Dairy Of a Lardy kid aged 43 and 3 quarters...

[malamobile]

Crap day so far. Not managed to make soup but did manage to get into a huge row with my eldest son . Short story, he lives a mile away with his gf, lately only ever seem to see them when they come for dinner on a Sunday - no phone calls/texts or anything through the week complete lack of interest in us or his siblings and its been like this for the last month. S asked could he go over while he's off school for the Easter term and O just point blank refused!. Gf is one of them who will challenge everything and is very argumentative - so lots of tolerance and biting of tongue when around her, son is very defensive can't talk to him about nothing (he takes after my first hubs). So texted eldest saying we should make arrangements to meet up maybe talk some things through so he phones me up...conversation slowly goes down hill. Conversation ended with him shouting what's the point when I told him that T had a long weekend off work and we had nothing planned and he knew where we lived etc *shrug!*..lots of things said, lots of 'truths' he didn't like it I didn't expect him to - but now he knows.

I am SICK TO THE BACK TEETH of having to adopt a titanium tolerance of his behaviour and the attitude of his 18 year old bone idle argumentative gf I don't let the 2 youngest talk to me like she does and she's only 3 years older than S......GRRRRR!!!! *gnashing of teeth*.

So had an apple for lunch. Hissed off good and proper...these things keep happening and Im sick of being accused of being the bad guy. Things need to change because I ain't bending to nobodies shape anymore!..

*rant over normal service will resume*

Great you said it and got it out. Whilst it feels uncomfy why should you tolerate the behaviour? As you say his girlfriend shouldn't speak to you like that and why do they expect a free meal if they don't bother?

He will think about it and no doubt come round eventually - they usually do, especially if you getting angry is out of character - he will know it must be true.

Chin up xx

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

Oh no Lisa. Crappy crappy day. Hope you're ok chick?!?! Xxx

I'll be ok El - I think I'm just a little old fashioned and being ex services just have expectations of the younger generation and won't tolerate anything less.

Anyway have managed to make watercress soup and chickpea Dahl loaf so not all bad xx

 

[incaravanland]

It's not a bad expectation to have Lisa!!! My mum and dad have always brought me up with morals and respect for others so I can understand why you would be annoyed. Do you feel better now you've said something? X

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

Great you said it and got it out. Whilst it feels uncomfy why should you tolerate the behaviour? As you say his girlfriend shouldn't speak to you like that and why do they expect a free meal if they don't bother?

He will think about it and no doubt come round eventually - they usually do, especially if you getting angry is out of character - he will know it must be true.

Chin up xx

He gets away with murder, M...so when I kick, I kick hard!. They are both due a baby in sept they need to get their sh!t together, because they're in for a massive culture shock if they thing it's all fairy tales and playing mummy and daddy..
xxx

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

It's not a bad expectation to have Lisa!!! My mum and dad have always brought me up with morals and respect for others so I can understand why you would be annoyed. Do you feel better now you've said something? X

I do feel better, it needed to be said, things where building up. T said they got off lightly..at least while he's sulking he won't be able to get away from what I've said. They both need a reality check before September when <god help them> they both become parents xx

 

[incaravanland]

I do feel better, it needed to be said, things where building up. T said they got off lightly..at least while he's sulking he won't be able to get away from what I've said. They both need a reality check before September when <god help them> they both become parents xx

see......that's proper mothering. My mum would give me a rocker up the ar*e if she thought I was out of line too. It's for our own good! Good on you. Hell think about it and reflect on it for sure xxx

 

[malamobile]

I'll be ok El - I think I'm just a little old fashioned and being ex services just have expectations of the younger generation and won't tolerate anything less.

Anyway have managed to make watercress soup and chickpea Dahl loaf so not all bad xx

Nope that's not old fashioned its just basic respect. You're not wrong to demand that at all. I am the person who when I wait to let people through a gap or hold the door open for people who can't open their down turned mouths to say 'thanks' that says 'don't mention it I live standing here holding the door for you'! Hate bad manners of any kind

 

[malamobile]

He gets away with murder, M...so when I kick, I kick hard!. They are both due a baby in sept they need to get their sh!t together, because they're in for a massive culture shock if they thing it's all fairy tales and playing mummy and daddy..
xxx

No! Granny Lisa? I don't believe it you're far too young!

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

No! Granny Lisa? I don't believe it you're far too young!

Why thank-you! lol don't feel it though...

he's well and truly trapped and she too young and ridiculously immature. S is more mature than she is...it's a ticking time-bomb, silly, silly kids they are. xx

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

see......that's proper mothering. My mum would give me a rocker up the ar*e if she thought I was out of line too. It's for our own good! Good on you. Hell think about it and reflect on it for sure xxx

My Mam would of bounced me off every corner of my bedroom if I looked at her the wrong way. They'll find out soon enough how easy it all is lol xx

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

Nope that's not old fashioned its just basic respect. You're not wrong to demand that at all. I am the person who when I wait to let people through a gap or hold the door open for people who can't open their down turned mouths to say 'thanks' that says 'don't mention it I live standing here holding the door for you'! Hate bad manners of any kind

Manners cost nothing - I HATE disrespect xx

 

[malamobile]

Why thank-you! lol don't feel it though...

he's well and truly trapped and she too young and ridiculously immature. S is more mature than she is...it's a ticking time-bomb, silly, silly kids they are. xx

You will - give it a few months and you'll be a spring chicken and people will say 'no, not a nan, not you, you are a hottie'!!! It's awful when you can see things from outside and know its an uhoh moment... But cest la vie, they will learn and then watch the light dawn and the respect appear!

 

[incaravanland]

Ill second the manners bit. Loving the new profile pic lovely laydee!!! X

 

[Micci]

Oooh, lots has happened today. Sorry your son isn't pulling his weight, I understand your feelings and hope he sees his part in all this. And like you hope he and GF pull their socks up by Septemeber.

How is your daughter responding to the ABs now?

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

Oooh, lots has happened today. Sorry your son isn't pulling his weight, I understand your feelings and hope he sees his part in all this. And like you hope he and GF pull their socks up by Septemeber.

How is your daughter responding to the ABs now?

My eldest son is not very good at communicating with me. He spent a lot of time on and off living with his dad and unfortunately its not the typical mother/son relationship and he takes great offence at being brought down a peg or two by me - he's a lovely quiet boy...desperate to please, but doesn't take a ticking off very well. Whereas the other two take it on board and get over it within 10 minutes - he doesn't he will now sulk, and then that's when the guilt creeps in. But T has said I must not take it back but leave what is said, said and leave him to decide how long he wants to sulk....oh hum!

Anyhoo...

Changed S's dressing tonight and the toe is doing really well, she finished the antibiotics tonight and the other S finishes his Thursday. I can see her toe being fully healed within the next two weeks

xx

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

Ill second the manners bit. Loving the new profile pic lovely laydee!!! X

I changed it back again lol xx

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

So anyway the chickpea Dahl loaf tonight was the best yet - used bachelors Chinese style rice 2 packets instead of one and 2 tins of chick pea Dahl instead of one and 6 eggs instead of 4 and put a layer of reduced fat cheese on top and let it bake for longer...and it was delicious!! Not a scrap left...clean plates all round .

So took a cuppa tea up to bed to catch up on some reading and had some of the biggest grapes I've ever seen, they where more like plums! I had a lovely tangy blueberry yoghurt too.

Me and S are gonna get the baking box out tomorrow...she loves to bake and S is having one of his friends to sleep over tomorrow night. So after breakfast and a little bit of basic housework think my time will be shared between baking and duvet hugging in our PJ's because its still ridiculously cold here and S still can't walk far and the other S is still abit delicate and on his antibiotics ... so baking cakes watching rubbish TV with the central heating on full blast is planned for tomorrow.

T has already pointed out that I seem less jumpy and more mellow and less panicky and don't have that worried look on my face so much since starting my little blue miracles yesterday morning, I do feel an improvement and the sticking feeling seems to be not so obvious either. I noticed too that I've had no pounding heart or butterflies either today which is miraculous considering what went on today. I hate conflict or challenging anyone or shouting or arguing. I'm more likely to cry from anger and frustration than scream out at someone - but I managed pretty well today lol still he is my boy and now I do feel guilty and sad that we've 'fell-out' but I still feel it was justified. I doubt I will hear from him or his gf over the Easter holidays - T said if he's not been in touch by Monday he will go and have a chat. Hmmmm...

Anyway had no syns today - so gonna have a hot choc and try and switch off from a crappy day.

Love you all xxxx

 

[malamobile]

So anyway the chickpea Dahl loaf tonight was the best yet - used bachelors Chinese style rice 2 packets instead of one and 2 tins of chick pea Dahl instead of one and 6 eggs instead of 4 and put a layer of reduced fat cheese on top and let it bake for longer...and it was delicious!! Not a scrap left...clean plates all round .

So took a cuppa tea up to bed to catch up on some reading and had some of the biggest grapes I've ever seen, they where more like plums! I had a lovely tangy blueberry yoghurt too.

Me and S are gonna get the baking box out tomorrow...she loves to bake and S is having one of his friends to sleep over tomorrow night. So after breakfast and a little bit of basic housework think my time will be shared between baking and duvet hugging in our PJ's because its still ridiculously cold here and S still can't walk far and the other S is still abit delicate and on his antibiotics ... so baking cakes watching rubbish TV with the central heating on full blast is planned for tomorrow.

T has already pointed out that I seem less jumpy and more mellow and less panicky and don't have that worried look on my face so much since starting my little blue miracles yesterday morning, I do feel an improvement and the sticking feeling seems to be not so obvious either. I noticed too that I've had no pounding heart or butterflies either today which is miraculous considering what went on today. I hate conflict or challenging anyone or shouting or arguing. I'm more likely to cry from anger and frustration than scream out at someone - but I managed pretty well today lol still he is my boy and now I do feel guilty and sad that we've 'fell-out' but I still feel it was justified. I doubt I will hear from him or his gf over the Easter holidays - T said if he's not been in touch by Monday he will go and have a chat. Hmmmm...

Anyway had no syns today - so gonna have a hot choc and try and switch off from a crappy day.

Love you all xxxx

Tomorrows a new one. All will be well. i reckon standing by your comments is right but i get that guilty questioning my reaction thing too but you know in your heart of hearts it is reasonable and justified. Glad blue pills are working. My 5 days on them were great!!! I use valerina if I need anything but haven't for months now. Still lurking anxiety as a subtext to everything but that will fade if I work at it. So nice you're feeling less jumpy - that poundy heart thing is horrid. We have so much to look forward to! I know they say you shouldn't think 'when I'm thin I will be this or that or do this or that' but they have clearly never been overweight with the limitations ( imagined or real) this brings. Things are really going to be good you know & your argument today is a step in you getting stronger and stronger even if it doesn't seem like that now. Have a lovely day tomorrow - I'm jealous- got my annual appraisal! Xx

 

[Lisa-Lisa]

Tomorrows a new one. All will be well. i reckon standing by your comments is right but i get that guilty questioning my reaction thing too but you know in your heart of hearts it is reasonable and justified. Glad blue pills are working. My 5 days on them were great!!! I use valerina if I need anything but haven't for months now. Still lurking anxiety as a subtext to everything but that will fade if I work at it. So nice you're feeling less jumpy - that poundy heart thing is horrid. We have so much to look forward to! I know they say you shouldn't think 'when I'm thin I will be this or that or do this or that' but they have clearly never been overweight with the limitations ( imagined or real) this brings. Things are really going to be good you know & your argument today is a step in you getting stronger and stronger even if it doesn't seem like that now. Have a lovely day tomorrow - I'm jealous- got my annual appraisal! Xx

....and it will be a travesty if they don't give you a disgustingly large pay-rise with fri-mon weekends and a 2 day week starting at 11am and finishing at 1pm xx

 

[incaravanland]

My Mam would of bounced me off every corner of my bedroom if I looked at her the wrong way. They'll find out soon enough how easy it all is lol xx

Mine too!!! x