movement too for extra emphasis* :D :D
LMAO!!!!!!!!!! Thanks god I wasn't drinking coffee otherwise it would have been another 'coffee all over the keyboard' moment - and then explaining to Hubby why I'm on for buying my 5th keyboard in 10 months LOL!

Oh that's what I wanted to say but didn't know how! So - ditto what she said :)

Ohh I really get a bee in my bonnet about stuff like this. My ex bf was a control freak - he didn't want to be with me, but didn't want anyone else too. He'd always critise me and once, when we were having sex, mid way he stopped, grabbed hold of my belly and said "u could do with losing this!" I was mortified, but felt 'grateful' for his 'love'
I realised a few yrs ago that I wasn't that big and he was a knob (minus the k) :)
 
You see I know he is a control freak,but I know thats how he grew up as his Dad is a big one.............fallen out with everyone!My Oh will do alot for me but we know what its like if we have grown up in a certain way,like I did with food issues and acholo it stays with us until we can see how it effects our lives now,until we can admit its a problem in our lives now like many of us here have,he hasnt seen that it is a problem in his life 'YET' and cant se how controling he is and he may never,I choose to stay with him as I love him as do the children,hes never once said anything nasty about my weight,but I know if he stays the way he is then I will eventually go~~or maybe he will as Im very head strong for him.When I left my ex-alcoholic husband I swore to myself |i wouldnt let another man walk all over me,I have with him abit I know but now I open my mouth when I see a problem ,of which he says he'll never Marry me until I stop tjis..............so we never marry,We never have arguments as he wont but I do make sure I tell him whats whats and he does listern at times as hes changed.................house work etc.
I know I look weak staying with him But I do love him and for now this is where i'll be,but I need a life and the kids are growing up and I will change it .
Thanks
XXC
 
Hi Hun,
Please don't think I'm saying u're weak - u most certainly are not! I hope I haven't upset u as this was never my intention at all. It's soo easy to look in on someone elses life and judge but I do understand as I've had abusive partners in the past and it wasn't until i realised that I'm worth more than that that I actually walked away - but that took a long time.
At the end of the day, it's ur life and u have to do whats best for u - doesn't matter what anyone else says or does but what u feel is right for u.
Like u said, we all imitate behaviour we've grown up with & he hasn't dealt with his yet - but I'm sure with ur love and understanding that he will get to that point.

I really really hope I've not upset u hun and if I have I cannot apologise enough :(

Much love, chelle xx
 
Hi Hun,
Please don't think I'm saying u're weak - u most certainly are not! I hope I haven't upset u as this was never my intention at all. It's soo easy to look in on someone elses life and judge but I do understand as I've had abusive partners in the past and it wasn't until i realised that I'm worth more than that that I actually walked away - but that took a long time.
At the end of the day, it's ur life and u have to do whats best for u - doesn't matter what anyone else says or does but what u feel is right for u.
Like u said, we all imitate behaviour we've grown up with & he hasn't dealt with his yet - but I'm sure with ur love and understanding that he will get to that point.

I really really hope I've not upset u hun and if I have I cannot apologise enough :(

Much love, chelle xx

Hi Hun you havent upst me ,Im a tough cookie,more than anything I look at my life in someone aelses eyes and think why stay????I believe if we stay together he will grow up and adapt to being a parent,he has changed alot in 3 1/2 years and I believe we met people in our lives for a reason,certain people we are close to I feel are given to us for a reason to help one another?I love him but I make him cross,I know he hasnt meet anyone who before gives him the honest truth like I do.
He adores his child and I feel he would have gone ages ago if we never had her as what I say hurts him at times a sthe turuth always does.
I think I will get to a point that I will give up and just make myine and my kids lifes stable for maybe us to go it alone.
I love him nbut love can be pushed,I will see.Maybe he will leave me 1st,only time will tell.
I thankyou for your support and I dont mind what people say to me as I have never been upset by anyone here honesty is the best policy
So thankyou HUN XXC
 
DAY 48

Hello
Day 48 I woke up today really tired I must drink that water ,Its cold and I dont like drinking it hot or warm so its a struggle,I have areobics tonight and I need to do 4 litres before I go or I know i'll be ill tomorrow :( I cant believe I am on DAY 48 without cheating once,its a hard diet and Ive come close so many times but I am pleased I havent cheat (YET)..............I just wish I was at goal after my 100 days as I would like to go straight into management but I know I wont be,I dont think I really want to do ssing for another 4-5 weeks after foundation but i'll see how I feel when I get there....................
XXC
 
DAY 48

Hello
Day 48 I woke up today really tired I must drink that water ,Its cold and I dont like drinking it hot or warm so its a struggle,I have areobics tonight and I need to do 4 litres before I go or I know i'll be ill tomorrow :( I cant believe I am on DAY 48 without cheating once,its a hard diet and Ive come close so many times but I am pleased I havent cheated (YET)..............I just wish I was at goal after my 100 days as I would like to go straight into management but I know I wont be,I dont think I really want to do ssing for another 4-5 weeks after foundation but i'll see how I feel when I get there....................
XXC
 
Hello
Day 48 I woke up today really tired I must drink that water ,Its cold and I dont like drinking it hot or warm so its a struggle,I have areobics tonight and I need to do 4 litres before I go or I know i'll be ill tomorrow :( I cant believe I am on DAY 48 without cheating once,its a hard diet and Ive come close so many times but I am pleased I havent cheated (YET)..............I just wish I was at goal after my 100 days as I would like to go straight into management but I know I wont be,I dont think I really want to do ssing for another 4-5 weeks after foundation but i'll see how I feel when I get there....................
XXC

Hello :)

Do you put your water in litre bottles? I find it a lot easier to drink if I leave it at room temperature and then just sit down with a litre bottle, soon neck it then without thinking about it :)

Day 48 - woohoooo! That is amazing, you are a model lighter lifer ;)

Don't think about what you'll do after your 100 days - concentrate on getting to that goal and then reassess when you get there.

Keep going chick, you're doing brilliantly, a real inspiration :)

Kath xxx
 
Hello :)

Do you put your water in litre bottles? I find it a lot easier to drink if I leave it at room temperature and then just sit down with a litre bottle, soon neck it then without thinking about it :)

Day 48 - woohoooo! That is amazing, you are a model lighter lifer ;)

Don't think about what you'll do after your 100 days - concentrate on getting to that goal and then reassess when you get there.

Keep going chick, you're doing brilliantly, a real inspiration :)

Kath xxx
hI kATH
The water is a problem for me but today im trying something new!
1 pint of water every hour from 8am to 8pm except tonight i stop at 4 to weigh-in so 9 pints of water by 4pm is 4 1/2 litres so that is a better way Im hoping????yes I have to drink it at room temp unless im exercising i like it colddddddd :D
Yes Day 50 tomorrow :D fab feels like day 500 ;) ha!
I am not going out sat and i went to aerobics last night and im going again tomorrow :D and Im also going back to the Gym Monday so that great for me :)
Thanks Kath XXHOW ARE YOU SUPPPPPPPPPER i EXPECT WITH A FAB WEIGHT-LOSS !! WELL DONE xxxxxxxxx C
 
I've never been very good or reliable about drinking my water and I think that's one of the problems with me not losing the weight this time.

I like your every hour suggestion .... and just went to the kitchen to top up my pint glass. Will set an hourly alarm on my mobile to remind me .... no doubt I'll be in the loo every time it goes off!!!
 
I've never been very good or reliable about drinking my water and I think that's one of the problems with me not losing the weight this time.

I like your every hour suggestion .... and just went to the kitchen to top up my pint glass. Will set an hourly alarm on my mobile to remind me .... no doubt I'll be in the loo every time it goes off!!!


LOL yes i get peed off :rolleyes: lol poping to the loo.........I must go now actually and get my next pint
CHEERS flirty I know what you mean about slow losses and not drinking mine are good but not fab and i also feel its the lack of water..........BUT HEY WE CAN DO THIS NEXT PINT COMING UP........How you doing today??
XXC
 
LOL yes i get peed off :rolleyes: lol poping to the loo.........I must go now actually and get my next pint
CHEERS flirty I know what you mean about slow losses and not drinking mine are good but not fab and i also feel its the lack of water..........BUT HEY WE CAN DO THIS NEXT PINT COMING UP........How you doing today??
XXC

Back on day 1 .... but hopefully now I have support from on here - actually going to do something positive this time and get somewhere!!!
And I'm determined to get this blasted H2O down my neck! Think the water company will wonder why my meter reading has gone sky high what with the water from the tap plus the extra flushing of the loo!
 
Back on day 1 .... but hopefully now I have support from on here - actually going to do something positive this time and get somewhere!!!
And I'm determined to get this blasted H2O down my neck! Think the water company will wonder why my meter reading has gone sky high what with the water from the tap plus the extra flushing of the loo!

I lost nearly 3 stone on Cd last year and had a night off and for 8 months I couldnt get back on track after day 2 it was hard,but I regained all the weigh +5lbs :mad: :( and I have now got back on track day 49.......its tough and I take it a moment at a time,Please just see today as a new start as if you havent done it before and remember everyone here knows how you feel,we are only human and I think us women and our hormones have it tough
((((hugs)))) you can do this.......we can do this and that water is the key another pint soon :eek:
XXC
 
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