Big Boys Need Love Too!
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Fattyfattyboomboom
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thanks gem!=-)
yeah but i agree too but most dont put on much during their pg plus loads have c sections and lipo and tucks at the same time not to mention personal chefs, and of course the obligitory nanny or two.
i just want to be careful. i mean i ave lost nearly two stone from the birth alone and next week lu goes back to nursery so i will have time for my 2 mile daily walk gettiing excerise and the baby some fresh air. so i will take it easy after that.
yeah but i agree too but most dont put on much during their pg plus loads have c sections and lipo and tucks at the same time not to mention personal chefs, and of course the obligitory nanny or two.
i just want to be careful. i mean i ave lost nearly two stone from the birth alone and next week lu goes back to nursery so i will have time for my 2 mile daily walk gettiing excerise and the baby some fresh air. so i will take it easy after that.
** Just Jools **
Slow & steady does it!!!!
Sounds a very sensible way to do it Jenn. x
Gemstone
Here for the Journey
I used to do a floor exercise using the baby as a weight to tone up the tummy and pelvic floor at the same time - baby loved it too. You lie on the floor with baby held on your tummy, squeeze bum together and pull up pelvic floor lift up baby, say "Boo" and slowly lower him back down, gently releasing the pelvic floor and unclenching bum. Do several repeats - good one as I remember (good memory - it was a long time ago) x
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
thanks for the tip gem will use that for sure.
Well I had a slimming world lunch today, I can sooooo tell I am not pregnant anymore my appetite has lessened considerably. Last night we had a steak which was two times the size of my palm as my OH wants to me get a bit more iron, and 3 small jersey potatoes, which I had never had before YUMMMMMMYYY, and I only managed half the steak If that and the potatoes. Before I could the full meal plus a whole not more, but not anymore. Hahaha. For lunch I had 4 ryvitas with light laughing cow, lean ham, slices raw mushroom, and cress it was nice and a small apple juice.
OMG last night too was a challenge, I thought my LU was handling the baby thing too well and last night his actions said loads to me. Firstly when my mate came over with his son all mine did was tattle left right and centre, act like a spoiled brat and going into a huff every few minutes when he didnt get his way. He NEVER does that. But I dealt with it. But didn't realise there would be worse to come. Off and on he has been good and slightly naughty, but when we I took him upstairs for his bath he threw a wobbler at me. Started to scream that his bath was burning him and too hot (which he tried on my OH the night before) the water was all cold with very little hot more room temp that anything. So, I put more cold in and said well if I put anymore in you will freeze in the bath then he started screaming it would be too cold and he didnt want a cold bath, I got frustrated as I had the baby to still sort the baby out, so my OH came and talked to him. LU was still trying it on, so OH made the a very cold both and put him in with just his feet only and said " well you don't want a warm bath so there is your bath it is cold now" so of course he screamed again. So OH took him out and said well maybe that will teach you a lesson. Mommy and daddy would never put you in a hot bath, we love you and would never try to hurt you, your bath was warm and you need that warm to take off the dirt and to make you clean and so you don't catch a cold. SO maybe next time you have a bath you will he happy with the warm one.
Well i thought that was it and OH dried LU off and took him to his room. By this time I was in the baby's room feeding him and the LU was in his room talking to daddy about what happened and how to be a good boy and example for his little brother etc. SO then finally he chilled out and wait for me to sort out the baby and then go and read a story with him etc. SO I put the baby down and went in. He was fine, we read a story etc but then the big challenge came. This is really my fault I guess, He said "mama you gonna go to sleep up here?" I said " no mattie, mama has mommy things to do and laundry and things but I will be watching you on your camera and chris's up here too and I will be watching him as well. But I will be up in a while to go to bed." Now as a quick back ground, he as always thought I slept in my bed when we went to bed at night. I just always creeped downstairs and when he has caught me not being upstairs I would say I was just doing laundry or getting some water. As as the time I guess it was easier that him throwing a paddy about my not being upstairs.
Anyway, so LU kept saying no mama I need you to be up here. He was hanging on to me and in the end he was almost demanding I stay upstairs. Then I just said I am the adult and you are the child, I tell you what to do, you don't tell me. Now I have things to do and so do you, you need to sleep. If you want to be able to earn your stars for your chart so that you can earn a treat then you need to go to bed.
I left the room and all I could hear was him crying saying mama i need you , i need you, and I just quietly went down stairs. I talk to the OH about how we should handle things for the best. And I /we thought another talk would be worth it.So I did I talked it all over again. I was honest with him and said "look mattie, mama has never slept up here when you do. I always go down stairs because mama has mommy jobs to do. Just like you have your jobs of making your bed and tidying your toys and brushing your teeth. Mama has jobs I have to wash the dishes and make chris's bottles, sort out the dog....So see it takes a bit, but mama is always watching you, I see you on the camera so i make sure you are safe. Now you know mama has always gone down stairs right, and see you were always safe and sound right? he said yes. "so you have nothing to fret about, mama is always here to protect you and look after you. and I am only down stairs." So it worked well. HE went from uber defiante to chilled out. although he was still disaplined as he started to quickly act up just before I got him to lay down, but it was mipped in the bud straight away, and I convinced him he didnt have to sleep but did have to lay down in his bed and be quiet.
So he didn't wake until 8am this morning and I made a big fuss of him for sleeping in his bed and stressed the fact that mama was down stairs he was just fine, just like at nana's.
ANYWAY.....my mum things it is anxeity because he was away from me when I was in the hospital, plus that way he doesnt have my 100% focus now. I just think he is going to be 4 tomorrow and he is just testing me as I am the closest to him. He wants to see what he can and cant get a way with. Cuz even at one point I told him not to get out of bed or be would get into trouble and he made the comment he would go and get chris out of bed, and i told him he he did that it I would take all his stars away, which he understood to be a really bad thing.
Anyway no doubt I will have loads more challenages ahead, I am doing my best to spend just mommy and me time with him and keeping him involved with his brother. But other than that I can' do much more than that. What do you all think?
Well I had a slimming world lunch today, I can sooooo tell I am not pregnant anymore my appetite has lessened considerably. Last night we had a steak which was two times the size of my palm as my OH wants to me get a bit more iron, and 3 small jersey potatoes, which I had never had before YUMMMMMMYYY, and I only managed half the steak If that and the potatoes. Before I could the full meal plus a whole not more, but not anymore. Hahaha. For lunch I had 4 ryvitas with light laughing cow, lean ham, slices raw mushroom, and cress it was nice and a small apple juice.
OMG last night too was a challenge, I thought my LU was handling the baby thing too well and last night his actions said loads to me. Firstly when my mate came over with his son all mine did was tattle left right and centre, act like a spoiled brat and going into a huff every few minutes when he didnt get his way. He NEVER does that. But I dealt with it. But didn't realise there would be worse to come. Off and on he has been good and slightly naughty, but when we I took him upstairs for his bath he threw a wobbler at me. Started to scream that his bath was burning him and too hot (which he tried on my OH the night before) the water was all cold with very little hot more room temp that anything. So, I put more cold in and said well if I put anymore in you will freeze in the bath then he started screaming it would be too cold and he didnt want a cold bath, I got frustrated as I had the baby to still sort the baby out, so my OH came and talked to him. LU was still trying it on, so OH made the a very cold both and put him in with just his feet only and said " well you don't want a warm bath so there is your bath it is cold now" so of course he screamed again. So OH took him out and said well maybe that will teach you a lesson. Mommy and daddy would never put you in a hot bath, we love you and would never try to hurt you, your bath was warm and you need that warm to take off the dirt and to make you clean and so you don't catch a cold. SO maybe next time you have a bath you will he happy with the warm one.
Well i thought that was it and OH dried LU off and took him to his room. By this time I was in the baby's room feeding him and the LU was in his room talking to daddy about what happened and how to be a good boy and example for his little brother etc. SO then finally he chilled out and wait for me to sort out the baby and then go and read a story with him etc. SO I put the baby down and went in. He was fine, we read a story etc but then the big challenge came. This is really my fault I guess, He said "mama you gonna go to sleep up here?" I said " no mattie, mama has mommy things to do and laundry and things but I will be watching you on your camera and chris's up here too and I will be watching him as well. But I will be up in a while to go to bed." Now as a quick back ground, he as always thought I slept in my bed when we went to bed at night. I just always creeped downstairs and when he has caught me not being upstairs I would say I was just doing laundry or getting some water. As as the time I guess it was easier that him throwing a paddy about my not being upstairs.
Anyway, so LU kept saying no mama I need you to be up here. He was hanging on to me and in the end he was almost demanding I stay upstairs. Then I just said I am the adult and you are the child, I tell you what to do, you don't tell me. Now I have things to do and so do you, you need to sleep. If you want to be able to earn your stars for your chart so that you can earn a treat then you need to go to bed.
I left the room and all I could hear was him crying saying mama i need you , i need you, and I just quietly went down stairs. I talk to the OH about how we should handle things for the best. And I /we thought another talk would be worth it.So I did I talked it all over again. I was honest with him and said "look mattie, mama has never slept up here when you do. I always go down stairs because mama has mommy jobs to do. Just like you have your jobs of making your bed and tidying your toys and brushing your teeth. Mama has jobs I have to wash the dishes and make chris's bottles, sort out the dog....So see it takes a bit, but mama is always watching you, I see you on the camera so i make sure you are safe. Now you know mama has always gone down stairs right, and see you were always safe and sound right? he said yes. "so you have nothing to fret about, mama is always here to protect you and look after you. and I am only down stairs." So it worked well. HE went from uber defiante to chilled out. although he was still disaplined as he started to quickly act up just before I got him to lay down, but it was mipped in the bud straight away, and I convinced him he didnt have to sleep but did have to lay down in his bed and be quiet.
So he didn't wake until 8am this morning and I made a big fuss of him for sleeping in his bed and stressed the fact that mama was down stairs he was just fine, just like at nana's.
ANYWAY.....my mum things it is anxeity because he was away from me when I was in the hospital, plus that way he doesnt have my 100% focus now. I just think he is going to be 4 tomorrow and he is just testing me as I am the closest to him. He wants to see what he can and cant get a way with. Cuz even at one point I told him not to get out of bed or be would get into trouble and he made the comment he would go and get chris out of bed, and i told him he he did that it I would take all his stars away, which he understood to be a really bad thing.
Anyway no doubt I will have loads more challenages ahead, I am doing my best to spend just mommy and me time with him and keeping him involved with his brother. But other than that I can' do much more than that. What do you all think?
Jim
Big Boy
Oh dear, Jamie and I stayed in a Friends Caravan as it happened to be near the hospital, this was in Germany where your nearest Military hospital can be over a 100 miles away. We went in every day, but after a couple of days he wouldn't talk to Colleen or even look at Eleanor in her crib. Once Colleen came out and we were back home, he dried and screamed the first morning I left for work. He was OK after a couple of months, but we did have to work on him.
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
hmmm....
well he has been good today. We had a good day so far, actually really nice, and we all made LU's birthday cake together as a family which was really nice. Chris was in his little cot napping, LU was there helping me mix the cake and he made his birthday wish whilst mixing and OH got all the ingredients together and "supervising" *LOL* Typical hahaha... And tomorrow will be nice as it will be our first family outing since the baby has been born.
As far as LU we will just need to take it as it comes. Lucky for me OH and I have the same ideas about how we want to raise our boys and discuss the big situations, we are always on the same sheet so the LU can't get past us. SO I know we will work it out. I just hope it is sooner rather than later as I really had it when LU acts that way and at the moment, my patience runs thin at the moment. But for me discipline and understanding are the things he needs.
well he has been good today. We had a good day so far, actually really nice, and we all made LU's birthday cake together as a family which was really nice. Chris was in his little cot napping, LU was there helping me mix the cake and he made his birthday wish whilst mixing and OH got all the ingredients together and "supervising" *LOL* Typical hahaha... And tomorrow will be nice as it will be our first family outing since the baby has been born.
As far as LU we will just need to take it as it comes. Lucky for me OH and I have the same ideas about how we want to raise our boys and discuss the big situations, we are always on the same sheet so the LU can't get past us. SO I know we will work it out. I just hope it is sooner rather than later as I really had it when LU acts that way and at the moment, my patience runs thin at the moment. But for me discipline and understanding are the things he needs.
Fattyfattyboomboom
Silver Member
my goodness this place has almost been deserted just waiting for the tumble weed to blow past. hahahaha
** Just Jools **
Slow & steady does it!!!!
:giggle: Morning hun! x 
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