I know what youre saying...but he does this all the time. He panders to his idiot brother....who then knows that he can treat hubby (and thereby us) like crap. Say we book a holiday for 2 weeks. And we are leaving on a wednesday. Hubbys normal days off are Sun/Mon. He will WORK on the monday before. And he will work on the Monday after we get back. He doesnt get those days back. This is an ongoing thing. An always thing. Last year at christmas...hubbys brother stated very clearly, several times that they were due to come back on friday, the 4th of jan. So we happened to be in our town centre (the shop is in our town) and went to mcd's on the 3rd for an early lunch, as we were in town to get a few things. Just sitting there enjoying our meal on his last day off. Then, hubbys brother came in. He lives 15 miles away in newcastle and has no reason to be in our town aside from work. he didnt see us...and they dont have a relationship outside of work (and they dont really have one at work either. hubby just works for him) so i said to hubby...to just sit and eat. well i could see him getting a bit uncomfortable so i said..fine..just go and see what hes doing here. so hubby went over and came back and apparently BIL was snotty when hubby asked what was going on and why he was in our town. BIL said "well...work!" all smartass-y...implying that hubby had skived off and just not turned up. So hubby came back to the table and told me what he had said...so out of fear of BIL getting angry and sacking him (this is an ongoing theme in our house) we sdecided that hubby would just go in to work. his christmas hols started on the 22nd so he was already being technically gypped a day but now it was 2 days. And BIL was in a bad mood. Over the next week or so, he half admitted that he himself had made an error and had come in a day early to sort it out..and that hubby wasnt due back until the following day and wasnt in the wrong. But still. He got guilted into losing a day of hols. And this was on top of the fact that he made hubby use a week's holiday as paternity leave when Zoe was born. Anyway. I know im being kinda petty. But hubby gets no benefits from working there. No pay rise in over 6 years. No commision or bonuses when he does well or the shop is doing well.he tries So hard when BIL goes on hols and leaves hubby in charge of the shop. he ghets paranoid if they happen to have a quiet week or two. He's so pleased when he has a bunch of takings to give BIL when he gets back. And he gets nothing but grief and treated like ****. Not even any praise. I get that he feels pressure and is worried about getting sacked. I get it. But its just...horrible to be under BILs thumb like this. He panders to his brother.
So...anyway. We had a discussion about this about a week or two ago. Hubby said he would sort the days and switch his monday for one of them. I said, please dont. And explained that he always does this and that his days are his to take as he likes, provided no one else has the days off (its only him and BIL in the shop anyway) so...thats that. He didnt say anything more about it. So when he said "oh, i sorted the london days" i figured he just booked the 2 days off as hols.
So when he said this morning that he "only had the one day off this weekend...but at least we have two days in london..." i was like "what?!" and he was like "you know that". and he insists that I knew. WTF. He wont own up to it. Anyway. Its just stupid and I told him that he's inconsiderate and its all well and good for him...everything else falls to me. And now I have ONE day to sort everything.
Not to mention I sent out a mass PM on fb to everyone i know in vegas asking for them to let me know if they know anyone who has a place to let. and i explained the situation...and my friend/former supervisor now works at the Venetian resort (5th best employer in vegas) and she told me to fill out an application and she would have the hiring manager pull it and she'd put in a good word for me. so i might even have secured myself a job...and a great one at that (wonderful healthcare benefits, paid lunch hours....free food....childcare onsite....) and he's like......not even bothered. "Well, that would be good..." wtf. I just feel like im ALREADY been spread so thin. And Im having to juggle everything. And sort everything. And then he does this and im like...really?!
but whatever.
TOTM has been and nearly gone. Im hugely fat and bloated...but its fixable. And we may actually be making progress with the relocation situation. There are positives too. Im trying to focus on those and focus on one thing at a time, as much as possible.
Just had my first pancake and a coffee. Have had 2 pints of water so far (possibly 3 but i cant remember..so gonna say 2 and note it here so i can refer back when i forget again later.) and i feel a bit sick tbh. Tabby had a late nap yesterday (from abput 3:30 til 6p,) so didnt fall asleep until nearly 1am (!!!!!!) so i need to really get these kids back to bed for a nap. She was up at 7:15 this morning and is definitely tired.
Instructed hubby to bring me home X Y & Z for mad, slap dash cleaning sesh tomorrow. lets see if he can manage that, shall we?
Oh and Im probably grieving in my own way...yes. But I cant stay its a conscious thing. I, unfortunately, havent really given it a whole lot of thought. Who knows...
Off to get the girls down for an early nap.
How is everyone doing?