RD's life diary: I'm back (sort of)

Because the nice, deserving people don't! You'll sort it all out Debbie, you are doing all the right things, folk just have to be patient.

In my business, we quite often get people building up debts and as long as they are straight with us, pay what they can when they can, then we don't get heavy. Life's too short to get nasty and I just think that the majority of people are good intentioned and honest, but life has just got in the way a bit. We rarely have debts that go unpaid for ever and interestingly when we do it's nearly always the ones who drive a nice BMW, have nicely done hair and smart clothes!!! HMmmmmmmmmm
 
My very dear Uni buddy bought me some CD choc orange to try and I had it today as a mousse. Scrumdiddlyumptious I say!! I didn't want it to end :gimi:


The weather was so beautiful outside that I decided to take a break from studying metaphysical poets and take the dog for a walk.:chores016:

We went to my favourite place ... Fort Gilkicker on Stokes Bay. It's a bit of a trek from the car but so unspoilt and fantastic: it's a real tonic for the soul.

I climbed up the grassy embankment of the Fort and sat for ages watching the ships, hovercraft and general hubbub of the Solent. There are three big Naval ships out there at the moment with landing craft scuttling to and fro from the shore - not sure what that's about!

There were a few dark clouds on the horizon but I didn't pay much attention. I walked Pepper through the marshlands and back round to complete a circular trail then it happened ...

... the dark clouds 'on the horizon' decided it would be a good idea to scuttle over my head and dump their load on my head! :raincloud: Luckily I had my new coat on (courtesy of Oxfam - a real barg!) so didn't get soaked to the skin. Pepper (who is NOT an all-weather-dog) kept trying to shake the water off without much success; she looked like a drowned rat!

The rain stopped and as we walked back to the car, the sun came out and we started to steam! Wish this darned weather would make its mind up!!

Anyway - it was a lovely walk. The dog is now flaked out on her duvet next to me and I feel quite virtuous. Mind you, exercising isn't a chore when there's somewhere so nice to walk.
 
Things were quite hectic last night. DD2 phoned to ask if I'd pick up a pushchair she'd bought on ebay. She lives in Plymouth and expecting her first bubba and the pushchair was here in Gosport so it made sense for us to go and get it rather than pay a fortune in postage.
It's lovely - one of those modern three-wheeled thingys with a car seat attachment. To think that, when I had my first 27 years ago, the only things available were the huge prams (nice for walking but not much good for transporting around) or hulking great pushchairs that you couldn't use til the baby was a few months old. Trying to get one on the bus was a trial too!

After that, DH and I went to Asda where I had to buy something quick and easy for dinner. I opted for a cooked chicken, a bag of salad (10p barg on the reduced trolley) and some chipatis (don't laugh - they were reduced too and made a reasonable substitution for fajita wraps!)

By the time I got home I served up the warm yummy chicken - I was starving and ... ended up having half a chicken breast. Oh dear!
Well, I'm not going to thrash myself over it - it was only chicken (no wrap or salad) and I'll just regard yesterday as a '790' day :)

This morning has been a bit of a rush. The usual making toast and tea for DD4, plus ironing her uniform as she'd stuffed it in her school bag without me realising (she wore her PE kit back from school as she went to gymnastic club), made sandwiches for DH and added to all this, DD3 came downstairs complaining of severe stomach pains and sickness.

SO I was calling out questions to her "Is the pain all over? Is it on one side only?" etc etc, whilst buttering toast with my hands and pouring tea with my feet (not quite but you get the gist).

Phew - DD3 says the pain has eased now so I'm grabbing 5 mins peace before grabbing a shower and getting on with Uni work / housework.
 
The Good news
The postie has just been and I have a job interview on Friday. The vacancy is for a Learning Support Assistant at a local secondary school (my old school and the one all my kids went to actually - in fact, DD4 is there now!)
Fingers, toes and everything else crossed. Apart from the fact it would be GREAT on my CV when I graduate and want to go into teaching, we also need the extra money DESPERATELY.

The sad news
My dear nephew James' ashes are finally being laid to rest tomorrow at 2.15. :cry:
I'm supposed to be going to Uni but I'll give it a miss and go along to say a final goodbye and support my sister who, despite being a numpty at times, is a grieving mother nonetheless.
I'm skint so will have to just get a humble bunch of flowers from Asda: I don't expect James will mind though.

He's being interred close to the grave of my own son, Alex who was also born in 1986. Also, my niece Felicity is in the same row so they can all be together.
RIP our three angels.
 
Good luck for the interview Debbie. Fingers and toes crossed for you.

Re your nephews ashes, could you gather flowers or greenery from your garden or somewhere he liked to go??? It is a personal gesture and one I'm sure he'd appreciate. I hope it all goes ok - thinking of you. xxx
 
That job sounds just right - hope, hope, hope you get it!

Tomorrow will be tough but maybe it will give a feeling of closure for you all. I'm with Beverley about the flowers or even a really special 'thumbody' card from you with a short poem or similar?

Love
 
OH Debbie, do your trials never end ? Hope DD's pains are ok now.
Will think of you tommorrow & i agree, the idea something personal would be lovely, esp the "thumbody" card & poem, maybe a "thumbody poem"?
xx
 
Some wonderful suggestions there dear buddies :)

I'll get composing after dinner.
 
Hope interview goes well. And i am glad you will be suppporting your sister tomorrow. And it's not the price of the flowers that is important but the thoughts that go with them

Love
Irene xx
 
I've taken your advice and written a little poem for James which I'll put in a 'Thumbody' card. It's not Shakespeare but just a few lines from the heart - thought I'd share it with you.
 
Nothing dies – it just moves on.
It changes form like day to night.
We shift like sand; we’re never gone
the body fades but not the light.
Your light, dear James, is shining still
and though we cannot see your face,
our thoughts of you will blaze until
we meet again in some far place.​


Shine on James.​

:)​
 
Thanks everyone. I'd probably get caned for writing a poem like that at Uni - but this isn't Uni and I didn't want to write a piece of pretentious 'art' - just a short goodbye.

I'm nervous about going to the CAB this morning. I've got all my bits of paper, bills, pay slips yadda yadda and hope the nice people there can help me untangle this mess!

You trot along in life, then something comes along to trip you up and life suddenly becomes mayhem. When we went away on our disasterous anniversary weekend to Holland back in April, we had literally no idea that Steve would be coming back to no job. It certainly teaches you that, in life, you can't take anything as a 'given' - everything balances on a knife edge and we all just get along 'balancing' the best we can.
 
Well done Rd, that is more meaningful than a truckload of flowers. I really love it and i am sure your family will too.

Good luck with the CAB.

Love
 
I agree with you Laura. I just don't think our Debbie realises it.
 
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