Well another busy day! Not getting on here much - will have to do something about that lol!!
Well, it went against EVERYTHING I believe in or wanted to do, but hubby came home and said his mother had stopped smoking, so could we go up this afternoon! ARRRGGHHH!
I went againt everything and agreed!
His mum was very pleasant, but his dad completely ignored me! What the F is that all about! I mentioned it to hubby on the way home, and he just said, 'Don't worry about it.'
I told him that I didn't think it was very nice, seems as I've not actually done anything wrong! He didn't really say much to that, but at least he knows I am very unhappy about it.
Well, two can play that game!
I'm pleased in a way - not for me, as if I never had to go again it would be too soon, but Max gets to see all his cousins and his Nan & Grandad, and he enjoyed himself. However, I am not prepared to be ignored when I've done nothing wrong! If anything, I think (am I wrong!) I deserve an apology! Never gonna happen though, so no point even hoping for that!
If they think I'm just going to paper over this and forget about it, they're wrong.
I don't know what to do yet, I have to have a good think about everything, but there's no way I'm putting up with that!
There's soooooooooo much history, but a little snippet -
Around 6 years ago, hubby's mum & dad had to declare themselves bankrupt (her fault - gambling). To save hubby's dad's business - when NO ONE ELSE would help (including any of his children), I bought hubby's dad's van off him so he didn't lose it, therefore he wouldn't lose his trade either.
I also loaned them a huge amount of money to save them. This was around Springtime, and hubby's Dad told me he'd start to pay me back by October of that year.
October came and went, no money. I didn't say anything as I knew they were struggling and I didn't need the money at the time.
However, around 18 months later, hubby and I split up - hubby turned nasty, and stopped paying my wages (I work for him). I had no choice - I had to ask for them to pay me back, as much as they could, as soon as they could.
Of course he couldn't pay me, so hubby sold the car (which was half mine!!!) and gave me the money back, so in effect, he took over the loan.
Because of me asking that, hubby's dad has never forgiven me!
WTF!!!!
Strange how some people have VERY short memories - never ceases to amaze me! I saved his livelihood, and saved them from bankruptcy. No thanks (didn't really want thanks though to be honest), but I did NOT expect him to turn against me because HIS SON left me with no choice but to ask for my WELL OVERDUE money back!
Can you see what I'm up against here?!
I will never understand how he could treat me like that when I really did save his a-ss!! And it seems, he's still got a problem today.
Never again will I do any favours - not if this is how I'm treated!
Told you there was a lot of history, didn't I, lol!! And that's just a BIT of it! I could write a flippin book!
Now, I could be wrong in my views, but that's how I feel and I can't change that. Nor do I want to.
I think I deserve better - my heart is always in the right place, UNTIL I am pushed too far, then I snap, and when I snap, I REALLY snap!!
Anyway, that's what's been on my mind today....INJUSTICE lol!!
God, if I told my mum, she would go ballistic, so I've got to keep quiet!
And no matter what, I suppose I've got to go there now she's stopped smoking, seems as that was the only reason I was keeping Max away!
Grrrrrr, it goes against everything I feel comfortable with!
I wish I could speak my mind, put them straight, but that would cause huge problems - and that's not fair on hubby. So, I suppose I'll have to grin and bear it. Really not happy, and wondering what I can to do get my point across without stabbing them with it, ha!!
D-Day tomo - end of week 4, am excited for WI, but not expecting much. My clothes feel great on me - I've yet to get in to some, but I know that will happen
Will post results asa I can in the morning!
I have my eye on a lovely dress for our friend's wedding, but am holding off till the last minute - that'll be my treat to myself for all this work!
Not that I can afford it, am so skint now Max is here - I don't have anything left over now every month apart from a pittance to live on!
Wonder if hubby's dad would give me a loan......
Anyway, I am fine. I can hold my head up high knowing I was the bigger person by going. They can't accuse me of trying to cause trouble - even though they have managed to accuse me of everything but grand larceny so far!!! Ha!
So, I figure, slowly-slowly-catchy-monkey. I'll get my say. I just don't know how or when yet!
Hope you've all had great days?
See you tomo,
Goodnight Lovelies!
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