Willpower.... where do I find that?!?!?

yo-yo said:
Hi ladies, I've been stalking your thread for weeks now and this should i/shouldnt i topic compelled me to join in. Realise you've moved on to men talk now but I started righting this a few hours ago then got caught up doing something else - sorry to change subject!
Will try and keep it brief cuz my cd journey has lasted 7 years now so I could go on all night!
I'm 39, mom 2 lovely 17 year old daughter. I was a chubby child, chubby teen and many rounds of conventional dieting saw me spend my teens and early 20's going from around 12 st down to 10st and back again. I gained 5 and half st during my pregnancy and ended up at rosemary connelly at 17st when my daughter was 2. Within 8 months I lost 5st then just stopped dead- couldn't seem to get a lb under it following the diet so started restricting further, cutting out carbs etc. After few years of my 'own' diet. Which was basically eating only chicken and vegetables, but boozing when the fancy took me, I managed to maintain a weight between 9 and half to 10 stone for about 2 years- and treated self to tummy, chest and bottom surgery for my trouble. Then I lost control a little and went up to 10 and half stone and wanted a quick fix. Along came cd......and I haven't managed to get off it since! I've had great success on it- even got to 7st 13lb once (only for 1 day tho!) which was prob what i weighted age 7 or something!
I have tried SO many times 2 get nack to 'normal' but it feels impossible. My body just doesn't respond to conventional dieting anymore, every time I go back on cd it is ALWAYS the last time. But them I'd find myself back up to 11 stone, panic and go back on it.
In October last year I meant business tho- I was not going back on it no matter what- but then 13 st happened and here I am again- 63 days into a 100 day ss pact with self.
The point to my long post is to say i think you are right to be concerned that dipping in and out of this diet isn't good. Its setting a dangerous precident for your dieting success in the future. And the fact we are on this forum means that we are amongst the unfortunate percentage of the population who are always going to have to diet/watch closely what we eat. You all seem so nice and I'd hate to see you end up like me 7 years on!
If I could have my time over I would have made my 10 and a half stone 32 year old self eat healthy and exercise and accept that 9 stone wasn't going to happen overnight.
I'm not dissing the diet at all but I think for people like me (and perhaps by the sounds of it you too) it isnt something that should be relied upon long term. My mind frame is all or nothing - I can ss like a dream. Going up the steps is impossible, once the food switch is flicked on i lose control. I need to get back to a place where I moderate what I eat and out of the 'might as well get hung for a sheep as a lamb' mind frame - which has seen me eat a slice of cucumber, beat myself up for cheating then go into a full scale binge lasting days, weeks, months.
I know cd isn't the diet for me anymore, I am sick to death of it, it's ruined my social life for seven years and made me obsessive and depressed. Yet I'm on it? I feel I have no choice.
My plan, which my partner rightly tells me he's heard a million times before, is to get to the end of my hundred days then eat the cupboards full of left over diet chef meals I have in the cupboards, then follow a healthy eating plan- and never have another milkshake or vile black coffee again!
Hope you don't think I'm trying to put you off or am being preachy- its just that I recognise so much of what I've read in the last few weeks from the last 7 years and wanted to share it with you in case it helps you make a decision on which diet to proceed with.
I wish you all great success in which ever route you take!
Sorry for waffling- and that was only the brief version! X
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http://twitter.com/cathninja/status/233288180441423872/photo/1rosemary conley etc without a great deal of success CD was a last resort because i was so sick of being the fat jolly one amongst my friends and i'd seen several celebs (albeit z listers!) lose well on it. Also i hadnt eaten carbs fr so log anyway i thought it would be no big deal. I actually got started on step2 as my bmi wasnt high enough for ss but i stil lost 1st6lbs really fast. I had to stop exercising for ages which was not great as as a depressive i really need it for my 'thinking' time and to feel good, endorphins an all that! Anyway i got to 10st and size 10 and i have never looked or felt so good. Not been that size since about 14 and it really changed how i was for the cpl of weeks it lasted. I had more confidence and got lots of attention and didnt feel invisible any more. 3 weeks later i have gained half a stone, feel disgusting and cant stick 100% to cd for more than a couple of days at a time, i don't really know why but there we go. My cdc has been away for 2 weeks and not due back til end of august so maybe thats something to do with it? Either way this cannot go on. My self worth, sanity and confidence (not to mention bank balance!) are all suffering majorly.
I havent thrown in the towel totally as i keep remembering how good i felt at just half a stone lighter and am thinking that surely that should be achievable without depriving myself of nice things every single bloomin day! Also, i exercise a lot and will always do so as i love it so by rights it should surely help?!

JUDD is now looking like a light at the end of the tunnel (although admittedly im still a bit confuse as to its science) as i can still eat normally some days but diet on others which i know i can do, and also use up these blasted shakes! In my head i am going to try this until after my holiday and see what impact it has on y weight and mindset etc. If it doesn't work i think i will have go back to old faithful calorie counting to lose that half stone, and equally if it does work i think i will do that too. Either way i have had jt with CD, i hate ti say it but everyone was right. It is a quick fix, not sustainable and not a way to lea a life!!

I want to say thank you to you for taking the time to come on here and send ur message and share your experiences. It has really really helped make my decision and has kind of confirmed something i already knew deep down. I'd be really interested to know what u think of my new 'plan!' and i wont get offended!

Wishing u well, u are obviously a lovely caring person xx
 
awww babe thats so true and how if feel!!! YoYo let us all know what you think about JuDD too! The more i know the better just concerned that it wont work if im honest! Confused with the science also.

Sooooo bored at workkkk its crazy xx
 
I do also think maybe we would all be better doing calorie counting and not doing all these fad diets but who knows xxxx

I certainly dont!
 
Yoyo, you have expressed how I've been feeling also. I know I don't want o be on this in the long term, and only intend to stay in it for another 2 weeks-there's no way I could go back to teaching children doing this. But I also worry that if I start eating again, that it will spiral out of control, but I think (hope) that I am in the right mindset to do it this time - in a less restrictive way than CD.

Thank you so much for sharing your story, it has certainly affirmed to me that this is not the way for me to continue. Good luck in your journey x
 
Depressed now and also wanna eat :(
 
snap just had my porridge and still thinking about the future of CD! its all i can blo*dy think about looooool this is not healthy x
 
Oh I can't stomach the porridge at all, and it's got to the stage that the only shakes that don't make me gag are the strawberry ones! I haven't cheated once, but am currently organising a meal out to wagamama for my cousins b'day! On the not cheating-the bloody scales haven't moved this week at all :(
 
delta15 said:
Oh I can't stomach the porridge at all, and it's got to the stage that the only shakes that don't make me gag are the strawberry ones! I haven't cheated once, but am currently organising a meal out to wagamama for my cousins b'day! On the not cheating-the bloody scales haven't moved this week at all :(
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Frustrating!!!
 
How's everyone doing???
 
Oooo can't wait!!! I've stuck to it again but bored big time and the more I read about JUDDD the more I'm tempted some people are having better losses than us xxx
 
yo-yo said:
Hi ladies, I've been stalking your thread for weeks now and this should i/shouldnt i topic compelled me to join in. Realise you've moved on to men talk now but I started righting this a few hours ago then got caught up doing something else - sorry to change subject!
Will try and keep it brief cuz my cd journey has lasted 7 years now so I could go on all night!
I'm 39, mom 2 lovely 17 year old daughter. I was a chubby child, chubby teen and many rounds of conventional dieting saw me spend my teens and early 20's going from around 12 st down to 10st and back again. I gained 5 and half st during my pregnancy and ended up at rosemary connelly at 17st when my daughter was 2. Within 8 months I lost 5st then just stopped dead- couldn't seem to get a lb under it following the diet so started restricting further, cutting out carbs etc. After few years of my 'own' diet. Which was basically eating only chicken and vegetables, but boozing when the fancy took me, I managed to maintain a weight between 9 and half to 10 stone for about 2 years- and treated self to tummy, chest and bottom surgery for my trouble. Then I lost control a little and went up to 10 and half stone and wanted a quick fix. Along came cd......and I haven't managed to get off it since! I've had great success on it- even got to 7st 13lb once (only for 1 day tho!) which was prob what i weighted age 7 or something!
I have tried SO many times 2 get nack to 'normal' but it feels impossible. My body just doesn't respond to conventional dieting anymore, every time I go back on cd it is ALWAYS the last time. But them I'd find myself back up to 11 stone, panic and go back on it.
In October last year I meant business tho- I was not going back on it no matter what- but then 13 st happened and here I am again- 63 days into a 100 day ss pact with self.
The point to my long post is to say i think you are right to be concerned that dipping in and out of this diet isn't good. Its setting a dangerous precident for your dieting success in the future. And the fact we are on this forum means that we are amongst the unfortunate percentage of the population who are always going to have to diet/watch closely what we eat. You all seem so nice and I'd hate to see you end up like me 7 years on!
If I could have my time over I would have made my 10 and a half stone 32 year old self eat healthy and exercise and accept that 9 stone wasn't going to happen overnight.
I'm not dissing the diet at all but I think for people like me (and perhaps by the sounds of it you too) it isnt something that should be relied upon long term. My mind frame is all or nothing - I can ss like a dream. Going up the steps is impossible, once the food switch is flicked on i lose control. I need to get back to a place where I moderate what I eat and out of the 'might as well get hung for a sheep as a lamb' mind frame - which has seen me eat a slice of cucumber, beat myself up for cheating then go into a full scale binge lasting days, weeks, months.
I know cd isn't the diet for me anymore, I am sick to death of it, it's ruined my social life for seven years and made me obsessive and depressed. Yet I'm on it? I feel I have no choice.
My plan, which my partner rightly tells me he's heard a million times before, is to get to the end of my hundred days then eat the cupboards full of left over diet chef meals I have in the cupboards, then follow a healthy eating plan- and never have another milkshake or vile black coffee again!
Hope you don't think I'm trying to put you off or am being preachy- its just that I recognise so much of what I've read in the last few weeks from the last 7 years and wanted to share it with you in case it helps you make a decision on which diet to proceed with.
I wish you all great success in which ever route you take!
Sorry for waffling- and that was only the brief version! X
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Hi yoyo thanks for ur great post. Basically i have tried every diet going etc without a great deal of success CD was a last resort because i was so sick of being the fat jolly one amongst my friends and i'd seen several celebs (albeit z listers!) lose well on it. Also i hadnt eaten carbs fr so log anyway i thought it would be no big deal. I actually got started on step2 as my bmi wasnt high enough for ss but i stil lost 1st6lbs really fast. I had to stop exercising for ages which was not great as as a depressive i really need it for my 'thinking' time and to feel good, endorphins an all that! Anyway i got to 10st and size 10 and i have never looked or felt so good. Not been that size since about 14 and it really changed how i was for the cpl of weeks it lasted. I had more confidence and got lots of attention and didnt feel invisible any more. 3 weeks later i have gained half a stone, feel disgusting and cant stick 100% to cd for more than a couple of days at a time, i don't really know why but there we go. My cdc has been away for 2 weeks and not due back til end of august so maybe thats something to do with it? Either way this cannot go on. My self worth, sanity and confidence (not to mention bank balance!) are all suffering majorly.
I havent thrown in the towel totally as i keep remembering how good i felt at just half a stone lighter and am thinking that surely that should be achievable without depriving myself of nice things every single bloomin day! Also, i exercise a lot and will always do so as i love it so by rights it should surely help?!

JUDD is now looking like a light at the end of the tunnel (although admittedly im still a bit confuse as to its science) as i can still eat normally some days but diet on others which i know i can do, and also use up these blasted shakes! In my head i am going to try this until after my holiday and see what impact it has on y weight and mindset etc. If it doesn't work i think i will have go back to old faithful calorie counting to lose that half stone, and equally if it does work i think i will do that too. Either way i have had jt with CD, i hate ti say it but everyone was right. It is a quick fix, not sustainable and not a way to lea a life!!

I want to say thank you to you for taking the time to come on here and send ur message and share your experiences. It has really really helped make my decision and has kind of confirmed something i already knew deep down. I'd be really interested to know what u think of my new 'plan!' and i wont get offended!

Wishing u well, u are obviously a lovely caring person xxi
 
Hi all. Well im just back from alton towers. Was up at 5 and ate myself silly! Tomorrow is a 500 cal day and basically my first 'down day' for judd. I e pasted what i sent to yoyo this morn but u guys know how i was feeling anyway. Im willing to give anything a go now and i am staying away from scales til after hols as i k know with today i wont have lost. I am still very down about how i look and this whole situation but will hopefully have a successful day tomoz. Have eaten that much today i shouldnt go hungry for a week!

Well done girls for being good xxx
 
hope you're ok doll - and have a good day tomorrow!

i am in a seriously bad mood. iphone was playing up dropping signal so they told me to restore it - now its completely broken!!!

either take it to apple shop (hour away) or get a courier to change it - im working 6 days a week til the day i go on hols, and i dont think they will courier on a sunday - PISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSED OFF!!!

I live alone and my phone is my alarm so i am screwed, had to ask my dad to repeatedly ring the house phone until i answer in the morning!!
 
lil_legs said:
hope you're ok doll - and have a good day tomorrow!

i am in a seriously bad mood. iphone was playing up dropping signal so they told me to restore it - now its completely broken!!!

either take it to apple shop (hour away) or get a courier to change it - im working 6 days a week til the day i go on hols, and i dont think they will courier on a sunday - PISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSED OFF!!!

I live alone and my phone is my alarm so i am screwed, had to ask my dad to repeatedly ring the house phone until i answer in the morning!!
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Oh i'll be alright, just hope JUDD offers me a shining light to 10st but we will see! Mr masseati seems to want a visit on sun or mon, not sure i want him to see me atm tho tbh!

Real bummer about ur phone. Sad fact is these days its probably preferable to lose a limb than ise of phone! You have given me a laugh though about asking ur dad to ring u, but i dont actually own an alarm either, never have i dont think! What time r u getting up? I could yell really really loudly?! Xx
 
lil_legs said:
i am in a foul mood! if there was an apple shop in town i wouldn't mind... but no, its ages and ages away - argh!!!
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That does suck balls! Be nice if they would send a replacement for u in the meantime! Tw*ts! Also not feeling particularly nice tonight. Stupid nob headed men of french variety have wound me right up, dah!!!! i need to e moved to an island which only has water and a hammock for a week. Sleep, get thin, get a tan and NO MEN!!!
 
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