CharleyBarley - my new 2014 diary with pics

[Charleybarley]

(((Hugs))) honeypie. Men are a funny lot, they dunno what their doing. My post gym beet root sweaty face might cheer you up xx <img src="http://www.minimins.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=125031"/>

Cheers Stacey, am feeling your sweaty gym cyber hug!!!

Cheered me up indeed. It just makes me feel like I shouldn't make such an effort with Mick, but that's the way I am and I shouldn't care less or think less just because he does. X

 

[Saruk88]

Saturday 15th Feb

Well we had a lovely meal last night. I can't say it was romantic, I did half expect some flowers and he knows that I like Valentines day, even if he doesn't. He said there wasn't any around, I suggest that there was a Morrisons on the way home from work, he said 'I am not getting you flowers from there, I would rather get you nothing!' I took this to heart that he would rather get me nothing than some flowers from a supermarket. It made me feel a bit sad - mind you I had had a drink so I was a little tiddly.

I felt sad and went to bed early because I didn't want him to know he had upset me. I still feel a bit upset about it, but I guess l just have to accept that he doesn't do Valentines Day. He is generous to me for birthdays and christmas, he spends lots of money on me, this day just doesn't mean anything to him, which I translated that I don't mean anything to him, which is wrong, because I know he loves me. You would just think he would do something to make me happy - never mind.

So, today I am shortly going to go to the gym, then I will come back and tidy up and that's really it for the today, no plans. Food wise:

B - duck egg on toast, just one of each.

L - Prawn and Avocado Cocktail Salad

D - Mexican Pork and Rice dish.

Have a good day all. I am going to try and cheer myself up. I know I am being daft, I just saw all myself friends on FB, showing off their flowers and I felt left out!

Ah mate, I'm sorry you felt sad! Boys are so weird and just don't see things the way we do (the right way). You should maybe just say to him how you felt and then he might be able to explain things more from his perspective. I got a text when he finished work saying 'I'm just going to pop down the pub...' Haha nice! Luckily he did turn up at 6.30 else I would have been maddddd!

I hope you're feeling happier love - it's still nice that you had a lovely meal together!

Sounds like you havea fab day planned- focus on yourself and not what makes you sad! X

PS well done on your weightloss! Amazing work

 

[Charleybarley]

Ah mate, I'm sorry you felt sad! Boys are so weird and just don't see things the way we do (the right way). You should maybe just say to him how you felt and then he might be able to explain things more from his perspective. I got a text when he finished work saying 'I'm just going to pop down the pub...' Haha nice! Luckily he did turn up at 6.30 else I would have been maddddd! I hope you're feeling happier love - it's still nice that you had a lovely meal together! Sounds like you havea fab day planned- focus on yourself and not what makes you sad! X PS well done on your weightloss! Amazing work

Boys are idiots aren't they? I am pretty much over it now. What can you do eh? I thought about saying something but honestly I just sound like a sulky school girl.....'you didn't get me any flowers when all my other friends did' !!!

I am just about to have my lunch in front of the tv. Mick is back now, so we will have a nice relaxed afternoon together.

X

 

[Saruk88]

Boys are idiots aren't they? I am pretty much over it now. What can you do eh? I thought about saying something but honestly I just sound like a sulky school girl.....'you didn't get me any flowers when all my other friends did' !!!

I am just about to have my lunch in front of the tv. Mick is back now, so we will have a nice relaxed afternoon together.

X

They are! I can't complain, I did get flowers and a bottle of nice prosecco but I came home and the flowers were just lying on the floor, haha. I think he thought it'd be romantic! So I just put his gift on the floor and waited for him to come home, haha.

Well ill I don't think you sound sulky, you're just telling him how you feel!

Sounds like you have a lovely afternoon planned though, so maybe just enjoy it

 

[Cheese Thief]

Saturday 15th Feb

Well we had a lovely meal last night. I can't say it was romantic, I did half expect some flowers and he knows that I like Valentines day, even if he doesn't. He said there wasn't any around, I suggest that there was a Morrisons on the way home from work, he said 'I am not getting you flowers from there, I would rather get you nothing!' I took this to heart that he would rather get me nothing than some flowers from a supermarket. It made me feel a bit sad - mind you I had had a drink so I was a little tiddly.

I felt sad and went to bed early because I didn't want him to know he had upset me. I still feel a bit upset about it, but I guess l just have to accept that he doesn't do Valentines Day. He is generous to me for birthdays and christmas, he spends lots of money on me, this day just doesn't mean anything to him, which I translated that I don't mean anything to him, which is wrong, because I know he loves me. You would just think he would do something to make me happy - never mind.

So, today I am shortly going to go to the gym, then I will come back and tidy up and that's really it for the today, no plans. Food wise:

B - duck egg on toast, just one of each.

L - Prawn and Avocado Cocktail Salad

D - Mexican Pork and Rice dish.

Have a good day all. I am going to try and cheer myself up. I know I am being daft, I just saw all myself friends on FB, showing off their flowers and I felt left out!

Aww hunny, big hugs! :bighug:

This is one of the reasons I bloody hate valentines day. I hated it when I was single, I hated it when I was with someone who only got me a gift once a year on Valentines day and I still hate it even though we now ignore it completely! I've felt the same as you in the past and honestly its a horrible feeling watching everyone else getting gifts and hotel breaks etc and feeling left out. Don't get me wrong I'm happy for them, in my experience a lot of peeps just get that treat once a year, but at the same time that crappy left out sad feeling is probably how the majority feel on valentines day. You're not alone!

I don't even really find valentines romantic, when something is expected for me it really takes away the initial joy and surprise. Its just that crappy left out feeling that reeeaaalllly sucks. I was fine this year because we agreed to not bother and just go out for a meal the night before (just because he had the Friday off work). Like you and Mick, me and Chris enjoy lots of mini breaks/meals out/romantic stuff throughout the year and surely that's much better than just looking forward to one day a year?

Hope you feel a lot better today. If you think this is going to come up year after year though you need to put a plan in place to make sure it doesn't. Why not talk to Mick and tell him how it made you feel? Or failing that bring it up closer to this time next year, so he knows it's not okay to just do nothing.

Hope you have a lovely weekend hun Xxx

 

[xsugarfairyx]

Thank hun, having sent the morning on my own, I am feeling better - thanks for the cyber hugs!!

Xxx

Glad to hear and anytime xxx

 

[Charleybarley]

Food today:

B - Duck egg on toast x 1





L - Prawn and avocado salad with homemade Marie Rose Sauce





Snack - apple and orange

D - Poblano Pork Casserole and Rice with sweetcorn

 

[xmisskx]

great food day today missy....wish i could say the same for me! lol :ashamed0005: x

 

[hendopig]

Oooooh did you make that pork casserole? It looks ace xx

 

[Charleybarley]

Oooooh did you make that pork casserole? It looks ace xx

I have to admit that I didn't. It's an Old El Paso Caserole Sachet Mix, it's called Poblano Pepper, you add water, peppers onion, chilli and chicken (altho I used pork) and cook for a couple of hours, then you add double cream at the end, but I didn't want to use cream so I double dthe water amount and stirred some evap milk in at the end, it was delicious!

 

[Charleybarley]

great food day today missy....wish i could say the same for me! lol :ashamed0005: x

Thanks Miss K - have you been a naughty girl then?? Xx

 

[xmisskx]

Thanks Miss K - have you been a naughty girl then?? Xx

only in the eyes of the sw gods! lol x

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[Charleybarley]

Aww hunny, big hugs! :bighug: This is one of the reasons I bloody hate valentines day. I hated it when I was single, I hated it when I was with someone who only got me a gift once a year on Valentines day and I still hate it even though we now ignore it completely! I've felt the same as you in the past and honestly its a horrible feeling watching everyone else getting gifts and hotel breaks etc and feeling left out. Don't get me wrong I'm happy for them, in my experience a lot of peeps just get that treat once a year, but at the same time that crappy left out sad feeling is probably how the majority feel on valentines day. You're not alone! I don't even really find valentines romantic, when something is expected for me it really takes away the initial joy and surprise. Its just that crappy left out feeling that reeeaaalllly sucks. I was fine this year because we agreed to not bother and just go out for a meal the night before (just because he had the Friday off work). Like you and Mick, me and Chris enjoy lots of mini breaks/meals out/romantic stuff throughout the year and surely that's much better than just looking forward to one day a year? Hope you feel a lot better today. If you think this is going to come up year after year though you need to put a plan in place to make sure it doesn't. Why not talk to Mick and tell him how it made you feel? Or failing that bring it up closer to this time next year, so he knows it's not okay to just do nothing. Hope you have a lovely weekend hun Xxx

Thanks Bev, that actually put things into perspective for me. We do do lots of things together throughout the year, it's always split down the middle and it usually always my idea. I was single for years and like you I always hated V Day, the first real v day card I ever received was from mick! That was at the grand old age of 33!

I just would like him, not necessarily v day (altho that does seem like a good day) to show his appreciation in me. I do the lions share of the cooking and cleaning and I always consider him, ahead of me. I bake him cakes for goodness sake! Ones that I can't eat. He always says 'Smitty you're the best' (my surname is Smith) - I would love him to show me sometimes.

I won't say anything to him about this, because surely you have to WANT to spoil your lady without being asked, it shouldn't be forced, it's not from the heart then is it? Xxx

 

[La Parisienne]

Charley, I think men are just different. My hubby is terrible. He is rubbish at buying presents (I got nothing for the first Christmas we were together - needless to say I had a right hissy fit!) He is gradually getting better but only because I have explained upteen times how important it is to me that we celebrate things, that he buys me presents and treats me! For my birthday I wrote down the perfume I wanted for him, and reminded him about a million times but I still wasn't sure I was going to get anything... When the day came he had bought me the perfume I wanted, another bottle of perfume and bought me a spa voucher!! If I had never told him that it's important to me he wouldn't have done that because he personally wouldn't want me to do that for him.

I'm like you, do all the cooking, cleaning etc and it doesn't bother me but I do think it's nice to have a few days throughout the year when I'm treated like a princess! I wouldn't say I've forced him to do it, just taught him what makes me happy and what I need! Now he is happy to do it and I don't feel it means any less because I initiated it!

If you don't talk to him about it, it's probs never going to change!

Sorry, I'll stop blabbing on now! Hope you have a good day!

x

 

[Saruk88]

Thanks Bev, that actually put things into perspective for me. We do do lots of things together throughout the year, it's always split down the middle and it usually always my idea. I was single for years and like you I always hated V Day, the first real v day card I ever received was from mick! That was at the grand old age of 33!

I just would like him, not necessarily v day (altho that does seem like a good day) to show his appreciation in me. I do the lions share of the cooking and cleaning and I always consider him, ahead of me. I bake him cakes for goodness sake! Ones that I can't eat. He always says 'Smitty you're the best' (my surname is Smith) - I would love him to show me sometimes.

I won't say anything to him about this, because surely you have to WANT to spoil your lady without being asked, it shouldn't be forced, it's not from the heart then is it? Xxx

Ahhh, chick. I think many of us feel like that at times. I'm always the one suggesting things with us too and it can be sooo hard to motivate him. I have a threshold where if I spend too much time not doing much I get really ansy and restless, whereas he can lay on the sofa all weekend. I like going out, even if it's just for a walk or for dinner but he doesn't really see the point unless there's a reason why we're doing it. So even trying to get him to go away can be hard, he just never has the enthusiasm. If there's anything I could change about him (as lovely as he is) it'd be that. That he'd just have a bit more want to go out and explore the world.

He's quite good when it comes to cleaning and cooking and I'm grateful for that - he also spoils me rotten at birthday/Christmas etc and will occasionally say 'I've bought you a pressie' (it'll always be something a bit strange though, haha) but apart from then it sometimes feels like he sees me as his best mate, not a girlfriend! I think it's easy to fall into that trap though and I should probably do more to try and prevent that. EG stop slobbing around the flat in my big baggy pjs, no make up, no bra and my hair in a messy, unbrushed ball at the top of my head. I'm looking forward to being my goal weight so I can buy lovely, sexy little pyjamas and dresses etc which are just as comfy. Until then though, I'm just going to take all the lovely, little things he does and hold on to them

 

[Charleybarley]

Thanks Ladies, I will respond fully tomorrow, I have had a good afternoon, just had tea and I am knackered -

Food today:

Morning: Badminton and workout - It was a decent workout, altho I am in a bit of pain with my hip and have been for a week or so, I think I have pulled a muscle or something whilst being on a treadmill last Monday, over jealous speed walking!!!!

Brunch: 1 eggs, 1 bacon, 1 sausage, beans, mushrooms and toast - this is a bit of a breakthrough, I usually have 2 of everything but decided to try for just 1 of everything, it was nice and filling





Snack: Small handful of almond and a handful of grapes

Dinner: Cottage Pie and Veg, with gravy




I totally enjoyed this bit left a bit as I was full, I could have kept on but I stopped - get me!!!!

Dessert - grapes

 

[shazzla]

Hi to all you posters on this thread! I have been doing really well since 6th Jan when I started doing SW from home by myself. I have gone way over on my syns this week - Valentine's Day mainly! - and I think my portion sizes are gradually getting bigger.

I should weigh me in the morning but was thinking of giving it a miss -THEN I read your thread and realise if I do that I will slip back into old ways and the weight just won't come off.

So I want to say thank you - I WILL weigh in the morning and post whatever the result may be. It is just one week out of a lifetime and I can get back on track tomorrow with a vengeance.

By the way I would love to know how you add the slimming world banners - I haven't figured that bit out yet?!?!

Here's to us all getting there slowly but surely! x

 

[Charleybarley]

Hi to all you posters on this thread! I have been doing really well since 6th Jan when I started doing SW from home by myself. I have gone way over on my syns this week - Valentine's Day mainly! - and I think my portion sizes are gradually getting bigger. I should weigh me in the morning but was thinking of giving it a miss -THEN I read your thread and realise if I do that I will slip back into old ways and the weight just won't come off. So I want to say thank you - I WILL weigh in the morning and post whatever the result may be. It is just one week out of a lifetime and I can get back on track tomorrow with a vengeance. By the way I would love to know how you add the slimming world banners - I haven't figured that bit out yet?!?! Here's to us all getting there slowly but surely! x

That's right, get on the scales and face the music! Don't get downhearted about the results, use it to know you can do this. We all slip, I am the queen of slipping, but the main thing is to face it.

I will find your diary. As for SW banners, I think they are in an SW sticky in the general SW forum and you just copy and paste. I am on my phone at the moment so I can't figure it out but when I get to work I will have a look.

Good luck! X

 

[Allie2014]

:wave_cry: Hi all


I have decided to start again, for the gazillionth (not actually a word, but the amount of times I have tried and failed, I think I deserve my own number!!) time.

I have tried SW and succeeded (and then failed) and Healthy Eating and succeeded (and then failed) – so I am going for a heady mix of the two and trying to succeed (not fail).

I have a lot of SW healthy meal ideas in my noggin but I won’t be strictly SW because I feel that the limitless portion thing gets me into too much trouble and causes my losses to be slow, so I will be cutting back on my portion sizes and having good oils, like olive oil and coconut oil and also having healthy “fatty” foods like hummous and avocados. I think as you get older, you should be looking after your insides as well as your outsides and while I fully endorse SW I also think that the body needs a Mediterranean diet too, for your brain and to ward off horrible diseases and illnesses.

Christmas and the run up led to me being the biggest I have been in years, last week I caught a tummy bug/food poisoning whatever, but as nasty as it was, it kick-started me into losing 8lbs in one week! Ach it’s an ill wind!

I am feeling better now, but my IBS kicks in when my tummy gets bad and I have to tread carefully with my diet for a week or two. So I am eating quite low fiberous, plain food – and hardly any veg/fruit because for some reason this makes my tummy worse.

So I am oddly starting on a Tuesday, my weigh ins will be on a Friday. I am sort of expecting a small gain this week, because I wasn’t eating much at all last week and lost a drastic amount of weight, I have been eating better this week, so I am not expecting much.

This diary is not so much about hitting numbers and getting to targets, it’s about keeping track of my food, getting healthier, showing off my meal ideas and my musings, but most importantly it’s about sharing with like-minded people, people like me who struggle every day, people who will boost you when you are down, slap your wrists when you are naughty, slap you on your back when you have done well – it’s about you, those of you who are still reading this (aren’t you bored!) my mini-friends of old, who I am scared to show my cyber-face to because I went off the wagon again AND it’s my future new friends who I hope will post a little hello to me and help me along the way

I am a bit of a failure when it comes to food, will power and exercise, I cannot vow to change but I can try – and God loves a trier eh?

So foodage today (bearing in mind, I am not running on full foods yet, given my recent gastric troubles):

B – Special K Multigrain porridge with red berries (they were handing out free sachets at the station and I nabbed 3!) with semi skimmed milk. Not bad actually, no sweetening required.

L – Wholemeal Roll with plain chicken breast

Snack – 2x crackers with almond butter and homemade jam (1/2 tsp of each on each cracker)

Snack – Orange

D – Gammon Steak with New Potatoes. I may try some veg, I will see how my tummy feels later.

I will upload my dinner pic tonight.

Good luck chuck xxxxxx

 

[Charleybarley]

Charley, I think men are just different. My hubby is terrible. He is rubbish at buying presents (I got nothing for the first Christmas we were together - needless to say I had a right hissy fit!) He is gradually getting better but only because I have explained upteen times how important it is to me that we celebrate things, that he buys me presents and treats me! For my birthday I wrote down the perfume I wanted for him, and reminded him about a million times but I still wasn't sure I was going to get anything... When the day came he had bought me the perfume I wanted, another bottle of perfume and bought me a spa voucher!! If I had never told him that it's important to me he wouldn't have done that because he personally wouldn't want me to do that for him.

I'm like you, do all the cooking, cleaning etc and it doesn't bother me but I do think it's nice to have a few days throughout the year when I'm treated like a princess! I wouldn't say I've forced him to do it, just taught him what makes me happy and what I need! Now he is happy to do it and I don't feel it means any less because I initiated it!

If you don't talk to him about it, it's probs never going to change!

Sorry, I'll stop blabbing on now! Hope you have a good day!

x

Thanks Sophie! Its funny how some men just need to be told. Mick too is great at Christmas, I always give him a list of things and tell him to pick something, but he always manages to get them all and more - so he is generous at Christmas and Birthday! I did tell him in the end, because he knew I was sad, what really hurt me was the fact that he said "I would rather get you Nothing than something from MOrrisons!" I told him that even getting me a chocolate bar, or anything, would have been better than nothing. Anyway, its over - I am over it now. It just goes to show, you really DO have to guide some men!

Ahhh, chick. I think many of us feel like that at times. I'm always the one suggesting things with us too and it can be sooo hard to motivate him. I have a threshold where if I spend too much time not doing much I get really ansy and restless, whereas he can lay on the sofa all weekend. I like going out, even if it's just for a walk or for dinner but he doesn't really see the point unless there's a reason why we're doing it. So even trying to get him to go away can be hard, he just never has the enthusiasm. If there's anything I could change about him (as lovely as he is) it'd be that. That he'd just have a bit more want to go out and explore the world.

He's quite good when it comes to cleaning and cooking and I'm grateful for that - he also spoils me rotten at birthday/Christmas etc and will occasionally say 'I've bought you a pressie' (it'll always be something a bit strange though, haha) but apart from then it sometimes feels like he sees me as his best mate, not a girlfriend! I think it's easy to fall into that trap though and I should probably do more to try and prevent that. EG stop slobbing around the flat in my big baggy pjs, no make up, no bra and my hair in a messy, unbrushed ball at the top of my head. I'm looking forward to being my goal weight so I can buy lovely, sexy little pyjamas and dresses etc which are just as comfy. Until then though, I'm just going to take all the lovely, little things he does and hold on to them

It sounds like your man is very similar to mine. He would just sit in front of the TV rather than doing anything. I coerced him last weekend to come down to Southend and walk along the front, with the idea of going for a beer afterwards (this is usually the clincher for Mick!) and honestly the whole time we were walking, he had a face like a wet weekend! Honestly the day really was a wet weekend, but is face never needed to show it. It was like he was just not enjoying himself. I was raised outside (not like Mowgli or anything!) and was never indoors, but he spent his childhood stuck indoors because his parents never let him or his siblings out - so TV and old films was and is still his only method of enjoyment, its very hard to get someone out of this habit. E.G he doesn't understand why people always want to be outside in the summer?! He had actually said this to me on a number of occasions "why must everyone flock outside, just because the sun is shining?" "Err because the sun IS shining perhaps?!?!" The same goes for going to dinner, why go out, when we can cook - he is getting better on that front, although it has to be on his terms and the food he likes.

I think you have hit on something else that is similar to me. We are like best mates and we have always been this way, which in some ways is so nice, because I always feel comfortable around him and I don't feel I have to make an effort, but in other ways I guess that could be my downfall too. It started in the early days when I used to spend the weekend at his, I would turn up and he would be in his pants and they were holey and saggy and horrible - I on the other hand, made sure i looked nice and had lovely underwear, I asked him didn't he think it would be nice to wear some decent pants to greet his new girlfriend with and he looked really confused and said "why? these are my weekend pants, the one I slouch around in?!" The piece de resistance was when I turned up one day and I went to get in bed in the evening and noticed this massive red stain on the underside of the duvet cover - I asked what it was and he said "oh that, its ketchup, I spilled it on my bed last night, so I turned the duvet over" !!!! I was shocked, and said why didn't you change the sheet, and he said "I didn't think you would notice" lazy, gross sod! So I thought there and then what was good for the goose is good for the gander.

In all honestly, I would much prefer what we have to what others have. We laugh all the time and we love each other's company. He just needs some tweaking here and there!