Maypole - Congratulations! Now some advice on how to deal with your friend... Don't text or email (as it can seem impersonal) but send a hand-written note. Tell her that you know what she has been through (don't say that you 'understand' as that could upset her - we're a fragile lot!) but that you have some news to tell her which will probably upset her. Then tell her that you were lucky to get pregnant. Then say that you will understand if she needs to put some space between you both but tell her that if she ever needs to talk about what SHE is going through, you will be there. Don't tell her anything about your pregnancy (such as how far along you are, any pains or niggles, morning sickness etc), unless she asks. Even if she does ask, try to tone down your natural excitement and giddyness at eventually being pregnant. She might be asking to be a good friend to you, whilst inside it's killing her that it's you and not her. If she wants to contact you for some support, suggest emailing (that way she won't have to see you getting bigger - unless of course she asks for a face to face). Don't try telling her face to face that you're pregnant. She might say hurtful things because she's jealous and miserable and so sick of the expense, pain and disappointment of numerous rounds of IVF that she might just verbally lash out. She might call you selfish for getting pregnant (I know! As I said before we're a fragile lot!) as even though she wouldn't wish infertility on anyone, she might have been hoping that she would have a long-term friend, who was on the same journey and who could sympathise completely. Remember the disappointment that you felt the first time that IVF didn't work - now remember that she's been through this SIX times. This will have been the centre of her life for nearly two years (and that doesn't include all the time before treatment started). Remember that you are a good friend for being so thoughtful. Children are a blessing and you should be happy and enjoy your pregnancy as best you can!! Everyone on here is really pleased to have another addition to the 'Pregnancy and Slimming World' forum. I think it's time for an updated 'Who's next?' list!!!! Sorry if any of this upsets anyone. No offence is intended.
feels very surreal doesn't it? hope your scan goes well next week. It's a tough one with your friend for you, probably best to tell her as soon as possible, maybe after your scan?
