Dinkie Dawnies Dubious Diary of Downsizing, Deflation, and Debauchery

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Hey bestie, everything ok? x

Hi bestie, thank you, we're fine xx Just haven't had a minute to myself over the last 2 days! I've gotta go visiting some diaries ASAP (starting with yours so watch out lol) and try and catch up with all the goss! Will get mine out the way first xx

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Right, what a couple of days! We drove to Norwich yesterday to pick Shirleys mum Edna up, and got back here around 4.30pm. She's amazing considering she's nearly 94! She does get a bit confused sometimes, and I have to help her up and downstairs, but my God she's incredible for her age! We were having a chat in the conservatory when Shirley rang to say she'd just come back from the hospice and that dad was really poorly with stomach and bowel problems. She asked if I wud mind picking her up from the hospice the next day as she was going to get a taxi to dads so she could hav a birthday drink with him, bless her. Of course I said yes, but she thought I was working and I felt a bit guilty saying I'd collect her when I finished work, when I knew I'd arranged to get her birthday off!
Anyway, today we arranged for my brother and his wife to go to the hospice to see how dad was, and make sure he would cope with all the excitement of ednas surprise visit. Shirley was already there of course. Then Gwyn, Andrew and I walked in and Shirley was so pleased to see us...she was thrilled I'd got her birthday off.
Then I told her we'd left her pressie in the car, and brought Edna in. Well, poor Shirley was totally overwhelmed. She burst into tears, and she just kept saying "mum, oh mum..." as they hugged, Edna started crying, dad started...in the end we were all sobbing! I think it was a real relief for Shirley to see her mum after all that's been going on with dad. We had the most wonderful afternoon sitting round dads bed, eating birthday cake and drinking wine! Even dad managed some cake and a glass of wine, then the hospice volunteers came round with the drinks trolley and he had a vodka and coke! I can't tell you how fantastic it was that he could share in Shirleys celebrations. Of course it wasn't the same as having a proper party at home but it was a bloody good alternative. Dad was having a pretty good day as far as the pain was concerned, which was just lovely.
We spent around 3hrs with him, and finally said our goodbyes about 6.30. Then everyone came back to ours and we were joined by vicki, and my youngest son Dan with his girlfriend Katy. Obviously everyone was rather peckish by then so we ordered ALL the 'special' dishes on the menu of our local Chinese to share between us, with loads of rice and chips! I have NO idea of syns, and I had about 6 glasses of wine too...but I honestly am not very bothered. I will never forget today.
So won't bother with my food diary today as its pretty pants really lol! Also last week I told my sw c that Andrew and I wouldn't b able to make it tonight, so no wi this week.
Wow, think the wine is hitting me now lol! Or maybe the adrenaline is wearing off, but I'm struggling to keep my eyes open...may hav to do diary visiting tomorrow xx

Hope everyones ok, will try to get back to normal tomorrow xx

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Good Morning lovely

:happy036: sounds like a truely lovely time was had by all :happy096:, Im so glad that dad was able to join in -sounds like he was right in the thick of it :clap:
No wonder you are pooped out -not just all the too-ing and fro-ing, but all the mental stress of keeping secrets etc, still it sounds like it was more than worth it!
As for the take away *pah* sounds like you would have burnt anything you ate off with all you are doing -and if not, well so what -it was one day and you more than deserved it Mrs.
Hope you have another good day with dad....
Take care and "get some rest" :vibes:
 
Dawn,

it sounds absolutely lovely. I'm so glad you had a fantastic time. It sounds just wonderful :). I would not be in the slightest bothered about the food or wine - that is just one of those occasions (like my gourmet weekends) where life, the occasion or the food and wine itself is more important and the plan takes a back seat.

Happy Birthday Shirley :D

Gail x

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Hi Dawn

So happy to hear your birthday surprise for Shirley went off without a hitch and a great day was had by all :D
Shirley is so lucky to still have her mum around, and what a grand age she is :)
I hope you got yourself some rest and your dad is still comfortable
:hug99:
Mo x
 
Hey Dawn

Sounds like shirleys birthday was just perfect, and u definitely deserved the wine and treats, no reason to feel guilty, it was a special occasion and those are allowed on sw!!!

xxx
 
I agree with what everyone else has said here, that was one of those genuine "screw the diet" moments. It must have been so lovely to see your dad smiling and having fun. Hope you have a nice weekend! X
 
Hey Dawn :wavey:
Hope you're ok and your dad had a good day :)
:hug99:
Mo x
 
Ooh just look at that! I'm not on here for a couple of days and u wonderful guys fill my page with lovely, heartwarming messages! Every one means such a lot to me, thank you all very much xx.

Yesterday Shirley picked Edna up in the morning, took her for a wander round the garden centre, gave her lunch and then took her to see dad. This gave us a chance to catch up on a load of jobs, then I went to meet them at the hospice. Dad wasn't too bad, but had been told by the doctor that the strange lump on his leg was actually some of the cancer which had managed to grow through the skin through a weakness in his operation scar. It looks horrible really, like a fleshy bubble on his leg, and its incredibly painful. So obviously we were all upset about that. I bought Edna home so Shirley could have an hour with dad on her own, helped Edna to shower etc, and then when Shirley arrived we had a nice roast pork dinner. It was delicious, and I used Frylight for the roast spuds, but then I ended up having 3 glasses of wine and some birthday cake!

Today Shirley took Edna out while Gwyn and I went to see the saints play Leeds, and we won...just! Came back and got dinner ready again and Shirley came back with Edna about 6.30, so we had dinner together again. Only 2 glasses of wine tonite, so I'm improving! But poor dad had a dreadful day today, the hospice had to call the duty doctor in to increase dads morphine dose. They also asked dad about his preferences...where he wants to be when the time comes.
I'm finding this so hard now. I've known he's dying for a long time, but somehow this is all so much more real now. I can't believe he's going to die. It's not right.

Oh dear, I better go. This is one of the reasons I haven't been on here. I wanted to keep my diary upbeat, but its not, is it?

Anyway, probably won't be about tomorrow as we're taking Edna to church with us, and we have a meal there after the service. It's a special service celebrating the church's anniversary, and the preacher is a family friend and also the man who married Gwyn and me. After the lunch we shall meet Shirley at the hospice, and Edna can say her goodbyes, then we will be taking her back to norwich.

So hope to see u all soon, probably Mon, but it will more than likely be late cos I'm back at work.

Take care everyone, lots of love xx

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Bless you. - Words cannot convey my feelings for you just now....How terrible it is to watch your parent suffering in this way and know what the eventuality is even tho' we know it comes to us all at some time.

Hope that you can ride the storm and must say you are doing wonderfully well. No probs with letting us all know how you are feeling and all the other stuff.

All the very best to you Dawn, my thoughts are with you ......:)
 
Oh Dawn, my heart goes out to you all. As Emmaline said, it's so hard to see a loved one in pain, but you are being so strong and I have no doubt that it helps those around you, as will your faith.

Coming on here to say how you are feeling will be some small release for you, so don't in anyway feel your postings should always be 'upbeat' hun ;)

Take care my lovely :hug99:
 
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Thinking of u and ur family Hun xx

As the others have said there is nothing in the rules about having to be upbeat, this place is to help u in the tough times as well as celebrating the good times.

xxx
 
Yeah Dawn, this diary (and we as readers) is here to help you in good and bad times. Please don't feel you have to be upbeat a the time, I think you are coping amazingly, I would be in pieces if I were you. My thoughts are with you and your family xxxx
 
Hey bestie,
I wish i could reach through the screen and give you a massive cuddle :hug99: i'm sorry things are they way they are, i'm not very good at things like this but just no that i am always thinking of you (which i no is a little odd for forum buddies but we both no i'm more then a little odd) and i always worry about you which is why you get random little messages when you've not been on for a while :D
Whether you post upbeat or downbeat or nothing at all we will all still be reading and checking up on you because thats what we do.
huggles :hug99:

 
Hi Dawn,

Thanks so much for posting. It doesn't matter whether you post upbeat or how things actually are, we know that things are difficult at the moment. So, better to post it and then hopefully we know how you are. We can't make things better for you (as much as we wish we could) however we can be here to support you as much as is possible through cyberspace.

I don't think it matters how much you know what is going to happen, nothing can truly prepare you for that. Most of the time, you will just get on with life because that's just how things are and it's so wonderful that you can spend real quality time with your Dad and family, but sometimes you just can't avoid thinking about things. Just accept that you will have good moments and difficult moments for a long time to come. Savour the good moments and do your best to get through the difficult ones. We will be here for you if we can help and if we can't help then we will be waiting for you when we can.

I hope they are able to get control of your Dad's pain again. We are all thinking of you and sending you the biggest cyber hugs to you, your Dad and your family.

Gail xxx
 
Hey Dawn
Sorry I havent been by recently - all a bit mad with the new job. Thinking of you and sending good thoughts. Chin up sweets.

Have been giving you a 'flash' as I drive thru Northampton ;)
xx
 
Hi to all you lovely ladies, and :thankyou: for leaving such warm and comforting messages for me xx.

I'm hoping to get into a more normal routine now...well as normal as poss :fingerscrossed:

We had a very nice day yesterday. Took Edna to church where she was welcomed with kisses from the men and hugs from the ladies, which she thoroughly enjoyed! Its a very small church, only around 20-25 in the congregation, and I'm the youngest at 44! Edna was amazed to find she wasn't the oldest at 94...we have a lady called Gladys who's 96! Anyway, the service was absolutely lovely, very personal, as it was conducted by our old Rev. Lionel (who's 82!!!)

After the service we had coffee in the church, then went through to the back rooms where we had a very tasty roast pork dinner followed by trifle or apple pie & custard. After another coffee, we went to see dad but sadly he'd had such a bad night that they'd dosed him right up and he was fast asleep when we got there. We spent half an hour there just in case dad woke up but he didn't, so Shirley & Edna said their goodbyes and we set off for Norwich. Had a good journey, only 2 hours, and arrived to find Ednas other daughter Valerie had left a huge pile of sandwiches and a cake for us. So of course we had to eat them :ashamed0005: Another 2 hour journey home and we were sitting down with a G&T by 21.00hrs :7834:

Back to work today :argh: but actually it wasn't too bad. Popped up to see dad after work and it was great to find him eating his tea...only a sandwich, but he was eating :eating: The doctors did a blood test today and discovered that dads blood has become extremely sticky so he's at high risk of a clot, so they've put him back on aspirin. The test also showed a problem with his calcium levels, so they put him on a drip while I was there. Another thing they have been discussing giving dad is a nerve block, but they were unsure as to whether it would work. After speaking with the pain clinic at the general, they have decided to give it a go, but getting him there is going to be a problem even going by ambulance. Because the leg and pelvis are so unstable, & the pain is obviously unbearable at times, they are going to have to medicate dad to the point that he may be barely conscious. The appt isn't till friday, but tomorrow the doctors are going to attempt a kind of dry run. They're going to medicate him, then try sliding him from one bed to another to simulate transferring him onto a stretcher. Then they are going to see if dad can lay on his side for 30 mins as he will have to do that on friday to have the nerve block. So if they do all this successfully tomorrow, we will attempt to get him to the general on fri. I have to say I'm very concerned for him, but we have to trust the doctors. They are so wonderful and they simply won't give up the battle to get dad pain free. Quite simply, they are all angels, along with all the nurses.

It's very late so I think I'll post my food, switch to my mob & visit a diary or two, & then call it a day. Like an idiot, I decided to try wk2 day2 of the c25k tonight...and it damn near killed me lol!!! My knee was fine until I got home and now its really hurting again...dunno what I can do to sort the blinkin thing out! :mad: Might try some strapping...?

Todays Food

42g all bran (B)
125 mls ss milk (1/2 A)

ham salad
banana
2 x apples
salad cream (3)
velvet crunch crisps (4)
yoghurt

pork
2 x roast spud (left overs from church meal so cooked in oil 4)
peas
carrots
yoghurt

Just realised I only had 1/2 my A today.

Total syns:- 11
Exercise:- wk 2 day 2 c25k
 
Hey bestie,
Glad work wasn't too terrible. The doctors and nurses sound amazing, fingers crossed the block is successful.
Defo try strapping the knee next time x
 
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