I think the majority of us (thought not all) who are here have a much deeper issue than just loving food, and I think one of the best things we can do for ourselves is not beat ourselves up and forgive ourselves for getting it wrong sometimes. I'm so self critical and even if everything is going right for me I always come back to 'but I'm fat so its not worth as much'. And then I binge, and feel worse. However, since coming back from my wedding, my need to binge has disappeared, and while I don't want to reduce that to being married because I've never been the sort of girl who thinks a man is necessary for self worth, I can't help but think that subconsciously somewhere a little voice is telling me if he thinks I'm worth marrying I must be alright, and that's led me to stop punishing myself with a binge/guilt cycle. So its totally all about finding your self worth and a huge part of that is believing that you're OK, not perfect, but good enough. Not a failure but a work in progress. I wish I could've done that for myself! You're here now and that's what matters. Sent from my iPhone using MiniMins.com