CarlyLanky140
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I've said it before Sarah!! I think u can do better and from what u have said I think u kno it too.... Dont settle! (hope im not overstepping...) xx
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Wishbird007
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*Claire-Bear* said:HOLD THE PHONE! you were best buds with the hottest men in Ireland ............i dont think i want to talk to you anymore ...
Oo I adore Shane!!!
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azwethinkweiz
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CarlyLanky140 said:
I dunno really. He can seem very thoughtful (wanting to pay for holiday etc.) But I dunno... He's very unsympathetic about my health issues at the moment and I feel like I'm going through it all alone.
I don't like feeling like I'm being held up against his ex though and being compared. Feel like he expects me to pay half of everything and I can't afford it!
This love of westlife is mad hehe, ye are so funny! X
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Dubchick81
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Aww Claire I wasn't really matey with them.. Tho I knew Brian.. My mates were good mates with them.. I only started hanging around with them prob 6 months r so before they started to get big.. been to Sligo n Waterford with them (on seperate buses) so they had people proper cheering them to get the crowd going.. Things ya do eh?!
Cian was MAD about my friend but she was like 'yea whatever!'.. bet she's kickin herself now ha ha.. She's with (IMO) a tosser and has FIVE kids for him.. She's just gone 30!!! She actually blew Cian off for her current bloke!!!
Liz I'll try add the pic of Shane up here for ya.. Me and my blonde (white!) hair ha ha
Cian was MAD about my friend but she was like 'yea whatever!'.. bet she's kickin herself now ha ha.. She's with (IMO) a tosser and has FIVE kids for him.. She's just gone 30!!! She actually blew Cian off for her current bloke!!!
Liz I'll try add the pic of Shane up here for ya.. Me and my blonde (white!) hair ha ha
Dubchick81
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Ps.. Sorry Sarah, sounds like we're ganging up on ya..But I agree with with the girls too..
He just reminds so much of Kevin my ex.. I've said this before.. Am sure he's a good bloke but just not the one for you.. You deserve to be treated a million times better than he treats you.. He clearly doesn't know what he's got.. x
He just reminds so much of Kevin my ex.. I've said this before.. Am sure he's a good bloke but just not the one for you.. You deserve to be treated a million times better than he treats you.. He clearly doesn't know what he's got.. x
*Claire-Bear*
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OMG OMG! I caaaant believe she blew him off .... id be soooo gutted ... god and hes a millionaire now
..... wen me n my mate were little we were always like, were guna save up and get a flight to Sligo, to their houses HAH! .. *Claire-Bear*
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Yeah, Sarah i apologise if it seems like were causing problems but we just hate to see such an amazing woman getting second best .. wen u should have a prince who wants to do anything to make u happy ... sometimes makin changes is hard but it always works out for the best in the end. This guy shouldnt be using your health problems as a way to show you he doesnt care .... he is suppose to care n love you for everything about you !!! it makes me sad that your going thru this feeling guilt - wen everything is down to money xxxxxx
azwethinkweiz
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I know yis are just thinking of me darlings. Honestly, he can be very generous... I have these issues with money or people trying to help me out. Its like I _can't_ let myself let them help me because of the guilt I feel afterwards. He has bought me things for no reason (he bought me a 3DS the day they came out just because I made a passing remark that I thought they were cool after seeing one). Its the feeling that I can't keep up with him, iykwim? Like I can't compete with that. What'll xmas be like if I don't buy him something thats the equivalent of whatever he gets me? I dunno why I worry about these things at all but I do. I would hate someone to think "THIS is all I got after getting her all that stuff?!".
This didnt start with my current OH rather my ex... I go and spend a ton of money on them at xmas (that I cant afford to spend) because I want them to be spoiled like they spoil me (sometimes lol).
So its actually not just the healthcare issues I have, its money in general really... Am I making sense??
Smirnoff, what a dirty birdie!
This didnt start with my current OH rather my ex... I go and spend a ton of money on them at xmas (that I cant afford to spend) because I want them to be spoiled like they spoil me (sometimes lol).
So its actually not just the healthcare issues I have, its money in general really... Am I making sense??
Smirnoff, what a dirty birdie!
starkissedx
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I get the money thing as although it's a bit different I dont drive and my OH takes me everywhere, picks me up from work on his days off etc. And I feel like he has this always over me,,.like if we argue he always says oh well I drive you everywhere and that costs so much etc etc. I feel like crap then as I feel selfish that he does this for me and spends almost 50 pound a week on petrol taxing me around...and I can't afford to help with petrol money.
But I believe you can do nice things without spending money ha and no I don't mean in a dirty way Ha but like cooking for my bf, sounds mushy but I made us a picnic over summer and we went for a nice walk in countryside abd when I do have a bit spare I maybe treat him to something like a DVD or an item of clothes just so he knows I have made the effort. He says I don't have to repay him but it makes me feel better in myself
But I believe you can do nice things without spending money ha and no I don't mean in a dirty way Ha
but like cooking for my bf, sounds mushy but I made us a picnic over summer and we went for a nice walk in countryside abd when I do have a bit spare I maybe treat him to something like a DVD or an item of clothes just so he knows I have made the effort. He says I don't have to repay him but it makes me feel better in myself
azwethinkweiz
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Before I learned to drive my ex used to drive me everywhere too hon. He would say he didnt mind and then throw it in my face if we argued about something.
My current OH has said it isnt his fault or problem I can't afford things (this is my health we're talking about) but then back tracked and said he would pay for those things. Now I dont want him to pay for anything and feel like he's lording his money over me. Its just that I dont want things thrown back in my face. If you offer someone help you shouldnt use it as an excuse later.
Its not like I dont buy him things, I do. And I pay for lunches and dinners, movies etc. But he makes me feel like its not enough.
He really let me down the day I was going for my scan too. He never called when he said he would and didnt really care how I got on until he wasn't "busy" the next day (he went to a wedding down the country same day of my scan and I obviously couldn't go). Now I feel I cant talk with him about that anymore, feel like I dont want to, iykwim.
I'm all muddled.
My current OH has said it isnt his fault or problem I can't afford things (this is my health we're talking about) but then back tracked and said he would pay for those things. Now I dont want him to pay for anything and feel like he's lording his money over me. Its just that I dont want things thrown back in my face. If you offer someone help you shouldnt use it as an excuse later.
Its not like I dont buy him things, I do. And I pay for lunches and dinners, movies etc. But he makes me feel like its not enough.
He really let me down the day I was going for my scan too. He never called when he said he would and didnt really care how I got on until he wasn't "busy" the next day (he went to a wedding down the country same day of my scan and I obviously couldn't go). Now I feel I cant talk with him about that anymore, feel like I dont want to, iykwim.
I'm all muddled.
MrsLmc
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God Sarah this doesn't sound so good!!!! Read that like someone else wrote it...what would you think of him!!! I'm worried about you, you deserve a million times better!!!
azwethinkweiz
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MrsLmc said:
It sounds really bad reading it back. But he's turning it all around on me now. Saying I refused his "help" etc. and "what was he supposed to do then" but I don't see how I could have accepted after what he said about it not being his problem.
I said he wasn't there when I needed him (regarding a simple phone call while he was away) and he takes that to mean I expect him to be "devoted to me 24:7"
I dunno. The things he says and the things he does don't seem to add up to me at all.
I feel I just want to be left alone sometimes, ya know?
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starkissedx
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Hugs it's hard when your head and heart is telling you different things! I think he obviously cares for you but needs a kick up the ass to realise how great you really are and to realise how he should be treating you! Xx
it's hard when your head and heart is telling you different things! I think he obviously cares for you but needs a kick up the ass to realise how great you really are and to realise how he should be treating you! Xx
MrsLmc
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Sarah sweetie why oh why are you making excuses for him!! You seem to be trying to convince yourself that all his bullshit is your problem, it IS NOT!!!!!!!! I think you need to decide if you need this in your life!! Can you see yourself happily together with him in 5 years time. Seriously, I was together with my now hubby for 7 months when I went of to college in another County 3 hours away, he used to drive the 3 hrs to visit me because he missed me, he used to bring me a load of shopping when he came because he knew I had no money, then he'd turn around the same night and drive 3 hrs home because he had to work the next day. Would this fella do the same for you!!???
azwethinkweiz
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MrsLmc said:
I don't know. I think he would say he would but I don't know if he actually would. I dread living with him because I'm worried about bills and how broke I'll end up being when I struggle as it is.
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MrsLmc
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You really should be excited when moving in with someone, not dreading it!!
I don't know Sarah only you know how you want your life to turn out. I don't wanna over step the mark! I really hope you figure out what you need to do. xxx
MrsLmc
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Hugs
Think the time he told Sarah he fancied someone else and she nearly left him would have been enough of a kick up the arse!! She should be treated like a queen when she is unwell!
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