Pretty little blue Pill!!!- the fight to the end!!!!!

He has always known I wanted children and I always talk about having 2.

The last huge conversation I had with him is when it got brought up that he didn't want any then said that he wanted one....

I don't know why he isn't ready.... He just says he isn't ready.
And that he won't have a time frame put on him.
 
Kes said:
He has always known I wanted children and I always talk about having 2.

The last huge conversation I had with him is when it got brought up that he didn't want any then said that he wanted one....

I don't know why he isn't ready.... He just says he isn't ready.
And that he won't have a time frame put on him.
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Right threaten him with castration then, tell him he's not using them they may as well be removed (sorry just trying to lighten the mood & make you smile for even 2 seconds)
 
Lol... Thankyou

I have done the whole ill leave as I don't want to regret my life and I will if I don't have children. And this is when he said he would have one. But not before he is ready...
 
But he may not be ready for another 10yrs ...

I'm a midwife and I care for so many women who have usually put careers first and begin trying at 35 and find its actually difficult to get pregnant and then before they know it they're 40+ and still struggling!

Not saying this would be you but if you begin trying very late your very limited! Xx
 
I know and this is what upsets me the most...
 
Kes said:
I know and this is what upsets me the most...
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Sit down and have a really frank conversation talk about why he isn't ready - that youdo need to discuss timings etc as its a marriage and it's about both of you not just him xxx
 
I think no matter what the fall out is you need to sit down & say to him that "when I'm ready" isn't food enough. Say to him what if there are problems etc with fertility, make him realise you're serious. I've obviously never met you or your hubby but you seem as though you deserve a good 'un & I'm not sure you have him x
 
I hope everything works out for you hun
**big hugs**
You really have to think what it is that you want and make those decisions, you need reasons from your oh on why he isn't ready yet x

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I really have tried this..... We have had this conversation that's the thing. He doesn't know why he isn't ready, he won't do anything he isn't happy doing regardless of how happy it would make me, he won't do anything or try before he is ready,
 
Kes said:
I really have tried this..... We have had this conversation that's the thing. He doesn't know why he isn't ready, he won't do anything he isn't happy doing regardless of how happy it would make me, he won't do anything or try before he is ready,
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Grrr men!!! xxx

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Suppose I should go and get some sleep, it's another 5:45am start tomorrow, plus I really don't want to be awake when he gets home... Just can't face him at the min.
 
Managed to sleep ok... woke up still in a poo mood... so could just eat all the food in sight at work.... Mmmmmm chicken nuggets chips beans and cheese..... Hmmmm+m

Stop it Krystle lol.. lol

I weighed this morning and I'm back up to 13 stone 5.4lbs.... so really not sure what has happend..
But ill stick with it. And I will lose weight...
 
I'm still here, howev been scared to write on my page...

My marriage is over.

I could just spend every moment crying, and I broke down so many times at work last Thursday, everyone at work thought I was going crazy.

All weekend I thought that's it it's over I can not be with someone who doesn't want what I want.

I look at him and I love him to ickle little bits but I cant be with someone who doesn't want to give me children.

So his words are I chose someone else to have children with over our relationship, and the hard truth of it is that yes I am. Hurt so much saying that and it made me sound so much like a *****, but I had to say the truth.

He still has not given me an answer of if he actually wants children, he just says he doesn't want them now,

So today I'm so mixed up in that do I wait a little longer,,... In the hope that he will change his mind, or do I walk....

Scales are in favor but I have not eaten properly in days.
13 stone 1.4lbs. I have packs of shakes that I should probly be having but I just can not stomach much. I know it's sooooo bad for me to not eat anything, but I feel so sick.

What the hell am I going to do!!!!!!
 
The truth is that he's choosing not to have children "now" or if ever over your relationship - he is the one sitting on the fence, ending it. You are sticking to your desire/ need to have children, you would prefer to have his kids but if his choice is no kids or no kids now (he might just change his mind again later to no kids again) then why should you wait around for him. It will take you time to move on and find another special someone so why wait for him. Make the decision And move on.. Walk and if he seriously loves you he will agree to kids just to keep you with him.

Hugs and support your way.. No easy road for you and just hope he has a change of heart :)

Other thought get pregnant and just tell him later when it's too late? Bit sneaky .. I surpose - then if he's not happy about it he leaves or he stays - another hard decision ?
 
Mis-behave said:
The truth is that he's choosing not to have children "now" or if ever over your relationship - he is the one sitting on the fence, ending it. You are sticking to your desire/ need to have children, you would prefer to have his kids but if his choice is no kids or no kids now (he might just change his mind again later to no kids again) then why should you wait around for him. It will take you time to move on and find another special someone so why wait for him. Make the decision And move on.. Walk and if he seriously loves you he will agree to kids just to keep you with him.

Hugs and support your way.. No easy road for you and just hope he has a change of heart :)

Other thought get pregnant and just tell him later when it's too late? Bit sneaky .. I surpose - then if he's not happy about it he leaves or he stays - another hard decision ?
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Agreed. Well put x

Huge hugs for you sweetie xx

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