Pregnancy and Baby Advice Thread: From Conception to Birth, and Beyond!

[PrincessPeach]

Oh Frances, huge cuddles xx I can't imagine how tough this time of year is for you. I find anniversaries very hard too, but the fact that this is your mum - it must be incredibly hard Try not to worry too much, I had a bit of a meltdown in October after John's grandad suddenly dying, my cousin almost dying etc etc and phoned the MW crying my eyes out, panicking that all of these tears would effect baby. She reassured me and told me not to worry - basically what Susie said. My MW said that babies are very resilient and will likely not have a clue what's going on, she said its more once the baby is here when they MAY pick up on stress or tense atmospheres.

I hope you are ok, but if you need to let it out then that's what you need to do. Big cuddles xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[PrincessPeach]

Susie it's the seven seas pregnancy for first 12 weeks. It has vit d vit e vit k vit c thiamin riboflavin niacin vit b6 folic acid vit b12 biotin pantothenic acid potassium calcium magnesium iron zinc copper manganese selenium iodine b carotene ginger extract.
Am I ok to take even though I don't get my blood test and results till 19th ? It won't do any harm? X

Hi hun, I can't see it would hurt in the slightest! It's just like taking a multi-vitamin but this one is geared for pregnancy. I started taking mine the day I got my BFP, and before that I was on "conception" vitamins x so I can't see why it would be a problem you taking them now x Good luck!! xx

 

[Susiew2001]

Pregnancy and Baby Advice Thread: Brands, Feeding, Nursery, Bathing, Everything!

Susie it's the seven seas pregnancy for first 12 weeks. It has vit d vit e vit k vit c thiamin riboflavin niacin vit b6 folic acid vit b12 biotin pantothenic acid potassium calcium magnesium iron zinc copper manganese selenium iodine b carotene ginger extract.
Am I ok to take even though I don't get my blood test and results till 19th ? It won't do any harm? X

Hi hun, it won't do any harm at all. Just check the amount of folic acid compared to the other one you're on, if it's 400mcg and you're on 5mg (it a big difference even tho doesn't sound like much!) take both of them. If it's the same you only need to take the bit tablet i would say xxxx

 

[slimming-girl]

I'm on 400mcg folic acid I thought that was the standard dose? X

 

[sarah_lou1981]

Aw Frances I really do feel for you. I just can't imagine how it must feel for you. I know it might not help right now but once your little girl is here Christmas will be all about her and it might ease some of your hurt and upset. Xx

 

[Kim26]

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Aww Frances big hugs hun. I'm pleased to see all these reassuring remarks as ive been worried about the same thing as this is the first Christmas without my dad, plus my 30th. Yesterday before my birthday party I had a bit of a breakdown as we arranged the party when my dad was still here thinking he'd be there. I guess I find it better to "let it out" than keep it in at the moment but I know I'm going to be tearful this Christmas but I'm sure we will both get through it and our babies will be fine. big hugs hun xxx

 

[pjallen1982]

Aww Frances big hugs hun. I'm pleased to see all these reassuring remarks as ive been worried about the same thing as this is the first Christmas without my dad, plus my 30th. Yesterday before my birthday party I had a bit of a breakdown as we arranged the party when my dad was still here thinking he'd be there. I guess I find it better to "let it out" than keep it in at the moment but I know I'm going to be tearful this Christmas but I'm sure we will both get through it and our babies will be fine. big hugs hun xxx

Aww Kim sorry to hear about your dad. I think you're doing the right thing letting it out. Bottling emotions is rarely good in my experience. It's going to be tough I'm sure for you both, but bet your parents are looking down thinking what a fab daughter you both are and what great mums you'll be! X

 

[PrincessPeach]

Big cuddles to both Kim and Frances <3 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Danni86]

Hope Frances and Kim you are both holding up.
Hopefully next year will be easier with the little babies to distract you xxx

 

[missy1978]

Aww Frances big hugs hun. I'm pleased to see all these reassuring remarks as ive been worried about the same thing as this is the first Christmas without my dad, plus my 30th. Yesterday before my birthday party I had a bit of a breakdown as we arranged the party when my dad was still here thinking he'd be there. I guess I find it better to "let it out" than keep it in at the moment but I know I'm going to be tearful this Christmas but I'm sure we will both get through it and our babies will be fine. big hugs hun xxx

Massive hugs Kim - it's been a long time for me now but I can still remember how much the first occasions without dad hurt. Even after nearly 20 years I know it'll be hard when little dude arrives, just as it was hard getting married without him there to give me away. If letting it out is what works then do it - no one should ever tell you how to deal with something like this, you have to do it your way. I bottled it for years and it was a huge mistake but I was pretty young at the time and didn't know how to cope.

Babies are tough little things and we are all human and need to let it out sometimes! I'm confident that our little ones will be none the wiser if we get upset and that they'll come out just fine <3 xxx

 

[Dubchick81]

Girls u are all amazing friends. Thank u.

I kno I don't know any of u personally but u each mean allot to me. Uv been they more with me n helped me thru things more than u know. Thank u to each n every one of u.
Kim I know just how hard this first year will b. but u will get thru. U hav a close family n that really makes the difference. I'll happily giv u my number so ya can message me anytime u need if ya like. Sometimes i found it easier talking to outsiders as I didn't like to get upset around family n close friends coz I hated upsetting them by seeing me upset.
I'm a tru believer in let it out.. Usually!! I was just scared if I did now it'd affect baby by me being upset. Good to know she'll be just fine in there. I can cry at ease now lol

 

[Susiew2001]

Pregnancy and Baby Advice Thread: Brands, Feeding, Nursery, Bathing, Everything!

I'm on 400mcg folic acid I thought that was the standard dose? X

Yes it is generally but for some women they have 5mg (eg, some very very large women, history of babies born with problems, diabetes etc).
If that's what you have been on anyway I imagine the pregnancy vits will be perfect for you!
Xx

 

[Susiew2001]

Pregnancy and Baby Advice Thread: Brands, Feeding, Nursery, Bathing, Everything!

Lots of love to you both. Big hugs xxx

 

[missy1978]

Hey ladies,

I now have five days left until my induction but I'm really hoping that baby will make an appearance before then! When I saw the doctor yesterday she attempted to do a sweep but couldn't as my cervix is totally closed :/ She didn't say anything else but seemed to think I won't be having this baby any time soon naturally.

Any voices of experience who can give me a bit of hope? I feel really discouraged as I've been getting lots of pain and BH only to find that we've made no progress at all

 

[Jess<3]

Hey ladies,

I now have five days left until my induction but I'm really hoping that baby will make an appearance before then! When I saw the doctor yesterday she attempted to do a sweep but couldn't as my cervix is totally closed :/ She didn't say anything else but seemed to think I won't be having this baby any time soon naturally.

Any voices of experience who can give me a bit of hope? I feel really discouraged as I've been getting lots of pain and BH only to find that we've made no progress at all

how exciting! But i dont have advice as my son came naturally... are you wanting to be induced? were im from if first baby they leave you a week over then consider steps of been induced. x

 

[Dubchick81]

how exciting! But i dont have advice as my son came naturally... are you wanting to be induced? were im from if first baby they leave you a week over then consider steps of been induced. x

We're left for 10 days before they'll intervene

 

[Susiew2001]

Pregnancy and Baby Advice Thread: Brands, Feeding, Nursery, Bathing, Everything!

Aw hun, don't panic! Things can change rapidly so try not to worry about what's going on at the moment! Try to make sure you keep upright, and as active as possible, some people say curry and pineapple work-didn't for me but maybe that's just me!
You could also try s-e-x...it's got to be good sex though or it doesn't release the hormones you need! That said, it's not everyone's cup of tea at this stage!
What I would say tho is that if you need to be induced go with it and try and relax. Increased adrenaline (if you're anxious) causes decreased oxytocin, the contraction hormone.
Good luck! Keep us posted! Xx

 

[missy1978]

Thanks ladies! The situation is that I'm booked for a planned induction on my due date due to a nasty case of SPD. I would rather go into labour naturally (although it's a terrifying thought I have sort of come to terms with it now) but the concern is that if they leave me to go 12 days over I'd struggle with a natural birth as my legs really aren't working very well anymore!

I'm a bit nervous about the induction as I keep hearing horrible stories but I have found a few good ones so here's hoping it'll go well as it doesn't look like baby's showing up on his own.

I'm trying every old wives tale going, curry gives me nasty acid and heartburn though so not going too mad with that! Sex is out of the question lol, husband is not co-operating and I'm not sure I could anyway with the SPD :/ I'm trying to get up and about as much as I can but it's bloody hard work... Doing lots of bouncing on the gym ball too! Any other ideas gratefully received xxx

 

[sarah_lou1981]

Thanks ladies! The situation is that I'm booked for a planned induction on my due date due to a nasty case of SPD. I would rather go into labour naturally (although it's a terrifying thought I have sort of come to terms with it now) but the concern is that if they leave me to go 12 days over I'd struggle with a natural birth as my legs really aren't working very well anymore! I'm a bit nervous about the induction as I keep hearing horrible stories but I have found a few good ones so here's hoping it'll go well as it doesn't look like baby's showing up on his own. I'm trying every old wives tale going, curry gives me nasty acid and heartburn though so not going too mad with that! Sex is out of the question lol, husband is not co-operating and I'm not sure I could anyway with the SPD :/ I'm trying to get up and about as much as I can but it's bloody hard work... Doing lots of bouncing on the gym ball too! Any other ideas gratefully received xxx

Get tweaking your nipples!!! Apparently that stimulates the same thing as good sex and can help out. Not sure if it's a tried and tested method but It came up a LOT when I was googling. They said to do it for about 5-10 mins a few times a day. I'd have no chance, my nipples constantly hurt, but if yours are ok it's worth a try ;-) xxx

 

[PrincessPeach]

Get tweaking your nipples!!! Apparently that stimulates the same thing as good sex and can help out. Not sure if it's a tried and tested method but It came up a LOT when I was googling. They said to do it for about 5-10 mins a few times a day. I'd have no chance, my nipples constantly hurt, but if yours are ok it's worth a try ;-) xxx

Or... Could be TMI but if you have anything "toy" related.... This will do the same job as sex but gets rid of the "unwilling hubby" aspect lol ha x can't believe I'm suggesting that, but I am! Xx