Pretty little blue Pill!!!- the fight to the end!!!!!

Kes said:
Well today is sunny... That's unlike a bank holiday weekend lol

13stone 5.4lbs so happy with that.

We are going to go for a bike ride around some woods today, if we can get the bikes in the car that is lol.

But before that we are going to go to a boot sale... I've never been to one. So that should be interesting....l :)

Hope you all have a brilliant Sunday
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Found you!! :D

I've never heard of xenical but seems like its working for you.

Sounds like you have a top day planned. Weather here isn't so great as I would've loved to have gone for a long walk in the woods today. I love boot sales. Mostly just to have a nose at what others are selling but I always end up buying something! x

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Oooohhhhh bottom now hurts after 2 hours of bike riding and just over 1000 calories burnt...

And I've made my husband a apple crumble or two.... (not planning on having any myself... )

First car boot I went too was cool... Loads of cool stuff, but also a lot of junk...
Then went to my oh nannas house and spent a couple hours there where I resisted the custard creams.

Need to go cook my dinner and then chill watching fringe tonight.....
 
Sounds like a really good day Kes well done on resisting those biccies. I love a good carboot sale but stopped going as with a 6 year old in tow you are the one who buys all the crap!!!!!
 
Well the scales show a little loss, 13 stone 5.2lbs... Which is a 4.8lb loss in what would be my first week back. But my weigh day is Thursday so will record what weight I am then.

Been looking at ways to make some money this morning... And really struggling for ideas... I have thought about selling dresses, and maybe then venture off and sell other clothing... The initial up front cost is a bit though,....

Oh I don't know ,,

Today is going to be a lazy day watching tv and pretty much staying in bed all day.. ( although I think that won't really happen as there is far too much to do) but the weather is going to be pretty rubbish so I am sure I can try and relax..

My bottom hurts from the bike ride yesterday and my shoulders, so going to convince my oh that I need a shoulder massage later lol
 
Well done Kes it's coming off nicely hey!

Do you mean selling dresses you already have or buying some to sell? I know a friends mother in law does really well selling stuff on eBay. She buys bulk stock often cosmetics & sells it on making a fair bit but as you say it's the initial outlay!

Your day sounds lovely, mine will be similar now I'm home from allotment, did plan on going to the gym but I've burnt enough off for a BH Monday!!!!!
 
Yeah it would be dresses to buy and sell....
Just really need some money.
 
Well that's the bank holiday over then... How fast did that go...

I'm chuffed though as we got through some jobs (like sticking photos into our parents albums that should have been done nearly 2 years ago) lol just need to get the few printed that are missing from the 6 albums and they can be sent off...

I can't believe it's been almost 2 years...

It's gone so quick, and I have also put on so much weight since then. But I'm working at getting it off so I guess I can not complain... I just have to stick to it..

I've also become quite chuffed with myself, i didn't cave in once over the bank holiday, ( normally would go oh sod it I will have such and such) but I didn't and I pretty much had 100% days the whole weekend...

Right I'm off to bed as I have a 5:45 am start at work tomorrow,,,, zzzzzz can someone else do it for me.... Lol
 
Monsoon and phase eight have gorgeous dresses that really keep their value and they've both got sales on at the minute which if you could afford a few would give you a great run up to Christmas party season

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Ooooohhhhhhhh I'm such a blubbering mess.

I had a bad day at work, I really just can not wait to get out of there. But there are no jobs.... :(

Perked up a little bit while watching our photos from our renewal of vowels in australia... ( can not believe that it was almost 2 years ago...)

Then I did the mistake of bringing up the whole children subject with the other half......

I'm at such a fork in the road about this.... He isn't ready. I have been for many many years, I'm almost 30 (always wanted kids before I was 30) and he isn't showing any signs of being ready or even wanting them
We almost split up last year about it, as really wanted to start trying so that I had a chance of actually having a child before I was 30 but he turned around and said he didn't want kids, so I said I will have to leave.
Then he changed his mind and basically said he wants a child but he wouldn't want anymore than 1... But not before he was ready.. ( no matter how much I have and everyone else has told him he will never be ready)

I'm so upset about this, I don't know what to do.
I just can't stop crying.

I've almost threw the diet out the window tonight, and ate the house down, but instead I chose a small bit of cheese...

It feels like I'm having to give up the one thing I want most in my life, and I don't know if I can do it..

I'm sorry for this little rant of mine, but I needed to talk to someone about it.. And I know how supportive you guys are.......
 
Kes of I'm brutally honest and it is gonna sound so harsh - I apologise - are you really prepared not to have children - if he's really not gonna give in are you truly gonna be happy in 20yrs time?!

Marcus and I had this conversation a few years ago as he wasn't bothered either way I told him I'd leave if he didn't want any bc it's important to me - and I would have done - I'd even go now goodness I know it would be hard - but I wouldn't sacrifice that for him!

Is he ever gonna be ready?! Xx

Lots of love and hugs xxxx
 
This is what I'm worried about....

I won't be happy in 20 years time, if we don't have children.....

No harshness there Hun, so don't worry xx
 
Oh Kes my love I don't know what to say but I do worry that in 10 years time you may regret it. I have friends who don't have kids & neither of them wanted them but I also have a friend who is now in her 50s & regrets so much not having them as her hubby didn't want them.....

I lost my first son at 4 weeks old & although I adore my 6 year old I wish he had a brother or sister (it's just never happened).

Whatever you decide we will all be here for you but as I'm sure you know as you get older fertility decreases (trust me I know that one!!!) & risks increase.

Well done for not turning to food though.

Lots of love xx
 
Have you had a frank conversation with him?!

Did he know you wanted kids all along?! I mean if he did - surely he realises the time is sooner rather than later?! Why isn't he ready?!

Good I didn't want to be harsh :) Xx
 
Kes said:
Ooooohhhhhhhh I'm such a blubbering mess.

I had a bad day at work, I really just can not wait to get out of there. But there are no jobs.... :(

Perked up a little bit while watching our photos from our renewal of vowels in australia... ( can not believe that it was almost 2 years ago...)

Then I did the mistake of bringing up the whole children subject with the other half......

I'm at such a fork in the road about this.... He isn't ready. I have been for many many years, I'm almost 30 (always wanted kids before I was 30) and he isn't showing any signs of being ready or even wanting them
We almost split up last year about it, as really wanted to start trying so that I had a chance of actually having a child before I was 30 but he turned around and said he didn't want kids, so I said I will have to leave.
Then he changed his mind and basically said he wants a child but he wouldn't want anymore than 1... But not before he was ready.. ( no matter how much I have and everyone else has told him he will never be ready)

I'm so upset about this, I don't know what to do.
I just can't stop crying.

I've almost threw the diet out the window tonight, and ate the house down, but instead I chose a small bit of cheese...

It feels like I'm having to give up the one thing I want most in my life, and I don't know if I can do it..

I'm sorry for this little rant of mine, but I needed to talk to someone about it.. And I know how supportive you guys are.......
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Oh that is a hard place to be! Hugs!

My BFF has always said no kids, but in the end when it came to having a child or her hubby leaving she decided to have the child. It changed her whole concept of what having a child ment. She doesn't regret it. All the fears she had about what it meant to have a child and grow them up, were not really very scary once she had a child she loved in her arms.

I'm sure you have talked to (am assuming) you have talked your partner about why he wants to wait? Or why he's scared of having kids?

I'm sure you will sort things out :)

Well done on not giving up on your diet! :)
 
Kes I agree with Kirsty I'm afraid. Some men are never ready to grow up and be wiling to put the needs of wife and children before themselves. So even if you did have a child with him are you going to be happy. He sounds like he would be one of those who would have an affair while you were pregnant and then do the ' my wife diesnt understand me or want me' when you're dealing with the baby. On the other hand he could be the complete opposite and fall madly in love with the baby and it would change his life. It does happen but you need to know begore you get pregnant and only you know which one your husband is ever likely to be.

Whatever you decide you would need to decide fairly soon. As you say your biological clock is ticking so ate you prepared to give up children and be content for the next 50 plus years with just your husband or do you feel incomplete without children and end up resenting him do much that you divorce him anyway but too late to have any.

You've not got an easy road ahead my love . Hugs xxxxxx

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