Sick of carrying 2 hitch hikers about, so this is my diary

Hi everyone,
Well I have good news and bad news...good news Kirsty and I had a real heart to heart today, I told her everything about how I felt, how I was upset as I felt she wanted me to go against my morals and I nearly did, how I thought she was being unfair to Mark in saying she will give it a go etc etc, we actually talked for the last 4 hours, can't remember a time when we did that before and I think we are back on track, told her I love her and her sister to bits and always will that they are my life, my babies, but as much as I do love them and would do anything for them, I don't always like them or what they do and I will not go against my principals and morals for anything or anybody, told her I had talked to you guys and told her the advice you had all given and then told her that if when she has her children they go through similar things that she will undoubtedly give them the same advice or at least i hope she would. So I am happy with that....
The bad news is ....she has given me her gastroenteritis, I have been throwing up and sitting on loo on and off since 6am ...my tummy is killing me...good news there is I have lost 5lbs according to my scales, cos of the psoriasis and the steroids my immune system doesn't work so well, so when there is anything going around I am nearly always one of the first to get it...I know what I have lost today is a false weight loss, I can't even keep water down right now and it has taken me 3 attempts to type this while running to the loo and back lol....hopefully I will be back on track shortly and back to myself too and all these troubles will be behind me. I just really hope that I am well enough for hospital on Wednesday as I really need to see her and I know if I cancel it will be another month before i'll get to see her again so :fingerscrossed: xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
JaneB said:
Hi Lily. sorry to hear your daughter and her boyfriend are having more problems and you are in the middle, I had a disagreement with my mum 25yrs ago and still haven't spoken, don't let it get to you and make you ill, sending a big:bighug: wish you were my mum. xx
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Aww sweetie what a lovely thing to say thank you so much and sorry to hear about you and your Mum, I too had the same thing happen, I stopped speaking to my mum in 1982 and she passed away in 2009, I don't have any regrets about how that panned out, but I do make sure I am there for my girls no matter what xxxxxx

Like I said we had a big long chat today, she instigated it, which I am pleased about, and funny thing is I knew if she spoke to me alone without her dad or sister as back up that she would actually listen to me and realise I was on her side totally but that she needed to do what was right for both her and Mark and she couldn't keep playing with his emotions...but like I said last night it's now down to them to sort themselves out xxx
 
:bighug: Get well soon
 
Good news that you had a proper heart to heart with Kirsty, bad news about catching her germies :bighug:I think you're due a holiday!


Hope your loo is comfy ;) See you when you're able to sit at the comp xxx

PS - decided on the spanish orange cake to take to the caravan, looking forward to it :)
 
Aww Lily,

Glad you had a sit down with your daughter.

We always know Mums are always right in the end! Lol :)

Hope things work out for your daughter, which every path she takes in her life.

Marriage break ups are terrible... I got divorced at 27. My parents were still together, infact I was the first divorce in my WHOLE family. Infact.. I still am! Lol

Remarried now and parents LOVE Mr Sugar. Things always work out eventually.

Xxxx

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Look after yourself lily. Do you have any Asian shops near you? If you do, ask for 'isabgol' it'll sort your tummy out in a few hours. It's a husk that you take with some water- just a tablespoon full, put it in your mouth and swallow it with some water And it sorts out any diarrhoea or constipation.. X
 
tillymax said:
:bighug: Get well soon
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Thanks hun, feeling like I've been given a good kickin' but I do feel a lot better, managed a couple of slices of dry toast and a thin scraping of bovril a couple of hours ago and that seems to have settled my tummy a bit, just having a glass of water and I am off to bed xxxx

LoChan1984 said:
Good news that you had a proper heart to heart with Kirsty, bad news about catching her germies :bighug:I think you're due a holiday!


Hope your loo is comfy ;) See you when you're able to sit at the comp xxx

PS - decided on the spanish orange cake to take to the caravan, looking forward to it :)
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Hey Lo, I am really glad I had the chat with her and happier that she instigated it, shows she wants to make up and clear the air, maybe she is growing up after all.
Lol I am doing ok-ish right now, have slept quite a bit today, didn't really get out of bed other than for loo until Mal came in at about 4 ish...hope I feel well enough to go to wi tomorrow, could be a good week :giggle:
Love the spanish orange cake, have made it with lemon too and drizzled a tiny bit of icing sugar over the top instead of the sauce and it was really nice too, hope you and yours like it as much as we do xxxxxxx

*SugarPlum* said:
Aww Lily,

Glad you had a sit down with your daughter.

We always know Mums are always right in the end! Lol :)

Hope things work out for your daughter, which every path she takes in her life.

Marriage break ups are terrible... I got divorced at 27. My parents were still together, infact I was the first divorce in my WHOLE family. Infact.. I still am! Lol

Remarried now and parents LOVE Mr Sugar. Things always work out eventually.

Xxxx

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Hi Sugar,
I'm not so sure I'm always right, but I do have my principles and I do tend to stick to them and as far as I am concerned if my kids apply them to their kids when they get older (or in Kirsty's case when she has them), I don't think they can go far wrong...all I want my girls to know is that I love them and support them but I won't stand by and allow them to treat someone badly.
I am pleased you have married well now and that you are happy, I do believe that Kirsty will be happy whether she stays with mark or not but like I said she must realise you can't treat people like that and play with their emotions, it's just not right xxxx

Roziee said:
Look after yourself lily. Do you have any Asian shops near you? If you do, ask for 'isabgol' it'll sort your tummy out in a few hours. It's a husk that you take with some water- just a tablespoon full, put it in your mouth and swallow it with some water And it sorts out any diarrhoea or constipation.. X
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I'm not sure what shops we have near us...nothing on our immediate parade of shops but got a couple of other little parades of shops a few minutes walk away so might get Mal to have a look for me ...if not their are a few good places in Kingsbury and that's not that far from us...thanks for letting em know about it hun xxxxx

JackieN said:
Awwwww Lily :bighug:s so sorry to hear you are so poorly sweetie :bighug:

Glad you had a heart to heart with Kirsty :D you are a good un you are and i'm proud to call you my twin :D :D:D:D:D:D xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Thank you sweetie, I am sick of this bug thing...I am nearly always the first to come down with any bugs going about, unfortunately not having a working immune system due to 40+ years of steroids I am open to everything and often get it ...still I am kinda used to it now lol
I'm really pleased Kirsty wanted to clear the air, feels like I have her back ...it really upset me last week how she didn't want to listen to me ...in hindsight maybe that's because she didn't want to hear the truth..who knows...anyway as I said it's now down to them...I am more concerned with my foot it's the worst it's ever been very painful and very very sore .
Aww you're a good un too my lovely twin and I am really glad to have gotten to know you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
Hiya Iron Lady how are you this morning :bighug:
sorry I'm quiet at the moment, just so much going on and not enough hours in the day, but remember I am always here if you need me :D abit like nanny mcphee warts an all :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:

I always get most bugs going, always have, so does Charlie bless her, shes like her mum poor girl. She was so upset this morning Lily and none of my words of wisdom are helping her leaving me each morning. I can see operation nasty mum will have to commence so she doesn't want to stay with me :8855: I even told her that ,,, her reply 'but you will always be the bestest no matter what because I love you' :cry: what on earth does one do with a child like this :rolleyes: answer for everything that one.

Hope today is a better day and it was a 24 hr bug sweetie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
Hi sweetie, I feel like cr*p this morning, tummy feels like it's a washing machine, gurgling like mad and feel icky, was on loo half the night again, seems the toast I had didn't like being in there lol...was awake till about 6.30am as my foot was going mad, woke the house up at just gone 4, was trying to sort my foot out as it has one massive pustule on the bottom and is so sore and painful, looked up and there was a massive spider running towards me, I screamed at the top of my lungs lol...Mal and Kirsty both came running to see what the matter was, Kirsty immediately turned tail and ran in the other direction, as did Mal to get his glasses cos he couldn't see it...HOW THE HELL DIDN'T HE SEE IT :giggle: it was a good few inches across, looked like a bloody elephant to me ....I think my scream scared it though cos it stopped dead in it's tracks and never moved again till Mal got it....*shudder*...I really wish I was braver but I just can't bare spiders...when I was 11 my brothers found a massive one in an old piano we had that they were breaking up and thought it would be hilarious to chase me all over the house with it, I remember my mother saying until then I hadn't been particularly frightened of them, seems I need to give my brothers a bit of payback :8855:
Ah Charlie, bless her, have the school said what she's like after you've left her? A friend of my daughters little girl used to do the same as Charlie, put her mum through hell, but it seems she was always ok not long after her mum left and only ever started up once her mum was about and could actually see her....I saw this for myself in the summer on sports day, every time her mum was close by she was in floods of tears, but as soon a her mum was out of sight and not expected to be around she was laughing and giggling with the other kids, maybe you feel worse than she does in the long run. I think you're going to just have to persevere and try and ignore her as it were and explain that if she doesn't go to school Mummy and Daddy could go to prison and then you wouldn't be there for hugs and cuddles after she had been a brave girl and gone to school, I know she's only young but I was always honest with my kids as soon as they could speak and understand...you never know, I do hope it gets better hunni, but the bright side is she absolutely adores you, obviously.
Just had a text from Terry he has decided not to go to SW any more as he can't behave at weekends but still wants me to help him, told him when he's ready to help himself that's when I'll be ready to help him, had to be cruel to be kind me thinks.
Well I am hoping to go and weigh in tonight, will see how I feel, either way I am going to have to strap my foot up, had me in tears most of the night it's so bad...I am so sick of it, just wish it would clear up and go away, wouldn't worry about anywhere else other than my feet, as much as I hate it on my hands I can cope with that...maybe they should just shoot me and be done with it lol
Anyway have a good day sweetie, catch you later xxxxxxxx
 
Good to see you've still got your sense of homour. I nearly wet myself at the spider story :8855:

You've had a lot going on and you said yourself that stress doesn't help your skin, and then you've been ill and are probably run down so it's not suprising you're feet are bad. Is it tomorrow you're seeing the specialist? I hope he can do something to make them less painful.

Get well soon and this time stay well cos we miss you :bighug:
 
Awwww Lilly,

I hope your feeling better soon!

The spider story made me giggle, I think I would have just died on the spot!!

My Hubby would have been useless, he is as scared as me!!

We have to get the Dyson out and Hoover the monsters away!!!

Hope you have a good WI, of your well enough to get there. Xxxx

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Hi everyone, I did get to wi, strapped my foot up tight with loads of padding, was a real task as the pustules are right from my heel to my toes and soooo sore, I nearly fell over a few times but Kirsty helped me like the old cripple I am into group and Mal helped me get out. It's the worst I ever remember it being, I am hoping to get to my appointment tomorrow but if it's as bad in the morning I will have to cancel as dermatology dept is up a flight of stairs (no lifts) then across a huge waiting room and right the way to the bottom of a long corridor...I really struggled tonight to get out of the car and walk about 15 steps before I almost collapsed. Oh and before I even get to the flight of stairs in the dermatology dept, there are about 6 steps up to the entrance, Mal said about getting a wheelchair when we get there but unless anyone is strong enough to bump a 19.5st woman up 6 high steps I think not ...Just hope it improves enough by the morning for me to get there :fingerscrossed:, so going to go put my foot up and see if that helps, I know these are laptops but I've never been able to use it on my lap so will hopefully catch you all tomorrow xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh I nearly forgot ...:d'oh: I lost 2lb tonight even with wearing heavy strapping to my foot and my slippers, which I have just weighed and they weigh 1.5lbs ...so I already have a head start on next weeks weigh in (assuming my foot is back to normal by then, usually takes about 5 days )...not going to gain that 1.5lb darn it lol...so with the 2lb I said I am going for at group tonight, hopefully I will have lost 3.5lb next week...we'll see lol xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
aw lily so sorry to hear about your foot troubles. really hope it clears up soon.
well done on your loss you superstar!
off to have a proper catch up xx
 
Well done Lily on your weight loss, hope your foot is ok for your appointment tomorrow and it clears up soon. xx
 
Morning Lily - hope there's been some improvement in your poor foot today and that you can make it to the much needed dermatologist appointment :( They need to sort you out!

Well done on the 2lb - you're not too far off the 30s on your BMI points now either! How far until the next shiny? xxx
 
Morning everyone,
I didn't make it to my appointment this morning, was awake till gone 6 again with the pain and soreness of my foot...phoned the hospital and actually got to speak to my consultant, she asked me to email a picture of my foot to her so that she can study it and have a think before my next appointment on 23rd November. I am gutted I couldn't go but I was really struggling just to get to the loo and Mandy yes it's ridiculous that they don't have a better way for me to get there.
Thank you all for your good wishes and support, I really appreciate it..oh and Lo I need 2.5lbs for my next shiny (aiming to get that next week) and according to SW site BMI calculator, as that's the one I go by, myBMI is 42.1, so yep not far off them 30's ..:wow: and once I'm under the 30's I am no longer obese just fat lol...definitely looking forwards to that one xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
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