20 somethings

StarGir1 said:
Sounds like you might be getting a nice present at xmas then Lyrically, how long have you been together? Your day sounds very nice and so does you food for today
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Thanks! I doubt I'll be getting it for Christmas! We'll have been together for 2 years in Feb but we've been living together for about 18months of that. I know he wants to propose between 2 and 3 years and he's put some money away that gets released in July, so fingers crossed by this time next year..!
 
It is still so exciting Emily :)

My net on my phone died whilst typing out a big reply so i can join the club.

Embarrassing fat bodies is on soon. Woo. I've caught up on a load of stuff I've recorded so Saturday rubbish tv has its use. So much looking forward to downton Xmas special. The pre eclampsia one was blubber worthy.

I am excited for a good loss on Wednesday because i have to go to her other class on the evening too to get ky photo taken with the other miss slinky winners for the paper so if i get a good loss i'll be really happy. I will have to bath Nate early and take him downstairs to watch tv with nana while my dad takes me, but she said I don't have to weigh there or stay for te whole class, just to get the photo done so Nate will probably be in bed for his normal time.

I've had to go 4 or 5 times today, stupid hormones. Did you say the coil is worse for an upset tummy caused by hormones or better?

I've had to unravel a load of rows because the sleeve was to long. Grr.
 
I've found the coil is better - I used to have such awful pain that only eased by going. It took a lot of getting used to though. The first few months of having it fitted were quite painful. I'm just a big ball of gas this month though!
 
You never know, he might try to make it a surprise when you least expect it :)

I have been with my OH for over 5 years but I just can't see us getting married. I have lived with him for 3 and a half of those years but it kind of feels like it'll not happen and they wouldn’t disappoint me. We also have very different religious views and I know he would want, and his family would expect, a church wedding and I absolutely would not want that plus, this is a little controversial, but I don't think I would take my husband’s name, at least not initially, as my name is me and my identity and I am not sure I want to give that up, I think the only thing that would change is if we had kids so at least we all had the same name.

I didn’t clean today so I have to do that tomorrow and I really don’t want to but that’s going to be some pretty good body magic as I need to do something in every single room!! I can’t do 30 Day shred again as my pelvis isn’t up to it after the last time still but I am going to get my weights out again and use them for my arms, shoulders, chest and upper back as I notice changes quite quickly when I use them.

I am looking forward to that xmas ep too :) With my IBS I usually go at least 4 times a day so how I ever got so big I don't know as nothing stays around long enough haha

I'd be too scared to have a coil fitted as it sounds like it's very uncomfortable but it's good it's working for you and you can discreetly go to the bathroom to let the gas out so no one need to know ;)
 
Ooh, I might just have the runs instead then, Haha. They tried to make me have a coil after I had Nate. I said no and the health visitor made me feel like crap for saying no and asked what I was going to use, I said after the fail of condom and morning after pill i'll plump for abstinence. Haha. Who am I going to hook up with with Nate attached to me? Stupid woman said abstinence isn't effective. I think you will find it is. A lady at group thought i was 16 (I'm 26 next month) so it tends to mean people treat me like a moron. Usually people guess 19 though.

Star my friend and her husband changed both of their names to a new one they created together so they could maintain their identities.

I think I am the only person here who hasn't don't the shred!
 
Hehe true! I had put a ban on him proposing as I know my cousin is planning to propose to his OH on their 7 year anniversary in April - but then my other cousin blind sided everyone and proposed to his gf of less than a year!

I know what you mean about not taking his name. My surname is quite distinctive and part of who I am. It's French (my great great great Grandad was a French chef who came to England) so I always thought I'd like to change surnames to something really English - but my OH's surname is French too! It's the children element that would probably change things for me, too.

I also come from a very Catholic family and I think a religious ceremony is pretty much non-negotiable if I want any financial support! Thankfully my dad is friends with some very modern priests who would make it feel intimate and personal and we could probably have them perform it anywhere that's licenced. To be honest, despite not being a practising Catholic anymore, I don't think I'd like a registrar wedding. John's just assumed we'll have a church wedding - my Granny has an award from the Pope for good service to the Church and both my parents met the last one - so thankfully there's not too much of an issue. He just wants to hire nice cars for the day!
 
That's very cool. My mum always wanted to marry someone with a normal name and she ended up with an even more unusual one. My family are all catholic too, but my immediate family are atheist so it doesn't really matter to us. I was christened by a stranger in my parents shop with tap water. LOL. My Grandad said he couldnt believe it when he came to this country and people didn't believe in hell etc. Bless him. Mum went from sneyd to apolon. Haha, seems simple when you see it written down but people either can't write it or pronounce it. At the drs they don't bother, they just say my first name. I don't have to worry about marriage because I'm not looking to be near anyone. Woo. Ha.

Emily, I like how your family sound classy and had a trade when they came over. Much better than my bunch of ragamuffins!
 
I had the emergency coil fitted after a bit of a frightening experience, if you get me. I had taken the morning after pill within a couple of hours but I didn't want there to be even the slightest chance that I could end up having the *insertstringofexpletives* offspring. I had to have surgery under general anaesthetic a few months later and they swapped it for the Mirena which is a lot better for you. They don't usually recommend it for anyone that hasn't had children, but now it's in there I'm not going through all that to get it out until I actually want kids!

I get mistaken for a teenager still (I was 26 in Aug) which has its benefits and drawbacks. I do get talked down to, particularly by guys at work who don't know me - and I doubt being 5'3" helps matters much! Do you find you get treated differently for being a single mum? I remember being out with a friend and her little sister, who was 16 years younger, and a woman just walking past and saying "Disgusting!" - assuming she was a teenage mother. I couldn't believe it!
 
Apolon! I love it! Maybe I can convince John...

Haha I love the tap baptism story! My Poppa was horrified that my uncle wasn't going to get my cousin Holly baptised. My mum popped round one day while they were living together and found him holding Holly over the sink with the tap running. He just winked at her and crossed himself! They're all at it!
 
I think you contraception is about the most guaranteed you'll get!! You never know they do say you're most likely to meet someone when you least expect it so you Mr Right may be just around the corner. People think I am younger than I am and I get that too, it's so stupid as I am quite bright even if my spelling is rubbish haha and I hate being treated like an idiot.

30DS is good but all the injuries it seems to cause it's not worth it so you're not missing anything and where you live mixed with not having a car is enough to keep you fit I am sure. Love the surname thing too :)

I've not heard of people doing that with their names, it's quite unique really. You'd not be able to merge our names together so it'd have to be one or the other but maybe I'll make him take mine for punishment for making me have a church wedding haha ;) I think I feel the way I do as there is only me and my brother left to carry on the name and he doesn't ever want to settle down (am sure that'll change) but it seems sad that it could be the end of our family name so to speak

My family have beliefs, his are very catholic (his mum goes to a mass EVERY day!) but we'd not get financial support but it'd mean a lot to him so I think I'd have to back down on that if we ever got engaged because it would be so important to him but I'd not have any children christened. I am the only one who doesn't believe but I was lucky as I was brought up able to make that choice for myself and my parents support my choice. It's hard as he is a good person and he treats me well and I know I can trust him but it's such a shame that we feel so different about something so important that 99% of the time makes no difference

Lyrically you were very brave going through that because I am certain the pain would have been bad but you have to be certain as accidents do happen even when trying to be careful.
 
Hi all, am sitting about to read through my slimming world books ready to get on that horse and ride it well and truly for a bit of damage limitation after the last 3 days!

I'm going to drink litres of water tomorrow, make up some quiche for lunches at work, get lots of superfree fruits and veggies and have syn free Mon and Tues (low syn tomorrow but need a couple for gravy on my Sunday dinner!)

If I gain this week it's my own fault, I've been a t*t and deserve a gain, but will work as hard as I can to make it the smallest gain/or dare I say it an STS if possible!

Been talking to OHs mum tonight who I go wit and she gave me a bit of a pep talk - basically said she wasn't about to let me give up on the diet as I'm doing SO well, and to get myself back on it tomorrow and remember why I'm doing it!

SO...here I go ladies, gym tomorrow, Mon and Tues I think!! Xx

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Like was said earlier don't beat yourself up Camz, you know what you've done, you want to change it and you will do.

I am sure you'll be fine, in the past I have had a weekend where I have well and truely gone off plan and I lost because I was sensible on the other days or just pure luck so you'll be ok and we'll all support you in any way we can

It's so good you've planned your next few days as that is the SW key x x
 
Thanks, Star. It was a really horrible bit of my life and I didn't speak to anyone about it at the time - it was made harder as the guy was a friend of a lot of other friends and I don't think they would've found it easy to believe what happened. It might have all turned out fine, but I was worried enough to go through all that at the time! It was pretty much from then that I started comfort eating the pounds on too.

If the OH and I got married I'd go from Lagrue to Brushett (pronounced Broo-shet) so not quite as exotic looking but not quintessentially English either!

I haven't attempted the 30DS - I think I'd die from what everyone else has said! Half tempted to invest in some weights but heaven knows what I'd do with them and I can pretty much guarantee they'd be gathering dust within 3 months. I'm just not motivated enough!
 
Sounds like you've got your head straight and have a great support in your OH's mum, Laura!

Fingers crossed for damage limitation but whatever the scales say, it'll be a new week and an absolutely fresh start. Well done for pulling yourself back!
 
It does sound horrid so it's good you were strong enough to put yourself first and do what needed to be done. Sometimes all it takes is a bad experience and you find comfort in food, I got fat (because that is what I am at my weight) because my ex was mentally abusive and destroyed my confidence so I turned to food for comfort as that made me feel better even though now I really regret not doing something sooner as the around 6.5 stone I will need to loose in total is quite daunting and why I set myself mini targets.

Those are really unusual surnames so at least it would be personal to your family which is pretty cool :) 30DS is good, it works but I agrivated and old injury and couldn't walk for several days as I inflamed the tissue in the base of my back where you spine/pelvis/legs all kind of meet and I never want to go through that again as losing the ability to walk was awful

Very late tonight but the strictly spoiler is now through so I am going to bed before the munchies take over, nite all. Hope you all have good days tomorrow and I am sure I'll be back on then x x
 
Haha, that is brilliant. My brothers were done properly but she didnt have time to get me done. Itcd jot be so bad if it wasn't a complete stranger they never saw again. Oh well *head spins round* the name is pronounced Apple-on it is bloody stupid. Grandad was Ukrainian but originally it is greek (decended from the god Apollo). When you live your whole life spelling your name before people even ask it gets annoying.

Where I live is pretty small so it isn't too bad. One of my before photos for group was my graduation photo which surprised a lot of my group. If people know what road I live on they suck up a bit but generally I don't get any negative young mum comments. If I'm in exeter or somewhere else I get people saying "oh you are such a good mum, not like most young mums blah blah blah" when I say how old I am they are shocked and say they think I'm anything from 16 to 19. At work I got takes down to to start with but then people were fine. Except one woman who tried to get me fired. My parents used to get the same problem when we were little. Dad was 30 when he was asked if his parents were home.

I'm surprised at how many religious families there are. I once said "ooh there must be a wedding on" when nope, it was just church had finished to which I said "i thought people didn't go to church anymore" oh well. Poor jahovas witnesses get told we worship maman here.

Even if I meet Mr right I'd pass over him. I decided when I was going to keep Nate that I wasn't going to have men in and out of his life and that I was going to say no to any relationships until he was an adult. Friends think I'm mad but it is what I want.

Laura you CAN do it. Look at your stats! Your bmi has plummeted. You can do it :) just remember if you can't do syn free without wanting to binge after have something :)
 
Flippin eck...why do we eat nawty stuff even when you tell yourself off WHILST eating it?! Can't take my own advice...
 
Night night star.

Emily I like your surname better. I blame the "naughties" love of brushetta for me prefering yours.

I have to say girls, men are utter ****s sometimes. Seriously some need exterminating... You were brave to go through it, especially without support from your friends. I'd have probably done the same thing.

N'aww I love our 20 somethings room.
 
My bed time has been delayed until the kettle boils as I have just walked in to my bedroom and it's freezing!! I can't use the heater in there so hot water bottle is coming out for the for the first time!!

If I had a child I would do the exact same thing Fran. I don't want to come across badly but my child would come first and men are wonderful in so many ways buy oh my can they be a pain and much worse and I'd not want to unsettle my little one so I'd rather it was just me but a secure loving home so I would be quite happy to give it all up. My want of a husband is as 0.01% but my want of a child is about 75%. I am one of the older ones on here (28) and I do worry I am getting a bit old but it's silly really as my circumstances mean kids are off the radar for at least another couple of years

Jo if we could work out the 'cure' to that we'd become weight loss gurus as we'd have the answer to one of the biggest dieting dilemas out there :)
 
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