January 2009 - Starters

[susianna]

Sorry youare feeling like that ladies. I have to say that I didn't feel left out or isolated during abstinence.I hope that'll happen to you when you are properly in your stride and in ketosis.
i made the decision at the start that I would still sit down for dinner every evening with the family even though I wasn't eating. My place was always laid at the table with a jug of water and a nice glass, spoon for stirring my hot thai chilli, black pepper and habanero tabasco and then followed that with black coffee.
I made it all last so I was occupied all the time and we discussed our day as usual.
A couple of weeks after I started we had a murder mystery dinner party and I cooked for 12 and laid myself a place the same as everyone else. Only a couple of people noticed I didn't eat and no-one remarked on it. At that stage I hadn't told many people about LL.
I vowed that I wouldn't put my life on hold for months and feel deprived so I went to parties, a wedding, residential training courses in posh hotels, out to dinner with friends, had barbecues, entertained at home etc.As the weight started to drop off and I felt better and looked better and had loads more energy the motivation was easy.
I did it like that because I wanted to prepare myself for the rest of my life, not just go on a diet to lose the weight and then go back to my old ways.
I hope it'll work and I hope you find the way that works best for you.
Good luck. xxx
I hope you find a way that works for you.

That's great advice SB..thank you!! My way of thinking has been very different to your's as I knew I wanted to do LL for most of last year but we had holidays booked and occaisions etc so I planned to start now and have kept the first part of the year holiday free and have tried not to make social plans etc......why...well I suppose I didn't want to tempt myself and perhaps I don't have enough faith in myself.....I so wish I was in your mindset as you have carried on your life as normal and normality is what I am missing so I will give your words of wisdom alot of thought as I think that I need to be more normal to be able to suceed at this and I really miss eating with the family and know that I will start to miss having friends over for dinner and socialising etc....actually only this afternoon when I picked up my children from school a friend mentioned we should get a date in the diary for going to them for dinner and I explained about LL and put her off...maybe I should re-think and go????

 

[westiegirl]

Thanks WG....that's exactly how I feel, like i'm existing rather than living but you are so right with the self imposed isolation and that has made me realise that I need to get out and about and try and be more "normal" and not make the next shake the only thing I think about.....and i'm sure as time goes on it will become "normal".

.....and yes if its not food adverts, its "come dine with me" or "Masterchef"

It does become more "normal" but being honest, I did find that it still never became entirely so. But I think I've said it somewhere else to day, it's just a means to an end

 

[westiegirl]

I agree SB. I haven't started yet but I am going to try and keep to my normal life as possible. In fact we have decided that we are going to go somewhere for a walk every sunday morning, either the local park or somewhere further afield. He really likes walking and so do I but at my weight sometimes I just can't be bothered.

Well done to all of you that have already started, I am sure that you are all doing fine. What fantastic weight losses we are seeing so far, congratulations to all.

Just four more days to go. Going to start eating healthy now and cutting down on the carbs.

Keep up the good work guys x x

What a great attitude Becky, I can't wait for you to start almost as much as you can't

 

[EmVeg]

Sorry you're feeling a bit down... but this is exactly what we are all here for. To have people to talk to, or at least have somewhere to put these feelings down and not have to keep then in side.

 

[susianna]

Sorry you're feeling a bit down... but this is exactly what we are all here for. To have people to talk to, or at least have somewhere to put these feelings down and not have to keep then in side.

Thanks EV you are so right...your support is invaluable..and you are all fantastic!! :wavey:

 

[slendablenda]

It's their problem

What I found after a while was that peole would apologise for eating or drinking when we went out and I was with them. Even after months people would say "I feel so guilty eating in front of you" or "I'll just have coffee then"!
I spent quite a lot of time trying to put other people at ease.
Eventually I used to say I don't have a problem with it, why do you?
Sorry WG, I have read some of your posts and know you have been or maybe still are going through a difficult period of your life and I really admire you for having another go and all the experience of LL and advice you are giving us on here.
I am aware that I probably sound gushing
and as though my bubble could burst at any time. I too have had more than my share of "issues" to address and deal with for many many years and although I know it's not a miracle for everyone the changes that doing LL, Losing 12stone and having the CBT as well as the support from my LLC, the ladies in my group,inspiration from this forum as well as a lot of hard work and soul searching from me and deciding I need to move on rather than look behind me has been no less than a miracle for me.
I feel strong enough to cope when the rosy glow subsides.
Good luck to you too xxx

 

[westiegirl]

What I found after a while was that peole would apologise for eating or drinking when we went out and I was with them. Even after months people would say "I feel so guilty eating in front of you" or "I'll just have coffee then"!
I spent quite a lot of time trying to put other people at ease.
Eventually I used to say I don't have a problem with it, why do you?
Sorry WG, I have read some of your posts and know you have been or maybe still are going through a difficult period of your life and I really admire you for having another go and all the experience of LL and advice you are giving us on here.
I am aware that I probably sound gushing
and as though my bubble could burst at any time. I too have had more than my share of "issues" to address and deal with for many many years and although I know it's not a miracle for everyone the changes that doing LL, Losing 12stone and having the CBT as well as the support from my LLC, the ladies in my group,inspiration from this forum as well as a lot of hard work and soul searching from me and deciding I need to move on rather than look behind me has been no less than a miracle for me.
I feel strong enough to cope when the rosy glow subsides.
Good luck to you too xxx

Don't apologise SB, I am an LL girl at heart, I still gush, even after trying other diets (and failing miserably on CD). During that tough time in my life LL was a blessing, an inspiration and a complete eye opener for me. It give me something to look forward to each week and when the weight started to come off, the confidence to make some really positive life changes. In fact I loved LL so much I almost became a LLC, but for many reasons I had to reject that.

Yes, I am going through some tough times at the moment, but I think LL will be a constant that will help me regain some of what I lost over the last couple of years (and it certainly ain't weight ).

Keep being you SB, your wonderful positive and insightful posts keep many of us inspired

BTW I also used to tell people not to worry about eating in front of me. I would always remind them that this was my choice and I was more than happy with that choice.

 

[EmVeg]

Hmmmm... just made a strawberry moose with hot water...just wanted to see how it would go. Got the consitency much better than last nights choc attempt! I'm trying to make each shake a different thickness...normal, frothy, stick mud, light moose! It's working well so far!

Just found some little lumps! Can pretend its the fruit

 

[louale]

Hey All,

Sorry to hear that some of you are having a bad time, I felt a little fed up myself yesterday, but reminded myself why I'm doing this and started to think about how I would feel in June if I don't get to my goal. Hope that you feel much better tomorrow.

Well done to everyone so far, we're over half way through the week. Good luck to those just about to start.

Sounds great Em, you'll have to let us know which are the best mooses to try and the consistency - I might start trying them out next week, when I've had a taste of all my packs.

Tried the vanilla tonight, which I thought was really nice. Is it just me or are the packs getting sweeter as the days go by?

Didn't have my first pack till 12 today, as I really wasn't feeling hungry, I really didn't expect to feel like this so soon.

Louale x

 

[daisydoll]

morning!
just had an iced banana shake for brekkie.
i had planned to spend the morning in bed reading and sleeping as i thought i would feel really tired, but i feel great - even tho my daughter woke me up at 4am for an hour.
Ive got my stop in later so am looking forward to that.

Anyone got any interesting plans for today?
daisy x

 

[slendablenda]

Good luck at the drop in,

i bet you'll be pleased and surprised.
I know I'm not a January starter, but I've got those exciting tasks oh housework and ironing which I've been putting off since New Year! Boring - but i'm listening to Sounds of the Sixties, my 3 cats are playful because they don't want to be outside in the cold frost - so I may be able to put off my chores yet again!
You see, it's not all glamour, positive strokes and high heels when you get to RTM.
I'll look in later to see how you get on.
:fingerscrossed:

 

[susianna]

Hey All,

Sorry to hear that some of you are having a bad time, I felt a little fed up myself yesterday, but reminded myself why I'm doing this and started to think about how I would feel in June if I don't get to my goal. Hope that you feel much better tomorrow.

Well done to everyone so far, we're over half way through the week. Good luck to those just about to start.

Sounds great Em, you'll have to let us know which are the best mooses to try and the consistency - I might start trying them out next week, when I've had a taste of all my packs.

Tried the vanilla tonight, which I thought was really nice. Is it just me or are the packs getting sweeter as the days go by?

Didn't have my first pack till 12 today, as I really wasn't feeling hungry, I really didn't expect to feel like this so soon.

Louale x

Thanks Louale.....am feeling a little less irrational today thank god! I took onboard everyone's advice and hopefully things will be a bit easier!

SB....gonna have lunch (with my shake of course!) with the family today and not shut myself away whilst they eat....might even be able to manage dinner but we'll see!

 

[EmVeg]

Good luck Daisydoll!

Have my drop in today as well ... but not hoping for much as this is only the beginning of my third day.

Just had a ice vanilla shake... found it easier to eat with a spoon!

Right, off to my pop in.be back in an hour or so with the news!

 

[somewhere_inside_is_me]

Hi everybody!
No, I haven't lapsed, just didn't get online yesterday at all for various reasons.
A big welcome to all the new Jan starters - have we got an up to date list of WIs and goals?
S.x

 

[somewhere_inside_is_me]

***WARNING -FOOD TALK***




I am still on plan and still mostly fine except for being a bit lacking in energy (c'mon, kick in vits!). I did have mild cravings for the first time yesterday, and all my dreams seem to be about food (or sex, hmmm what does this say? LOL)) - last night I dreamed I was making a huge apple pie.
My 16 year old brought his friend home from school for the weekend, since when the house has been full of various take-aways (KFC Subway Chinese), fizzy drinks and chocolate! And his mum, bless her, sent me a bottle of my favourite Shiraz to say thanks for having him! But apart from cursing the mess, I'm fine with the sight and smells, which is good - after all, this is real life. I thought SB had some very useful advice on this thread about just carrying on with being a social being/family member at meal times BTW.

 

[somewhere_inside_is_me]

Fingers crossed for DD and Em for midweek WIs!

 

[westiegirl]

Good luck today for your pop ins, looking forward to hearing how you've done. Em, I bet you'll be surprised

Susianna, glad you feel better today. Enjoy your day.

SB, you days sounds as mundane as mine, a few chores but mostly doing nothing. I was woken about 3am by my Bro's cat on my bed. He has 2 and they use my flat as their sleeping base but never usually stay overnight, so I was quite surprised to see her on my bed last night. We had a little fuss until I fell asleep again and she was gone by this morning.

Sharon, never even crossed my mind that you would have lapsed - I've seen how focussed you are. I can't wait for our proper weigh in now

I am feeling actually quite hungry this morning. I am beginning to wonder if I've not actually got into ketosis yet, although today is day 5. I have dog breath though, but I'm not cold. Surely I must be by now!!! I must keep remembering that I felt like this for the first week last time so it's no big deal. Don't worry I'll just tough it out

 

[westiegirl]

***WARNING -FOOD TALK***




I am still on plan and still mostly fine except for being a bit lacking in energy (c'mon, kick in vits!). I did have mild cravings for the first time yesterday, and all my dreams seem to be about food (or sex, hmmm what does this say? LOL)) - last night I dreamed I was making a huge apple pie.
My 16 year old brought his friend home from school for the weekend, since when the house has been full of various take-aways (KFC Subway Chinese), fizzy drinks and chocolate! And his mum, bless her, sent me a bottle of my favourite Shiraz to say thanks for having him! But apart from cursing the mess, I'm fine with the sight and smells, which is good - after all, this is real life. I thought SB had some very useful advice on this thread about just carrying on with being a social being/family member at meal times BTW.

I think food dreams are quite common on this diet. I know a lot of people on other threads have mentioned having them.

You can save the Shiraz for celebration when you get to goal and through RTM

 

[somewhere_inside_is_me]

You can save the Shiraz for celebration when you get to goal and through RTM

LOL I had no idea that wine kept that long! Always treated it like fresh chilled food in the past

 

[westiegirl]

LOL I had no idea that wine kept that long! Always treated it like fresh chilled food in the past

Yeah me too Maybe it will age nicely over the next few months :8855: