1978Emma
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Hi CG, I think so many of us operate in extremes, like you one day I can feel so motivated and really want to eat healthily and then one little bit of stress or upset and I suddenly feel the complete opposite, like whats the point in bothering etc, I am so all or nothing. I am trying to do the middle of the road approach now but its so difficult, only the other night I had been doing so well and then suddenly felt really low and finished off this packet of Carrs cheese crackers, I usually use them to go with meals and have say 4 or six with a meal well I ate all the ones left in the box, I was like "where did that come from?", I just realised emotions plus trigger foods equals disaster for me, I now have stopped getting those in the house and just get things that if I do go to have an extra one I will not continue munching on them for ever and a day!
I think as well we often expect far too much of ourselves as if we should be "perfect", we are human and sometimes we slip up, the key is how you cope with the slip up trust me your lemon cupcakes will not have wrecked your progress just like my cheese cracker munching didn't wreck my plan, it was a temporary glitch which as people who use food for comfort is going to happen at times. I am finding the best way is to quote my therapist use "self soothe" techniques which for me could be having a relaxing shower, a nice hot cup of hot chocolate or tea or whatever you fancy, listening to some up beat music, anything that just helps me to feel good about myself during a stressed period, relax and change the feeling of stressed to more chilled and the more chilled me doesn't need the binge food so much.
Also don't worry about the scales so much as if you are staying on track most of the time then the weight will come off and also sometimes we just stall or as women our body weight can fluctuate so easily that we can beat ourselves up for a slight gain when it could just be something like constipation, time of the month etc etc Also re the scales I bought a new set, really quite expensive, well they were crap they told me I was half a stone less or more depending where I weighed in the house ha ha now I have got some new ones which at least give me the same weight each time I get on as every time I weigh in I like to hop on them three times or so times on a Sat morning, mad I know!!
Oh and exactly re the removal of the crutches in our life, food has always been like my best friend, worst enemy as well but best friend, something I could rely on when times got tough and now my binge food isn't there as readily and I feel like I am going through some weird bereavement for it, a real loss, something I have used since I was 8 yrs old is no longer there to support me and as a result my OCD which is my other main crutch has gone through the roof, its like a balloon, hold it in at one end the other end gets bigger, so annoying though!!
Em xx
I think as well we often expect far too much of ourselves as if we should be "perfect", we are human and sometimes we slip up, the key is how you cope with the slip up trust me your lemon cupcakes will not have wrecked your progress just like my cheese cracker munching didn't wreck my plan, it was a temporary glitch which as people who use food for comfort is going to happen at times. I am finding the best way is to quote my therapist use "self soothe" techniques which for me could be having a relaxing shower, a nice hot cup of hot chocolate or tea or whatever you fancy, listening to some up beat music, anything that just helps me to feel good about myself during a stressed period, relax and change the feeling of stressed to more chilled and the more chilled me doesn't need the binge food so much.
Also don't worry about the scales so much as if you are staying on track most of the time then the weight will come off and also sometimes we just stall or as women our body weight can fluctuate so easily that we can beat ourselves up for a slight gain when it could just be something like constipation, time of the month etc etc Also re the scales I bought a new set, really quite expensive, well they were crap they told me I was half a stone less or more depending where I weighed in the house ha ha now I have got some new ones which at least give me the same weight each time I get on as every time I weigh in I like to hop on them three times or so times on a Sat morning, mad I know!!
Oh and exactly re the removal of the crutches in our life, food has always been like my best friend, worst enemy as well but best friend, something I could rely on when times got tough and now my binge food isn't there as readily and I feel like I am going through some weird bereavement for it, a real loss, something I have used since I was 8 yrs old is no longer there to support me and as a result my OCD which is my other main crutch has gone through the roof, its like a balloon, hold it in at one end the other end gets bigger, so annoying though!!
Em xx
