Big Boys Need Love Too!

[Jim]

Well Taz, your'e the first on this thread.

 

[Taz]

It seems so quiet here lately

 

[Jim]

I agree taz, got quite busy yesterday morning for a while though. Gem is hard at work, and elle seems to be busy as well.

 

[Taz]

Just us slackers then!

 

[Jim]

LOL, yes it looks like it love, abz should be here by now, maybe she's on a day off.

 

[Gemstone]

Good morning everyone

I'm here. I'm a bit late this morning cos I had a bit of a break last evening and then started again - hitting the pillow at 1.45 am - discovered you can't burn the candle both ends for long cos it meets in the middle. I'm feeling a bit burnt out at the moment but there's still a lot to do so I'll have to press on :sigh:

I'm also getting the washing up together for the weekend so that I can move quick tomorrow to go over to Wales. I'm really looking forward to seeing my daughter and the little one - I bet the baby has grown a lot since January

Have a great day everyone

 

[Jim]

That'll be nice Gem, I'm still being told I'll be a double granddad late this year or early next year.

 

[Gemstone]

That sounds good Jim - we'll all look forward to the news

 

[Jim]

Seeing as I was 25 and *SHE* was 18 when we married and then had the kids, I can't quite believe I'm not a granddad at 60 can you Gem?

 

[abz]

ha. making you wait are they jim?

well i've been at work since 7, but i've been at the other end of the office sorting some things out. i do have to work SOMETIMES you know

i had to chair our meeting yesterday so i've got all the writeup to do now. so i think i'll give that a shot now. hmph.

 

[Jim]

Yes abz, they are all tied up in their careers it seems

I hate meetings!

 

[Gemstone]

Jim - a lot of young people these days have children later. My daughter is 32 and her eldest is only 3. It's lovely to have grandchildren though - you'll enjoy it x

 

[Jim]

I know Gem, both of mine are in their early 30's.

 

[Gemstone]

There you go then - I was 25 when I had my first. I was pregnant for about 4 years and ended up with 3 under 4 years old - body shock and culture shock - both OH and I were only kids

 

[Jim]

yes Gem, Colleen was 19 and 21 for our pair. My parents were Grands at 45 and 41. I am the eldest of 5 kids.

 

[Taz]

I am 29 this year and no sprogs on the horizon. We live longer now so what's the rush?!

 

[Jim]

ah but Taz, you'll still have kids around in your late forties or even fifties, we have been child free for 15 years or more and I'm loving it.

 

[Gemstone]

Taz - whatever is right for you is right - there's no special formula for doing it right. You have them or not - early or late - as long as you love them and care for them if they do come that's all that matters in the end. I always said that my third child was 2 years premature - you see the blank looks as people try to work it out!!! She was born 19 months after my second and the pregnancy was a bit of a shock. Then I had a scare and thought I was losing her but she was meant to be here and the pregnancy continued. She has been a lovely daughter and but for the accidental pregnancy I would never have known her.

I enjoyed having children and part of me still misses that phase in my life. My only wish on the parenting front would be to have hindsight so that I could have made one or two different decisions as they grew up x

 

[Taz]

Gem I'm sure the decisions you made for them were all good ones!

Jim, you may have been child free for 15 years but I am child free now and I have hobbies that I love and a good job that pays very well! If I'd had kids a year or 2 ago I wouldn't have got my promotion when I did!

 

[abz]

i want to be a young mum. my mum was 21 (nearly 22) when she had me and i LOVED having a young mum. saying that, i'm 26 and will be at least 27 before i have any sprogs so i won't be that young i suppose. i wanted to be a mum pre-30 because i wanted to be a young mum, but that doesn't mean that's the right choice. but the risks for the baby are higher once you are in your 30s, so i would like to avoid that too.

abz xx