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Oh for godsake, my bloody stalker is back 
I've known this person for 26 years, he's my friends older brother. He's got learning difficulties, with a mental age of a 15 year old roughly, some rare syndrome. When I was 5 he used to plague me (he was 15 at the time). Writing me love letters and following me around all the time. I used to hide the letters from my parents because i think even at 5 years old i knew it wasn't right. He never touched me but quite often flashed me and his sister, I was too scared to tell on him.
We moved away and i only saw him on occasional visits, so it was okay. Then when we moved to the UK in 92 most communication stopped except for the odd letter he'd send.
A couple of years ago things got a bit scary, he added me as a friend on FB, stupidly I accepted because I didn't want my mum to think I was being horrible as he's a family friend & not all there etc. It was okay, he kept sending me emails telling me he loved me etc, fairly harmless stuff. But then I found out they were moving to the UK.
Once he got here things turned a bit weird, he got really obsessive, lots of emails everyday, telling me how beautiful I was, that now he was in the UK we could be together, how he couldn't wait to marry me, and worse graphic things. I should've just blocked him but I was worried what my parents would say because he emailed my mum sometimes.
Anyway it got so bad that I was starting to get really scared, his mum was making plans for them to visit, I was terrified of him by this point, he's a big guy with the urges of a teenager and no sense of right and wrong. I ended up breaking down in front of my parents, telling them about all the emails.
My mum instead of being cross with me for wanting to block him just burst into tears. Apparently he'd been sending her similar horrific emails about me, she wouldn't tell me what was in them but they were as bad as mine. She didn't even know he'd added me on FB she thought she was protecting me by not telling me about her emails and didn't know I was getting them too.
It was too late to stop them coming so I ended up spending my birthday that year on my own, because I didn't dare go near their house, and mum, dad & bro didn't dare come to mine in case he followed, my house is very close to theirs. My mum had words with his mum and they dealt with it, mum told me to block him off FB and ignore any new friend requests from him. If he continued to email her she was going to take it to the police.
Every now and then he creates a new FB profile and tries to add me and I have to block that one too. FB won't do anything about him, just advise to block him and report multiple profiles.
I feel bad because my mum and his used to be close friends, and now hardly speak, his sister doesn't speak to me anymore but that's okay really. It's preferable to the fear he causes me. I'm pretty convinced that he's the cause of a lot of the intimacy issues I had when I was in my early 20's and why I allowed myself to get so fat almost as a shield. I overcompensated in my teens with my boyfriends, then in my 20's froze up.
It's funny how he always manages to make an appearance when my life is running along just nicely and it stirs things up all over again. I'm even crying as I'm typing this because of all the bad memories. I know he can't harm me anymore but the psychological harm is already done. I can't undo it I just try to forget it.
The intimacy thing isn't a problem anymore, Ash fixed that. I was honest with him about it all. And things were fine and I'm okay with all that now.
God I didn't mean to offload all that but I'm glad it's on the page and not churning around and around in my head!
I've known this person for 26 years, he's my friends older brother. He's got learning difficulties, with a mental age of a 15 year old roughly, some rare syndrome. When I was 5 he used to plague me (he was 15 at the time). Writing me love letters and following me around all the time. I used to hide the letters from my parents because i think even at 5 years old i knew it wasn't right. He never touched me but quite often flashed me and his sister, I was too scared to tell on him.We moved away and i only saw him on occasional visits, so it was okay. Then when we moved to the UK in 92 most communication stopped except for the odd letter he'd send.
A couple of years ago things got a bit scary, he added me as a friend on FB, stupidly I accepted because I didn't want my mum to think I was being horrible as he's a family friend & not all there etc. It was okay, he kept sending me emails telling me he loved me etc, fairly harmless stuff. But then I found out they were moving to the UK.
Once he got here things turned a bit weird, he got really obsessive, lots of emails everyday, telling me how beautiful I was, that now he was in the UK we could be together, how he couldn't wait to marry me, and worse graphic things. I should've just blocked him but I was worried what my parents would say because he emailed my mum sometimes.
Anyway it got so bad that I was starting to get really scared, his mum was making plans for them to visit, I was terrified of him by this point, he's a big guy with the urges of a teenager and no sense of right and wrong. I ended up breaking down in front of my parents, telling them about all the emails.
My mum instead of being cross with me for wanting to block him just burst into tears. Apparently he'd been sending her similar horrific emails about me, she wouldn't tell me what was in them but they were as bad as mine. She didn't even know he'd added me on FB she thought she was protecting me by not telling me about her emails and didn't know I was getting them too.
It was too late to stop them coming so I ended up spending my birthday that year on my own, because I didn't dare go near their house, and mum, dad & bro didn't dare come to mine in case he followed, my house is very close to theirs. My mum had words with his mum and they dealt with it, mum told me to block him off FB and ignore any new friend requests from him. If he continued to email her she was going to take it to the police.
Every now and then he creates a new FB profile and tries to add me and I have to block that one too. FB won't do anything about him, just advise to block him and report multiple profiles.
I feel bad because my mum and his used to be close friends, and now hardly speak, his sister doesn't speak to me anymore but that's okay really. It's preferable to the fear he causes me. I'm pretty convinced that he's the cause of a lot of the intimacy issues I had when I was in my early 20's and why I allowed myself to get so fat almost as a shield. I overcompensated in my teens with my boyfriends, then in my 20's froze up.
It's funny how he always manages to make an appearance when my life is running along just nicely and it stirs things up all over again. I'm even crying as I'm typing this because of all the bad memories. I know he can't harm me anymore but the psychological harm is already done. I can't undo it I just try to forget it.
The intimacy thing isn't a problem anymore, Ash fixed that. I was honest with him about it all. And things were fine and I'm okay with all that now.
God I didn't mean to offload all that but I'm glad it's on the page and not churning around and around in my head!
