Vanessa's Maintenance blurb...

[Zebs07]

Hey folks! Sorry not been posting much - i was just finding it a bit tough with so many folks on and off TFR'g lol.

I know it's silly of me but it was making me worry for them ... but then I started doubting myself and thinking should i do it myself for another half stone! (talk about being contradictory lol). So I hid from the forum cos I was worried about getting obsessed ... I thought i had come to terms with being happy at this weight/size - especially cos of the mobility and subsequent no muscle tone in my legs (as in I thought better to stay this size rather than potentially be even thinner on top which proportionately wud make legs look even bigger) and not focus on that dreaded magic number! However I was starting to doubt my judgement and worry about whether I should go again for another half stone!

But I'm not going too ... I must not fall into the comparison trap! Besides I'm 40 years old and I mustn't try to look like I'm in my twenties (much as I'd like too..pmsl). I really think if I went much lower, it wud age me more and I don't want that! Plus, I like curves....

... So I've kicked myself up the arse and will stop hiding! Imagine being scared of being tempted to do TFR ... But I was!!! Eeeek.

 

[irish molly]

Vanessa, nice to see you on here again. I'm glad that you are still battling on I agree that getting to a magic number on the scales is not all it's built up to be. Being happy and confident in ourselves is more important. I also agree with you that it may adversely affect our looks if we lose too much.
I am not at the magic number on the scales but all my friends are emphatic that I have lost enough weight and that any more will age me too much.
TFR is fine for a significant amount of weight but not for maintaining. I believe it will play havoc with our metabolism if we keep starving our bodies. So, hard as it is, it's a healthy eating lifestyle and an 80/20 rule allowing treats in moderation for me.
Have a good day.

 

[summergurl]

Totally hear what your saying re people on and off tfr'ing - it does make us doubt. Glad you have pulled yourself back together though and stick around here missy - we miss your ness rants!! :giggle: x

 

[JanD]

Oh HOORAY!!! Sooo missed the blathering :giggle:

I totally hear what you're saying re TFR hon and I totally agree. I was actually very disappointed with myself that I couldn't seem to rein myself in and stop the scale going up even though over the last months I had various 'life' things going on. That's life and we need to find ways to cope without resorting to TFRing to undo the damage we do. I felt like a failure feeling like I had to go back on it but I knew any other method would be too slow to keep me focussed long enough to lose the 16-17lbs I ended up being up . I'm really sorry if my doing that contributed to your dilemma.

I worry myself about people on and off it by the minutes and I think they know that but it's their choice in the end. I have more of an issue with pharmacists supporting that AND supplying it to people who don't qualify for it for good reasons. To my mind it's one thing if we want to send off for a pack of Exante ignoring the good advice about how to use it but quite another for pharmacies to go completely against LT training and good practice. I think that's just plain wrong but anyhoo - rant over

I think you're very wise and totally agree that we can't afford to lose too much and still look healthy after a 'certain' age

Great to have you back kiddo xx

 

[RetailChick]

Obviously I'm a culprit here :wave_cry:

Sorry if I've caused you any worry or doubting Ness xx

If it makes you feel any better your right! I've completely made the wrong choice :sigh: x

 

[SandraB]

I hear what you're saying Ness and totally agree.......got a new phone and took some pics of myself and realised that actually my face is already too thin. I walked past my little sister a couple of weeks ago and didn't recognise her cos she's lost 35lbs on ww pp and being only 5 feet tall it's really quite dramatic. I thought that she looked a bit gaunt but have realised that I look the same......but still my arse is what I want!

So what do we do.......people tell us we look great when we're thinner but is that great as in thin? Great as in well? Or just great cos it's obvious that we've lost weight? I think that I may have to accept that being 11st ish is where I can maintain.....I've been this weight or thereabouts for 6 months ......and 10 st is simply out of the question. Another stone would doubtless make me thin, a size 10 even, but do I want to look older or thinner? Tough question!

 

[Zebs07]

Hey folks ... Just to clarify I'm not meaning to blame anyone else - tis my insecurities just finding a crack to exploit lol.

I myself popped back on TFR to deal with post-op and 40th and Xmas/new year gain and certainly won't rule out using it again in the future!

However I don't think it's healthy to use as a maintenance tool and that is what I was being tempted to do!

I'm worried enough about my current tendency to gain 4-5lb every weekend and subsequent strictness then required during week! Altho it's working on the scales, I still fear it's bordering on a binge/starve cycle .... ocht we will always find things to worry about ... But better to worry and take action than ignore - surely!! Lesser of 2 evils surely!! Or doth she protest too much! Lol

 

[JanD]

I know exactly what you mean because that's what I was doing too. I didn't like it and I know it can't be the right way to maintain but I couldn't seem to get out of it. I think a lot of us are like that.

I'd like to think that this time might be different but I'm probably just kidding myself.

Anyway - maybe that's what naturally thin people do - overindulge then cut back in cycles. Maybe they're just better at only overindulging for short periods of time!

Hmmmmm ... I wonder what 'normal' is? xx

 

[Zebs07]

Hmmmmm ... I wonder what 'normal' is? xx

Ness'a'pedia:- 'Normal' is a word that best describes the opposite'ness of Ness and all who sail with her... Pmsl

 

[Zebs07]

Ness'a'pedia:- 'Normal' is a word that best describes the opposite'ness of Ness and all who sail with her... Pmsl

Ps: perfection is boring...
Pps. and false
Pps. But only cos it's unachievable!
Ppps. Moral of the PS list - if you can't achieve it, diss it! pmsl

 

[JanD]

LOL! I'm so glad you're back!! xx

 

[summergurl]

:giggle: Me toooooo!!! x

 

[Zenaworrier]

Me three! x
It is so hard getting all this right! Getting to the right weight, using the right tools, diets etc to stay there and to get it through your head that your no longer a fat person. Groan!!!!

 

[Zebs07]

Menu Thursday 12 May

B: porridge and strawberries n blueberries
L: king prawns, roasted onions, carrots, parsnips (was meant to have potatoes too but realised cupboard is bare - oooops!), raspberry fromage frais
D: choc whip plus banana
S: hot choc, plum, satsuma

893cal - ooops too low

Am too low on cals (and carbs) cos of potato fiasco so will maybe have some wm toast later - will see how it goes

 

[Zebs07]

Menu Friday 13th

WI day today - 11st 9lb so up slightly but within a pound of my maintenance target so good good

Got bloods at 12 so no breakfast...gonna treat myself and get a filled roll when I'm out - so much better when u don't make it yourself lol

B: Corned beef (got a yen for it, so get in...) salad, with bit cheese, coleslaw and egg, brown seeded roll, aero lamb, spiral crisps
L: Wg rice and mushroom sauce, Parmesan (0.5 tin of mushroom soup really)
D: Choc whip
Hot choc, plum

(1111 cals - am dreaming on toast n cheese so it may not be over yet!)

Edit to lunch; BP plunged after bloods (s'ok, it's normal for me - and only took half hour to stabilise which is pure dead quick) however this meant I was under instructions to have choc as soon as I'd made it home - woo hoo! - so had aero lamb aswell as spirals for extra carb boost ... Silver lining definitely outweighed the cloud today! Lol

 

[summergurl]

Those aero lambs are bloody lovely aren't they!!!!! X

 

[Zebs07]

Those aero lambs are bloody lovely aren't they!!!!! X

OMG YES YES YES! I've been eyeing them up since u mentioned them ... God it was soooooooooo good! A bit of a Meg Ryan moment to be honest YES YES YES ... lol x

 

[JanD]

What are you like! Must try one of them one day xx

 

[Zebs07]

Had a Chinese last night - crackers, creamy chicken with plain chow mein (and 4 wee cornflakes cakes). Didn't enjoy it and felt ill, overstuffed and had awful indigestion! Why do we think that's a treat....

Ps. No drink but I feel like I've a hangover today ... What's that about! Lol

 

[JanD]

MSG??

I know what you mean about calling things a 'treat' when we feel ruddy awful after having them! Potty - that's what we are! xx