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[Rod the Bass]

Ok Rod,

Am reporting in for some tough love. Have hit a major slump....and its the food is the problem, not the exercise. Am in training for a half marathon...and have a good variety of exercise on the go.

I have lost a fair whack...but the last month has been a stay the same fest. And I ve put up a pound and a half the last week. Im here for a good stern talking to, as when Im on it, im a machine! But i have started to reward myself with food again...which is the real issue.

Am in it for the long haul, and will be at goal by my bday this year (dec). Have 2 stone to go. I like this thread, as this is what I need now.

Awaiting tough love....and a kick

Thanks

OK sasser, welcome to the evil empire

you have a similarly recurring problem it seems, same as a few that have stumbled in here.

"Almost there" syndrome innit?

I have just over 2 stone to go and my birthday is December (11th) and when I'm on it I'm a machine

Also I've just targetted a stone off for Aug 16th.

so lets just see who walks the walk and who kissed the blarney stone - we can leave it there I think....

 

[sasser]

As they say...you're not a labrador, so don't reward yourself with food!

It is the last 2stone which really make the difference between 'not overweight' and 'actually slim'. Having come this far you definitely deserve to feel proper slim and slinky.

You're dead right...I'm not a Labrador!!

And to be proper slim and slinky is def where I want to be!! Liked ur post about the weekend...impressive.

 

[sasser]

OK sasser, welcome to the evil empire

you have a similarly recurring problem it seems, same as a few that have stumbled in here.

"Almost there" syndrome innit?

I have just over 2 stone to go and my birthday is December (11th) and when I'm on it I'm a machine

Also I've just targetted a stone off for Aug 16th.

so lets just see who walks the walk and who kissed the blarney stone - we can leave it there I think....

The almost there...is the slippery slope, big style.

A stone for aug 16th....sharp intake of breath!

Right, ur on!! Blarney smarney...gym bag packed. Proper food shop done. Thanks for the collective kick, will report back

 

[Rod the Bass]

Eeek tough lovers help me out here!

I need a good preventative butt-kicking ahead of the weekend. It has the makings of a diet disaster- I have a massive family bbq to contend with on Saturday. Great you might think - meat and salad, but my mother lays out the biggest ever spread - creamy potato salad, creamy pasta salad, couscous salad, olives and crisps out all day to nibble on and millions of puddings, not to mention the temptation to get plastered to deal with all of my realtives.

Have already decided I am driving, so that is the alcohol syns dealt with. But I know from last year that just having the odd crisp or peanut here intermittantly all day mounts up and is really demoralising. I think I will have to adopt an 'all or nothing' approach and have just the one plateful of food and diet coke for the rest of the day. Might bring a fruit salad as my contribution and munch that for dessert. But it is so hard to stay sober when everyone around you is having a great time from about 1pm right through the night - and it is people I hardly ever see as well, so would have been nice to have a good knees up. Oh well :-(

I'm late on this one, whatever you did or didn't do is history - I am sure you did your best to do the right thing for you, we all have the best intentions, but the flesh is weak at times

I recently did a BBQ night party dry and on plan - about the hardest thing I've ever done. It was all going well until they brought the cheesecake out.

Now I am not like a girl for puddings, far from it luckily, 99% of them can go past me and I don't twitch

but cheesecake is like my kryptonite

Like Lou said - you can indulge yourself occasionally - and because I already had been very very good, I had a slice.

But what I did was go around the party offering slices of cheesecake until there was one left. my slice.

There was NO WAY I was gonna eat it and have any left in the vicinity. I was not going to eat a whole cheesecake, which I expect I could do in another life.

So, yes it is hard. But being fat is hard. Exi said it about 15 pages ago. Choose your hard.

 

[lisajade]

Hey fellow tough lovers,

Just reporting in to say I have had a good word with myself. I did some high intensity cardio training yesterday, my abs ache in bits I have never felt before. It's great. I have started afresh as off yesterday, its half way through the year and now is as good a time as any to kick it up a notch I guess. I could reach my target weeks or months sooner if I get my finger out. I like that idea

Hope you're all being tough and keeping on plan

 

[Rod the Bass]

(And the reason that I love this thread is that pretty much every other thread on here I would have posted the message and got loads of replies telling me just enjoy yourself, it's only one day, start again tomorrow, it won't do that much damage. And that's BS and we know it. Thanks guys for helping me to do the right thing )

yeah just enjoy yourself, keep on shovelling it in, keep on chasing the same old tail, keep on losing the same three pounds a fortnight, keep on sitting on the sofa watching stuff that ain't real, keep on wishing you had willpower, keep on trashing your head, liver and kidneys at the weekend, keep on posting how weak you are and keep on reaping the sympathy from the rest of the interweb weaklings who have the same keep on issues as you....

thats what they are telling you on the other threads. Might sound hard, but here, the truth runs about naked

welcome to Tough Love and you are VERY welcome, thats a great post, thank you Jezzi

 

[conlou1]

I'm late on this one, whatever you did or didn't do is history - I am sure you did your best to do the right thing for you, we all have the best intentions, but the flesh is weak at times

I recently did a BBQ night party dry and on plan - about the hardest thing I've ever done. It was all going well until they brought the cheesecake out.

Now I am not like a girl for puddings, far from it luckily, 99% of them can go past me and I don't twitch

but cheesecake is like my kryptonite

Like Lou said - you can indulge yourself occasionally - and because I already had been very very good, I had a slice.

But what I did was go around the party offering slices of cheesecake until there was one left. my slice.

There was NO WAY I was gonna eat it and have any left in the vicinity. I was not going to eat a whole cheesecake, which I expect I could do in another life.

So, yes it is hard. But being fat is hard. Exi said it about 15 pages ago. Choose your hard.

That was a great tactic to stop yourself having seconds I'm going to use that one!!

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[Rod the Bass]

Hey fellow tough lovers,

Just reporting in to say I have had a good word with myself. I did some high intensity cardio training yesterday, my abs ache in bits I have never felt before. It's great. I have started afresh as off yesterday, its half way through the year and now is as good a time as any to kick it up a notch I guess. I could reach my target weeks or months sooner if I get my finger out. I like that idea

Hope you're all being tough and keeping on plan

great post Lisa Jade.

How about if you revisit your goal date and maybe remove the question mark? ?? ?? 2013 is a long year.

that noise in your head is you telling yourself, damn this IS possible, maybe this time I can do it....well of course you can.

At your running rate you should be ringing the bell end of March

just an idea....

 

[lisajade]

great post Lisa Jade.

How about if you revisit your goal date and maybe remove the question mark? ?? ?? 2013 is a long year.

that noise is your head is you telling yourself, damn this IS possible, maybe this time I can do it....well of course you can.

At your running rate you should be ringing the bell end of March

just an idea....

31st of March sounds amazing to me The date is now set...

"FINISH IT!!!"

 

[Rod the Bass]

31st of March sounds amazing to me The date is now set...

"FINISH IT!!!"

you're no April fool....

 

[emma_partington27]

I know wat ur sayin rod n i feel i am scared ov reaching target coz then wat am i gunna do? I always sabotage myself wen im nearing a mark i was 2lbs off my 2 stone n now im 4!! And i just feel like im not in the right frame of mind cant b bothered with the gym or swimming and the kids finish school in 3 weeks so wont b able to do much exercise then either! Just feel like ive been at this dieting foreva
Soz to sound so down but my positivity and mojo seemed to hav disappeared

 

[Rod the Bass]

I know wat ur sayin rod n i feel i am scared ov reaching target coz then wat am i gunna do? I always sabotage myself wen im nearing a mark i was 2lbs off my 2 stone n now im 4!! And i just feel like im not in the right frame of mind cant b bothered with the gym or swimming and the kids finish school in 3 weeks so wont b able to do much exercise then either! Just feel like ive been at this dieting foreva
Soz to sound so down but my positivity and mojo seemed to hav disappeared

Emma

you have a reputation beyond repute
you are nicely statuesque at 5ft 7"
and you have a stone to go, give or take.

A stone. It's nothing, half of that could be gone by the time the kids finish school. So, are you struggling to think how to exercise with the children?

Ok here's what I do with my vermin, aged ten, eight and four

I take them swimming, I used to be the fattest dude in the pool, but I ain't now. My eldest two are both club swimmers and I can only just beat them. They shame me. I love it.

I walk them half a mile to the local common and race 'em up n down the cricket pitch

We play cricket, boules and football. We take the biggest box of strawberries we can and I challenge them to 5 strawberries per 5 catches made

we steal next doors dog and run her around the fields and along the river bank

Food is fuel, not a reward or a pick me up.

I hope you can find the mojo - please try to plan something different, just sitting down with the kids and asking them what they want to do - only two rules apply - it must be outside and it can't be electronic

then go for it sister

you can sweat on how to stay there when you get there - meantime me and the rest of the TL tribe will give that some thought - won't we guys?

and there's nothing wrong with moving your target, even just to kid yourself

 

[conlou1]

I know wat ur sayin rod n i feel i am scared ov reaching target coz then wat am i gunna do? I always sabotage myself wen im nearing a mark i was 2lbs off my 2 stone n now im 4!! And i just feel like im not in the right frame of mind cant b bothered with the gym or swimming and the kids finish school in 3 weeks so wont b able to do much exercise then either! Just feel like ive been at this dieting foreva
Soz to sound so down but my positivity and mojo seemed to hav disappeared

Do you want to lose weight or not? If you do then eat right and move more, stop feeling sorry for yourself and using lack of motivation as an excuse to sit and do nothing. Deal with it, motivate yourself .... Or don't. But if you don't you'll have another 2 stone to lose on top of what you want to lose now and it will keep climbing. No one can lose this weight for you, you have to want it, then if you slip up just admit it, own it, get weighed and get over it. We're all human and it's not the end if the world but don't give up cos you hit a hurdle, it's a reason to push harder and learn from it. So..... You've been here before and failed, so learn from it. Do you want to keep feeling like you do or do you want to take control and fight back. Get mad and show YOURSELF what your made of. If you can't be bothered then fine.... Dont do it but don't expect to lose weight or feel any happier about it all

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[lisajade]

I know wat ur sayin rod n i feel i am scared ov reaching target coz then wat am i gunna do? I always sabotage myself wen im nearing a mark i was 2lbs off my 2 stone n now im 4!! And i just feel like im not in the right frame of mind cant b bothered with the gym or swimming and the kids finish school in 3 weeks so wont b able to do much exercise then either! Just feel like ive been at this dieting foreva
Soz to sound so down but my positivity and mojo seemed to hav disappeared

Emma, you are nearly there. Please help all of us with long roads ahead to see that it can be done, that we can finish this thing. That you can finish this thing. You can do it, there is no excuse not to. Once you get to target, you will figure out what to do, just how you figured out how to lose 3 stone already. Dig deep, you're almost at the finish line. Just do it and get it over with

 

[faery_lights]

Guys, I have some amazing news.

I weighed myself this morning and I lost 7lbs!

I have never lost this much in a week, ever. This thread particularly has really helped spur me on. Thank you!

 

[Rod the Bass]

31st of March sounds amazing to me The date is now set...

"FINISH IT!!!"

you can't edit this bubble

game on now sister

you don't need luck, you just need you

now get on with it

 

[BonnieBooBear]

Guys, I have some amazing news.

I weighed myself this morning and I lost 7lbs!

I have never lost this much in a week, ever. This thread particularly has really helped spur me on. Thank you!

Er...WOWSERS! That is fantastic news! Well done you. What an amazing feeling eh? Just goes to show, if you get your head down and your butt in gear, the losses will follow. You must be over the moon!

 

[Rod the Bass]

Guys, I have some amazing news.

I weighed myself this morning and I lost 7lbs!

I have never lost this much in a week, ever. This thread particularly has really helped spur me on. Thank you!

just what the hell did you do???

thats IMPRESSIVE!

I just noted you are 6-0 tall, thats an inch shorter than me!

because you are tall do people tell you you have lost enough?? this happens to me at least four times a week and it's starting to grate me!

well crack on with the rest of it then, we wanna see you smash your Aug target in July, LOL

 

[conlou1]

Guys, I have some amazing news.

I weighed myself this morning and I lost 7lbs!

I have never lost this much in a week, ever. This thread particularly has really helped spur me on. Thank you!

Woooooo check you out!!!! That's a phenomenal weight loss you must be on a right high. Well done!!!!!! You clearly deserve buckets of praise you must have really tried mega hard this week. Amazing.

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[AliGal]

Yay. just wanted to gloat- what a weekend, chinese takeaway on Friday night, all day bbq on saturday, out with friend for breakfast on sunday and then work summer bbq on sunday afternoon! And I smashed it - have eaten less, if not the same, that I would have done if I had stayed at home. Simple veggie stir fry and rice for the chinese, plain salads and grilled chicken for the bbq (no booze and very proud that i avoided the puds and had strawberries and a muller light instead), poached eggs, lean bacon, mushrooms and one slice of toast for brekkie out and only salads at the bbq (one beer but counted it on SW tracker). Now tucking into a massive plate of SW free veggie curry. Go me!

Just proves that you can socialise and be around food if you put your mind to it - but thanks for the pre-motivation all, your comments were ringing around in my head as I stood at the pudding table! Have a good week everyone.

You handled the weekend awesomely and hereby are awarded the AliGal badge of merit for great choices!