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My day has been a bit up and down. It's been really too warm, so i've been stuck in my flat trying to keep cool. there's not a lot to do....so i was bored .... and deviated from the diet.
but went for a walk this evening when it had cooled down to a mere 26 degrees so feeling better after that.hope everyone else has had a lovely day
~Silence~
Gemstone
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My day has been a bit up and down. It's been really too warm, so i've been stuck in my flat trying to keep cool. there's not a lot to do....so i was bored .... and deviated from the diet.
hope everyone else has had a lovely day
~Silence~
Nothing quite like boredom to bring out the cravings for food big time
but hey, a little bit of damage limitation should sort that out tomorrow. Hope you enjoyed the calories x
elle2585
8 t whole wheel of cheese
guys i'm having the MOST awful day and my sister's arent here to tell and my cousins aren't here to tell.... i'm all alone in the house and argh... it feels horrible. that guy... the one i spoke about a few weeks ago. he got drunk last night and told me why he had been so upset. well, for one, abz was right in the sense that when he felt ready to tell me he did. but argh, it was THE WRONG THING. i wish he hadn't told me the truth now. he's fallen for some girl at uni from bradford, but they decided not to do anything about it because of the distance since they both finished this year. last night was the first time i've heard any mention of this girl. he said they had an amazing day together but she was "s*** at texting and stuff", probably because she didn't want to get too attached but he couldn't manage it or something. well, anyway, apparently they "hooked up" at the grad ball..that was the night when he text me with a pic of himself asking "how do i look?" and i replied but got no reply for the next two days. and now i know why i suppose. guys i'm truly incapable of accessing guy's feelings lol and it hurts me everytime. had the worst sleep ever last night. when i'm hurt i shiver for some stupid reason so i was FROZEN even though it was a hot night and i've woken up 4 hours after i managed to drop off with a pain in my stomach like i've been punched...grrr. :'( and also i feel bad cos he finally told me the truth and i could barely reply to him and i basically said "oh well, you'll get over it". hahaha. god what a ***** I am. owww last night was so much fun as well, chilling with my friends getting a bit hyper. (bad day foodwise but NO COMMENT lol)
sorry to just stick this on you guys, i just don't feel i have anyone to dump it on at the mo really. have excellent days xxx
sorry to just stick this on you guys, i just don't feel i have anyone to dump it on at the mo really. have excellent days xxx
Gemstone
Here for the Journey
:character00238: Good Morning Everyone on this glorious sunny day :character00238: Taz - You beat me to it again. Have you recovered from yesterday yet? Well it's good news for me - after a slight fluctuation upwards yesterday morning, I've lost almost a whole hardcore lb so with a little luck my ticker will be moving the right way after tomorrow's weigh in I don't really have any plans set in stone for today but my mate is looking after her grandaughter this weekend. She is a bright little button of around 14/15 months and very funny so I might just go and give her a hand. It's fun to play babies and then give them back x :character00238:
I don't really have any plans set in stone for today but my mate is looking after her grandaughter this weekend. She is a bright little button of around 14/15 months and very funny so I might just go and give her a hand. It's fun to play babies and then give them back x :character00238:
Gemstone
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Elle Babes, you truly have a heart Just don't beat yourself up for not being "perfect" - no-one is. It is truly horrible when someone tells you something and you feel you should react in a certain way and can't. If the empathy is just not there, you can't just command it. Have you ever thought that this guy gets in touch with you for the very response you give him? Just a thought
It's like this - some people have a pool of friends (even if they have a special friend this is still sometimes true) that they call on at certain times. If they want a "there, there, It'll be OK, I'm here" approach they'll call friend A but if they want a "I understand what you're saying but that's life, get on with it" approach they call friend B and so on. Maybe what you gave him was what he needed, I don't know. Either way, don't beat yourself up about it cos you did the best you can. Damage limitation for the extra food should sort out any squatter lbs that are lurking so all can be well in the land of elle. Have a good day and don't worry x
Just don't beat yourself up for not being "perfect" - no-one is. It is truly horrible when someone tells you something and you feel you should react in a certain way and can't. If the empathy is just not there, you can't just command it. Have you ever thought that this guy gets in touch with you for the very response you give him? Just a thought It's like this - some people have a pool of friends (even if they have a special friend this is still sometimes true) that they call on at certain times. If they want a "there, there, It'll be OK, I'm here" approach they'll call friend A but if they want a "I understand what you're saying but that's life, get on with it" approach they call friend B and so on. Maybe what you gave him was what he needed, I don't know. Either way, don't beat yourself up about it cos you did the best you can. Damage limitation for the extra food should sort out any squatter lbs that are lurking so all can be well in the land of elle. Have a good day and don't worry x
abz
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oh elle. i'm sorry you didn't get the news you wanted. you'll get through it hon, as will he. and now at least you know where things stand. give him a bit of time. did they stay together or are they still deciding not to do anything about it? i got a bit confused on that point... don't worry hon. things will perk up...
i'm sorry i wasn't around yesterday guys. i had some chicken when the others were having takeaway on friday night and when i woke up yesterday i thought i had chronic indigestion. i got some gaviscon but it did bugger all and got worse and worse throughout the day. i was very very sick several times. it was getting to the point where thomas wanted to call a doctor out (it had been about ten hours of agony by this point, and i mean it. i've never had such pain in my stomach ever. and i couldn't take any painkillers in case they made me worse because i didn't know what was causing it since i'd been so sick already) so i sent him out for some rennie's which my mate swears by. ate six of them on the trot and felt better by 5pm. today i feel a bit odd. it's strange the pain having gone but damn am i glad because i can still go and see batman later
i'm at work this morning. poooooooooooo. but the sun has gone away. hopefully it will come back for tomorrow when i'm off again
also peeved because our boss had a bbq and invited the whole IT team except me. not sure whether it was supposed to just be a guy thing or what but since it's the first thing organised since i started working here whether i was excluded because i was a girl or just because they didn't want me there i think it's really bad form and i don't really know what to do about it now
right. enough ranting on this morning. how is everyone doing?
abz xx
i'm sorry i wasn't around yesterday guys. i had some chicken when the others were having takeaway on friday night and when i woke up yesterday i thought i had chronic indigestion. i got some gaviscon but it did bugger all and got worse and worse throughout the day. i was very very sick several times. it was getting to the point where thomas wanted to call a doctor out (it had been about ten hours of agony by this point, and i mean it. i've never had such pain in my stomach ever. and i couldn't take any painkillers in case they made me worse because i didn't know what was causing it since i'd been so sick already) so i sent him out for some rennie's which my mate swears by. ate six of them on the trot and felt better by 5pm. today i feel a bit odd. it's strange the pain having gone but damn am i glad because i can still go and see batman later
i'm at work this morning. poooooooooooo. but the sun has gone away. hopefully it will come back for tomorrow when i'm off again
also peeved because our boss had a bbq and invited the whole IT team except me. not sure whether it was supposed to just be a guy thing or what but since it's the first thing organised since i started working here whether i was excluded because i was a girl or just because they didn't want me there i think it's really bad form and i don't really know what to do about it now
right. enough ranting on this morning. how is everyone doing?
abz xx
Gemstone
Here for the Journey
Morning abz. A bit worrying about yesterday. Go and have a word with your GP. Tell him/her about CD and everything and make sure everything is OK for you. Your health is the most important thing at the end of the day. There is absolutely no point having a beautiful body that doesn't function as it should. If you are going to continue with CD make sure it isn't doing you harm (not that I'm saying CD is to blame - it could be completely unrelated) Everyone is different, just get it checked out.
Does the guy at work know you are on a VLCD? Maybe it's a clumsy guy way of not putting you on the spot with food and drink being the centre of attraction at the bbq. Hope you feel better soon. Enjoy Batman x
Does the guy at work know you are on a VLCD? Maybe it's a clumsy guy way of not putting you on the spot with food and drink being the centre of attraction at the bbq. Hope you feel better soon. Enjoy Batman x
abz
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hey hon. i am more than sure that it was food poisoning. the chicken thomas brought home from morrisons for me had obviously been roasted and left under the lights until it dried out but i didn't think anything of it. i feel absolutely fine today and it hasn't happened on any of the other times i've eaten and i've had some shakes since and i'm hunky dory. it will keep me on the straight and narrow though!! ha.
they don't know i'm on a diet. i don't think they've even noticed that i've lost weight. my mate does that i sit next to but he won't have said anything. i asked him to kick their arses for not inviting me last night but he won't have done. i just don't know how to approach it... i suppose i'll just ask them if they had a nice time so they know i know about it and see what happens. i mean, the boss lives with his wife and two small children so it was hardly going to be a batchelors night in or anything!!
abz xx
they don't know i'm on a diet. i don't think they've even noticed that i've lost weight. my mate does that i sit next to but he won't have said anything. i asked him to kick their arses for not inviting me last night but he won't have done. i just don't know how to approach it... i suppose i'll just ask them if they had a nice time so they know i know about it and see what happens. i mean, the boss lives with his wife and two small children so it was hardly going to be a batchelors night in or anything!!
abz xx
Gemstone
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If you really think they left you out on purpose that's really bad. Sarcasm IS probably the best way of dealing with it. Just give a throw away "Did the BBQ go alright?" and keep ALL emotion under wraps. If the guy gets embarrassed and starts to make excuses, just sit back and enjoy the show! x
abz
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i don't think they would purposefully do it. but they aren't stupid and surely they'd realise it was offensive?? maybe they didn't want a girl around, who knows, but the first IT 'thing' that has happened in the last four months since i got here and i wasn't invited? i'm so pissed off, and a little upset, and i don't really know what to say. we have a new guy joining the team tomorrow and i won't see any of them until wednesday so it's not really like i can bring it up when it still seems relevent... and without embarrassing the new guy...
abz xx
abz xx
cah-ching
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also peeved because our boss had a bbq and invited the whole IT team except me. not sure whether it was supposed to just be a guy thing or what but since it's the first thing organised since i started working here whether i was excluded because i was a girl or just because they didn't want me there i think it's really bad form and i don't really know what to do about it now
How new to the team are you?
What he did wasn't nice.
However if this was a barbeque at his house then I would not class it as a work event. It is a private party which he chose to invite his friends to. Maybe he doesn't feel he knows you well enough to invite you to his home, which is fair enough. He knows the rest of the team because he's worked with them for a longer period of time.
Just a thought ...
elle2585
8 t whole wheel of cheese
or maybe abz, did he ask everyone to go on a day when you weren't in the office?
gem, just a bit more advice please. i've had it up to here with this tingling numbness sensation...within the last few weeks it's travelled up my legs to the top of my thighs. my toes have gotten worse, i can barely feel my little toe. and last night i kept waking up because the feeling was getting so bad in my legs and i was LYING DOWN!! the doctors have already told me they dont know what it is. is it worth going back and telling them?? x
gem, just a bit more advice please. i've had it up to here with this tingling numbness sensation...within the last few weeks it's travelled up my legs to the top of my thighs. my toes have gotten worse, i can barely feel my little toe. and last night i kept waking up because the feeling was getting so bad in my legs and i was LYING DOWN!! the doctors have already told me they dont know what it is. is it worth going back and telling them?? x
abz
Gold Member
i think it's worth going back and telling them. try and get it sorted. especially if it's getting worse. they might be able to refer you to a specialist...
and as for the bbq thing. to be honest i don't care whether he was just asking them as mates, or asking them when i wasn't in the office. i still think it's bad form for the boss to invite everyone in the team to a bbq except me. even if he had valid reasons, it's just bad form for appearances sake if nothing else. especially given how i'd see it. it excludes me from the team. and i wouldn't say he was overly friendly with the others in that respect in any case... so i'm going to reserve my right to be peeved. i understand that there are logical reasons to me being excluded, but that doesn't mean that it feels any better.
abz xx
and as for the bbq thing. to be honest i don't care whether he was just asking them as mates, or asking them when i wasn't in the office. i still think it's bad form for the boss to invite everyone in the team to a bbq except me. even if he had valid reasons, it's just bad form for appearances sake if nothing else. especially given how i'd see it. it excludes me from the team. and i wouldn't say he was overly friendly with the others in that respect in any case... so i'm going to reserve my right to be peeved. i understand that there are logical reasons to me being excluded, but that doesn't mean that it feels any better.
abz xx
Gemstone
Here for the Journey
Abz - I agree with you - you have every right to feel peeved. I would too.
Elle - Yes Yes Yes! Go get it checked out. It might be something as simple as a trapped nerve but you can't be too careful. Tell the Doc you want it investigated. It could be something so simple that it has been overlooked. Just go and bother the Doc. If you won't go away he/she'll have to refer you. It doesn't seem right to me and you need to find out what's causing it x
Elle - Yes Yes Yes! Go get it checked out. It might be something as simple as a trapped nerve but you can't be too careful. Tell the Doc you want it investigated. It could be something so simple that it has been overlooked. Just go and bother the Doc. If you won't go away he/she'll have to refer you. It doesn't seem right to me and you need to find out what's causing it x
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