charl_young
Gold Member
Ugh I'm so annoyed, the ex has once again screwed things up. I wish the boys didn't even have him around as I don't think his influence is particularly good! He 'moved out' of his own home, the boys other house and left his girlfriend there to move in with his mates in some bachelor pad which is totally not suitable or able environment for the boys to go to and just expected his parents to take them on his times when he's supposed to have them, they are 65 and 75, and although don't mind it's just too much, nevermind that they have most of the money invested in the house he just left! So I'm keeping them until he sorts himself out, so they are annoyed at me they aren't seeing their dad, he hadn't even asked his parents if this new thing was ok, or said if its any kind of permanent solution, it's just too much for them, so as usual we are sorting out his messes and the boys are blaming me for him not gettin them. What kind of dad just leaves his kids home which he and his parents own so some girl who has no right to it stays there!! They don't even have a proper bedroom at his parents house. Luckily his parents agree I should keep them and maybe it'll force him into waking up and sorting it all out. From experience I don't think he will, he's a 31 year old child, actually worse than a child. I just wish he would go work away or something and then the boys would just have our influence as its clear unless there's someone else there to look after them too he's incapable. Argh!!! And he's made loads of sly comments to the boys about us going to Thailand without them, I haven't been on a proper holiday for 6 years!! He had 3 last year plus numerous weekends away/weddings and stag do's, without the boys. And 2 that I know of this year! So to make them feel I've left them out is awful. God that guy is a mess, he actually doesn't deserve amazing kids which has been all my hard work, he does nothing to encourage their growth. I'm just pleased his parents agree with me about it all, as that would be difficult. Anyway sorry! I needed a rant so badly. I wonder what would be said if it was the other way round and the kind of abuse i'd get off his family if I'd just upped and left my home and left my bf here and moved me and the kids to my mums, I bet they'd all have something to say about it!