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[Starlight]

I know I couldnt do a VLCD and if you think youd struggle why not give WW or SW a go even for a month and see how you get on. I definitely think the lack of structure just now is adversely affecting your results and your perception of a 'food' diet.

Try something structured and if it doesnt work, then its on to Plan B. The right diet for you is out there, we just need to work out which one it is

 

[Gemstone]

Hi Martyn
Serious now - those vlcd diets scare me too. I worry about nutrition (and its impact on my future health) I worry about speedy weightloss cos it doesn't seem right somehow. I would rather not have a whole load of skin I have to tuck in my knickers before I go out AND I wouldn't go out of my way to have an apronectomy.
Look at it this way, If I had started my weightloss new year 2007 when I was going to I would have been half way there with 4 stone the other side of the scales.
Spend some time looking at nutrition and what foods do what AND explore your emotional relationship with food before you decide. SW and WW make all that a bit easier if you can cope with it (it's not for me but it might be for you)
No-one can decide for you and I really do hope all our opinions are helping, not confusing you Good luck with your big decision
Gem x

Well done elle for refusing the biccies x

 

[Kitteh]

vlcd have all the vitamins and minerals you need.. it isnt a life choice.. sorry.. but i get so defensive about cd.. you should see some of the people who have done it.. summerskye is a pure babe.. flirtys done it.. and tons more.. look at the pictures of icemoose.. weight loss can always leave excess skin etc.. thats part of the fact of us being overweight..
but i do think that it isnt the diet for everyone.. sometimes ww or sw.. or healthy eating plan.. but i do love cd..

x x

 

[Martyn]

Its my vanity that will end up controlling this decision i think. My main goal in losing weight is, well to be attractive more so for myself than other people.

I found a pair of jeans that i want to wear, they are very gay, very revealing and totally what i WANT me to be wearing. Not hidden away under layers of black and jeans trying to hide my bulges.

I want to go to a club and not worry about people laughing at me and wondering if i am going to eat them on my way to the bathroom.

Turning down a holiday with my best friends because they want to spend a week sunbathing, and the sheer idea of of having to take my top off in public makes me want to put a big baggy jumper on and hide in a corner.

The crude part: I wanna have sex with guys and not have to worry about what they are thinking! I broke up with a really special guy, because i couldn't get past the idea that i was twice the size of him. It took me along time to get over that.

I keep finding myself angry, pure anger, at myself for getting this way.

Wow.. rant alart! lol. Anyway, my point. I need to make big changes and i need to make them fast. Thats what is putting all my scary thoughts about the VLCD out the window right now. If i could lose 7stone in 4 months like Monsoon, i would be the most happy person in the world.

The thought of flabby skin afterwords? almost as scary as being 23stone until i die an early death lol.

I know, very morbid and angsty, but i finally had to be honest with someone! And well, that someone is all you lovely ladies!

Sad, i know lol.

 

[Gemstone]

That's ok kitteh - I'm not knocking your diet, just giving an honest personal opinion. I'm into natural stuff anyway and can't really reconcile the meal replacement thing with all the additives. I did try CD a long time ago and it just wasn't for me, just as SW and WW are not for me but their eating plans are more to my liking. Everyone has to find what they are looking for and you have done SO well on vlcd - no criticism meant
Gem x

 

[Starlight]

I think you need to weigh a lot up, unfortunately youll find none of us particularly objective as we're all passionate about our respective diets. It really is down to what you want, how a diet would fit in with your lifestyle and most importantly what you can stick to.

Take a step back and look around the various diets, dont let other peoples successes or failures cloud or influence your decision. Lots of people have lost LOTS on a VLCD but could you cope with the very strict discipline of it? Ive lost loads on WW but you wouldnt necessarily lose as much.

Really the first thing to do is to work out what diet might fit best into your life and take it from there. It may be you try several before you get the one that clicks for you and thats fine.

Just remember the weight didnt go on overnight, and it wont come off overnight

*HUGS*

 

[Kitteh]

Martyn.. you want the same as me.. im not doing this for my health.. shocking may it be.. im doing it cos i want to feel attractive in my own skin.. i dont want to be fat for much longer.. also my biggest fear is dying.. maybe not through being over weight.. but being over weight and dying.. and not being able to have a "normal coffin".. and all that jazz.. it sounds sick.. but it really worries me.. at our age our skin bounces back.. and the chances of me after a year at goal having much loose skin is very unlikely.. so.. thats what i have going for me on my side.. the quicker i lose this weight.. the more likely i am to have my skin be elasticcy..

and dont worry gem.. me doll.. i didnt think you did.. i just had to point out about the nutrients.. lol.. *hugs*

x x

 

[Kitteh]

ooh i love that starlight.. she speaks sense.. hehe

x x

 

[Martyn]

Its official, i vote Starlight for World President.

And Kitteh, if i do start the CD, wanna be partners? lol.

I am going to take Starlights advice (And everyone elses) And step back, and think it through, infact, even though its pissing it down, i am going to take the dog out to clear my head and mull things over!

I will be back in 30! Hope your all around still incase my head just gets worse! lol

Lots of Love
You all really are the best thing since sliced bread!
Tyn
x

 

[Kitteh]

We'll be partners no matter what diet you choose dollface.. we're in it together.. and we can get there.. all we need is support..

x x

 

[Porgeous]

Just popping in to say hi and welcome on board... not sure how I missed this thread! Am going to read back through but looking at the last few posts I think you are right to take your time and consider your options before making a decision about what is right for you.

xxx

 

[Gemstone]

Heading for bed now Tyn so won't be here when you get back so good luck and just do what you need to do to succeed. I do have to think a little bit more about skin as I'm older than you guys but nothing is ever set in stone so it is still a consideration. Things like smoking and booze can have an effect on elasticity and I have no idea how supple or otherwise your skin is. 2 women can be pregnant at the same time of life, have the same weight and the same size babies - one can have stretch marks at the end and the other one not. SO I'm not even going to attempt telling you what to do!
Night night all
Gem x

 

[Martyn]

And i am back, phew! Dog hates me now for getting him cold and wet! lol. Did me the world of good tho. Or rather, helped me organise my mind lol. Going to go see my doctor / Nurse before i make any rash choices i think, i mean thats what they are there for! and looking good (phowr doctor! lol)

 

[cah-ching]

Hello Tyn-Tyn.




























Good night Tyn Tyn

 

[Gemstone]

Morning All
Mornings come round far too quickly - still look on the bright side, weigh in 4 days time - yikes! How sad was that?

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Gem x :character00238:​

 

[elle2585]

Morning all sexy people! I did try and post again last night but it was being stoooopid and I gave up after the second try!

Tyn Tyn! you've officially outed my nickname from uni, Smelly Elley! lol... I would say have a look about see what the options are and assess what you think's best for you - i for one couldn't do anything where I had to stop eating 'normal' food and also I think I would find it hard maintaining the weight I wanted to be at when I resumed eating food again. Don't worry my love we'll help you whatever you decide!

Gem - thanks hun! My nan made me a cup of tea around half nine and brought in a plate piled high with biscuits but i politely refused so she trotted off back to the kitchen with them bless her. I think she got the message finally!

Weigh in tomorrow! Woo!

 

[Gemstone]

Morning elle
You should do well tomorrow. Sounds like you as bin ama-zin. Go girl. Tried to give you a rep point last night for having the inovation to find us on the moby but it was denied. So take a smiley instead Hope alls well with your olds too.
Gem x

 

[elle2585]

Yeah all's as good as it can be, since my grandad used to smoke near on 70 fags a day lol. Naughty man! My innovation is a great discovery, I can access you sexy people from wherever I am, joyous news!! I greatly appreciate the smiley.. can't believe the reputations thing wont let you give to the same person straight away. I got refused one for both you and Tyn Tyn the other night! We should start a rebellion. Baggsy me wearin the red shoes throughout! HA HAAAA xxx

 

[Martyn]

Hi Girls, indeed, morning is here yay. More mornings the better, means its less time to be bored over the holidays! lol

Well, i was awake until gone 4am this morning, reading a guys blog (Icemoose i think his name is on here) and it was really, really amazing. Not finished it yet, but it definatly swayed me more to the VLCD.

I think the idea of not having to worry about food will be a huge asset, no thinking about low cal, low fat, low carbs, its just gone, vamooshed and i can focus my energy on hitting the gym, and my degree.

I think when i have get a job, i am going to start the CD, obviously going to be another 2weeks before i actually start it, but it feels like the right thing to do. Besides whats the worst that can happen? I realise its not for me and find something else! lol.

Anyway, how are you lovely ladies doing today? Is work horrible? haha.

xx We need to set up a website, to announce to the world that Elle is in fact *pause for dramatic effect* Smelly Elle *Dum dum duuuuum!*

 

[Starlight]

Soooo if youre leaning towards a VLCD in a few weeks why not use those few weeks to try something else too