Texty's Back - Plain and Simple

Texty_F said:
Thanks hunni - just got in from seeing her, she looks dreadful. They kept her waiting around at the hospital for ages, they have cleared her as far as a bleed on the brain is concerned. She has to see the stroke nurse tomorrow. She also has a welfare at work meeting on Thurs, she has asked me to go with her as her eyes and ears as she keeps forgetting things and wont be able to retain all the info they give/ask her. x
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Its good you'll be going with her, not only to be her eyes and ears but you'll find out more first hand, not just what she remembers to tell you. Often the problem can be what the patient *doesn't* tell the medics or whoever, as we found when I accompanied my mother in law to her appts. She'd just stay quiet and shrug at the questions, as though she didn't know the answers, when I knew full well she did. Its a fine line between overstepping the mark and speaking up for their own good, if you see what I mean. I tried to prompt her if need be but also by keeping out of her line of sight, the person speaking to her knew whether to push for an answer by a quick glance at me. That might sound a bit underhand but it was with the best of intentions and the knowledge of the doctor speaking to her.
Oh and in case you or anyone wonders, it was me with her because my hubby's hearing isn't that good and they both agreed I have more knowledge of medical conditions. I have always got on very well with my in-laws, in some ways better than my own parents because we've always seen a lot of them and like you with your sister, I just wanted her to get the treatment she needed, for which she needed to acknowlege the problems and be willing to help herself.
For what its worth, she has made an amazing recovery and is now leading a much healthier and happier lifestyle. Hope its not too hard on you Sheila, being the one doing the worrying is pretty stressful. :(
 
cloudy6 said:
Its good you'll be going with her, not only to be her eyes and ears but you'll find out more first hand, not just what she remembers to tell you. Often the problem can be what the patient *doesn't* tell the medics or whoever, as we found when I accompanied my mother in law to her appts. She'd just stay quiet and shrug at the questions, as though she didn't know the answers, when I knew full well she did. Its a fine line between overstepping the mark and speaking up for their own good, if you see what I mean. I tried to prompt her if need be but also by keeping out of her line of sight, the person speaking to her knew whether to push for an answer by a quick glance at me. That might sound a bit underhand but it was with the best of intentions and the knowledge of the doctor speaking to her.
Oh and in case you or anyone wonders, it was me with her because my hubby's hearing isn't that good and they both agreed I have more knowledge of medical conditions. I have always got on very well with my in-laws, in some ways better than my own parents because we've always seen a lot of them and like you with your sister, I just wanted her to get the treatment she needed, for which she needed to acknowlege the problems and be willing to help herself.
For what its worth, she has made an amazing recovery and is now leading a much healthier and happier lifestyle. Hope its not too hard on you Sheila, being the one doing the worrying is pretty stressful. :(
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Thanks hun, your spot on. I had a heart to heart with her hubby earlier today whilst he was waiting for her to call, and he told me they had been arguing about her stubborness ,and that she had walked out of the house at 1am one night ( she wont tell me this kind of stuff) they ended up arguing about the kids etc. I know a lot of it is frustration with her now that shes not able to do what she used to.

Andrea text me earlier saying "mam I hope your going to look after you cos I know you will be stressing about Auntie Kath and me " lol she knows me well x
 
Todays food and then bed I feel shattered tonight :-(

HEXA - 250mls ss milk
HEXB - Wholemeal roll

Brekkie - Rice pudd, strawberries, pineapple, melon

Dinner - Egg and tomato sarnies x 2 ( 1 hexb + 5 syns)

Tea - Aldi chicken tikka kebabs, SW chips salad, boiled egg, pease pudd

Drinks - Tea, pepsi max, hot choc

Snacks - Sliced lean ham

Syns - Kebabs (4) wholemeal roll (5) sugar (2) hot choc x 2 (4) Total 15
 
Texty_F said:
Thanks hun. Shes not well at all bless her. Ive tried talking (nagging her) tonight about her smoking etc but I dont think it will sink in. I was really blunt and said you are killing yourself, her answer .......... its not as easy as you think packing in smoking, I said I realise that as ive never smoked, but what would it take for you to stop, she said I dont know look at mam, dad, aunty, sis, etc they all stopped smoking and died!!!! I said yes from Cancer not a stroke grrrrrrrr then she said well I gotta die of something.

I cant win can I :cry: x
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It's just like any addiction it's not easy to give up, and the person has to want to give up, I hope she starts to listen to you soon xx
 
Happy Holidays said:
It's just like any addiction it's not easy to give up, and the person has to want to give up, I hope she starts to listen to you soon xx
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Totally agree. It's hard whether to go with the tough love and spell out the facts or back off and let them get on with it. Whichever, you end up feeling guilty and stressed so make sure you make time for you too. The good news is baby cuddling is very un stressful ;)


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Good evening :)

My word, there's no telling your sister is there? Maybe what you've said will begin to sink in and she'll start to understand what she needs to do. She knows she's got your support I'm hoping she'll do as you've suggested!

Good luck for wi if your going too :) xx


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cloudy6 said:
Totally agree. It's hard whether to go with the tough love and spell out the facts or back off and let them get on with it. Whichever, you end up feeling guilty and stressed so make sure you make time for you too. The good news is baby cuddling is very un stressful ;) Sent from my iPhone using MiniMins.com
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I think she will just do what she wants even if I'm really blunt hun that's the way she is. I'll just keep a close eye on her x
 
Cookie21 said:
Good evening :) My word, there's no telling your sister is there? Maybe what you've said will begin to sink in and she'll start to understand what she needs to do. She knows she's got your support I'm hoping she'll do as you've suggested! Good luck for wi if your going too :) xx Sent from my iPad using MiniMins.com
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We are like chalk and cheese hun, maybe it will sink in eventually lol . Thanks cookie I did go to wi I gained 0.5 but I'm still in target whoop x
 
Well done for staying within target Sheila :p woohoo ! That's brill hun xx
 
I made the following for taster night ... Kays cheesecakes. Mikado kebabs and garlic herby potato cubes AND ..... I won woman of the year ?
 

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Texty_F said:
I made the following for taster night ... Kays cheesecakes. Mikado kebabs and garlic herby potato cubes AND ..... I won woman of the year ?
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Amazing pics hun! Congrats! Lovely taster stuff too, not seen the mikado kebabs before, nice idea x

Texty_F said:
There were quite a few hun but they all knew why and we're expecting it x
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Yours was only a smidge though well done x
 
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