pjallen1982
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-1.5lbs this week
Well done. Yet again another good loss x
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-1.5lbs this week
Well done. Yet again another good loss x
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-1.5lbs off this week and won 'Couple of the year' with my friend Anne- a couple of yummy mummies
Ah well done! Wish I could get losing this flab! X
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Well done on the loss and the award.
I'm sorry things are not so good with Paul.
I would not be happy about the night stop overs either. When it out of necessity fair enough. Maybe you could just do the weekend stop overs for special occasions.
I'm dreading Ben staying out the night. We've a wedding in May so unless something comes up that'll be the first time but I don't think either of us will relax.
Anyway I hope things improve, do what makes you happy! I have a 15 year old stepdaughter and her dad left when she was 9 but him and her mum were living separately ( in the same house) from when she was 2 and she will say it was miserable and she wished they'd have spit up sooner. Sorry rambling xx
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Hi hun x so sorry to hear things haven't been great with you and Paul.
Me and John have been through a bad patch recently too, pretty bad at times as well! Well, things all came to a head a couple of weeks ago where I basically told him to leave (deep down, I know I don't want that to happen - but he needed a shock) and since then, things have been a lot better. I'm not saying do that by the way, I'm just letting you know that we have been in the same boat. Since then though, we have had no arguments and John has been so much more supportive around the home and helpful with Amelia etc. He's also booked a weekend away to the New Forest for Valentines as we both agreed we needed some couple time.
It's very very easy to fall into the habit of just being "parents" when you have a child. Admittedly, we do still have sex but sometimes it's more like just "going through the motions because it's what you do" rather than having sex because we're a hot couple who love each other - if you know what I mean? But we definitely don't do anything as a couple, or even 'remember' that we are married, meant to be in love etc. I think a lot of relationships change after having children, so you're certainly not alone.
I'd arrange to sit down (with no arguments) and tell each other exactly how you're feeling. If you're anything like me aswell, sex can't just be "arranged" and also if you're feeling a little low in your relationship, it's difficult to enjoy anyway. Once the relationship is back on track - I'm sure the bedroom antics will follow naturally.
Definitely have a chat, and then plan to have a night where you are just a married couple, rather than being mum and dad.
I do know how you feel hun as I've been there recently. xxxxx
-1lb off this week! 2 weeks and 2.5lbs to my 2 stone award x