Hi Karen, just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and all your stresses at the moment- omg your hubby's job/work money thing I cant believe that its so infuriating! it makes you feel like you cant do anything about it...- I can imagine my oh doing the same thing as he can bit a wishy washy sometimes... then he'll be all cross about it because deep down he prob feels he should have done more about it...and even if you dont say anything you cant help thinking well why didnt you stand up for yourself more? aaargh!
About the whole moving thing I think you're right to see how the kids and you get on out there in nov which will be testing the water type thing but I think you shouldnt let your mum hold you back as yes she is your faimly but ultimately your family now is your kids you and hubby and you have to do what is best for you guys as I know you dont want to think about it but one day your mum and dad wont be around anymore and you'll still be left wondering what happened to your life.
From the way it sounds your mum doesnt have much else going on in her life and she is terrified you are going to take what little she has away but ultimately even though she is older it is no excuse not to look after yourself and not to take responsibilty for her life. The way she reacts to things is HER problem not YOURS, everybody has to take responsibilty for their own lives and you cant let her inability to let you go with grace stop you making what could be a great decision for you and yours. It is not fair of her to try and make you feel guilty about wanting to do something different and it says more about her than it does about you.
we're in the same kind of financial boat- up the creek without a paddle! except we dont own our own home or anything just renting but I have been looking for jobs as we are just so broke we cant even afford where we live now now and even though we are on a low income we dont get any help or benefits or anything so its totally frustrating and as lo is young would still have to fork out for childcare so only full time work would give us enough to make it worth it- AAAAAAARRRRRGH!!!!
we have and /are totally considering moving abroad. Either to America as oh's dad lives out there with step mum and they have just become citizens and used to live in Idaho ???! But now moving to california which will be much nicer we havent been out there as a family yet but will defintiely plan to in next 2 years I think and if we like it will seriously think about how we can do it. oh's uncle and aunt (seperate) live in australia and new zealand respectively so we may have a window there to get sponsered to live there.
Lets think about it... How much better do you feel when the sun is shining? ten times better in all 3 of those countries they get more sun than we do here where it is miserable 75% of the time, it costs ridiculous amounts of money to live here for quite a low standard of living and housing in some areas, we are highly taxed but when you need the extra financial boost do you get any of that help back? NO!!! I could go on... but the point is living in this country is hyped up so much but compared to other western countries it is so expensive even food here is ridiculous!! we want to try living in loads of different counties if we can its just getting the skills to enable us to do so! oh is doing teacher training but he hates it so far and is moaning all day everyday about it but he doesnt finish his placement which NEXT july then he will have to pay back his bursary for doing the course (13 grand- our income) so he is quite stressed as I guess you would be doing a job you didnt really get on with.
Sorry this has turned into a big moan about my life- sorry Karen! I jsut meant to sympathise with you oops!
Thinking of you anyway (under all that moaning...!)
whats herbalife anyhoo? xxx
