Pregnancy and Baby Advice Thread: From Conception to Birth, and Beyond!
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missy1978
Big Bird
Thanks for the ideas ladies - lots for me to think about!
The puppy training mats are a great idea, will have a look at the mothercare ones too but I would imagine they're the same thing only with a bigger price lol
We were recommended to get a protective sheet for the bed at our antenatal class for the last few weeks so gonna look into that too.
The induction thing is a massive dilemma currently - I've told them I want to be induced at 40 weeks on the basis of my MH issues and the pain I'm in but they've pretty much said no as there's no medical reason to do it. Got to see the consultant in three weeks to confirm that it definitely is a no although there is still a chance she might change her mind. And obviously I have to go with what they say and I'd not want them to do it anyway if it'd make things more risky for baby. I'm terrified of natural labour and of going overdue as well but that means nothing really in the end, it's all about what's right for him and if that means I go slightly crackers then so be it...
The way it seems to work at our hospital is the same as what you said Frances - they assess you over the phone and tell you to come in or not. When I had my hospital tour, the MH midwife did say that they would be less likely to send me home because of my MH issues but that it would depend on who was there and she obviously couldn't guarantee anything.
Not sure if they can arrange transport but I'm about 15-20 mins from the hospital (I live pretty close to town).
I will definitely speak to them about it though, seeing my midwife in just over a week and I'll bring it up with the consultant too. Thanks everyone xxx
The puppy training mats are a great idea, will have a look at the mothercare ones too but I would imagine they're the same thing only with a bigger price lol
We were recommended to get a protective sheet for the bed at our antenatal class for the last few weeks so gonna look into that too. The induction thing is a massive dilemma currently - I've told them I want to be induced at 40 weeks on the basis of my MH issues and the pain I'm in but they've pretty much said no as there's no medical reason to do it. Got to see the consultant in three weeks to confirm that it definitely is a no although there is still a chance she might change her mind. And obviously I have to go with what they say and I'd not want them to do it anyway if it'd make things more risky for baby. I'm terrified of natural labour and of going overdue as well but that means nothing really in the end, it's all about what's right for him and if that means I go slightly crackers then so be it...
The way it seems to work at our hospital is the same as what you said Frances - they assess you over the phone and tell you to come in or not. When I had my hospital tour, the MH midwife did say that they would be less likely to send me home because of my MH issues but that it would depend on who was there and she obviously couldn't guarantee anything.
Not sure if they can arrange transport but I'm about 15-20 mins from the hospital (I live pretty close to town).
I will definitely speak to them about it though, seeing my midwife in just over a week and I'll bring it up with the consultant too. Thanks everyone xxx
Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
They'll obviously take ur travel issues into consideration too...
missy1978
Big Bird
Thanks lovelies. I hope they will take our travel issues into consideration!
I think I'm just jittering so badly about it all that everything feels like a massive problem at the moment! And it probably isn't at all, I just need to speak to the right people and get something planned so I can feel better xxx
I think I'm just jittering so badly about it all that everything feels like a massive problem at the moment! And it probably isn't at all, I just need to speak to the right people and get something planned so I can feel better
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Missy you can use the pads but also take a towel to sit on as that'll be absorbant. Wear a pad in your knickers too and I honestly doubt you would get anything on the seats.
If it's any consolation mikes already planning how to protect his beloved car seats and his plan is black bags and towels! I haven't told him about the inco pads... I'm waiting to see how resourceful he can be
I'm sure it's very normal to be worrying about things but if you were really stuck you'd have to call an ambulance.... Trust me lots of people do it so my mum tells me! I'm sure you can find a taxi firm willing to take you and if you tell them you are planning to have things to protect the seat etc it may help reassure them.
Big hugs hun xx
Missy you can use the pads but also take a towel to sit on as that'll be absorbant. Wear a pad in your knickers too and I honestly doubt you would get anything on the seats.
If it's any consolation mikes already planning how to protect his beloved car seats and his plan is black bags and towels! I haven't told him about the inco pads... I'm waiting to see how resourceful he can be
I'm sure it's very normal to be worrying about things but if you were really stuck you'd have to call an ambulance.... Trust me lots of people do it so my mum tells me! I'm sure you can find a taxi firm willing to take you and if you tell them you are planning to have things to protect the seat etc it may help reassure them.
Big hugs hun xx
pjallen1982
Gold Member
Well attended our first NCT antenatal class tonight. There were 7 other couples. All seemed very nice and similar age to us. It was everyone's first baby.
We first did some introductions- names, where live, where having baby. Then we spoke about decisions we have already made and how we made those, so for example why the hospital we chose, why the pushchair we chose etx.
Then had to label parts of the body and lady went through each bit and how women's body is changing to prepare for labour. We looked at the different hormones and how to maximise those, so for example the important of staying calm and being told that we are doing a job in the early stages of labour.
Then looked at the different stages of labour and contractions. What to do at each stage. How it can affect people.
We have some papers to read before Saturday's session.
Main things we took away from today was
1. Pack a picnic- important for partner to have food and drinks, as well us.
2. What to wear - important partner has a t shirt packed because it will be very hot. Important we are comfy in what we are wearing.
3. The calmer you are the easier labour will be
4. Standing up, kneeling or bending down will help in each stage of labour compared to lying down on a bed. Let gravity help.
Am exhausted. Struggling with acid reflux again so had lots of milk and propped up in bed. Let's hope I sleep better tonight x
We first did some introductions- names, where live, where having baby. Then we spoke about decisions we have already made and how we made those, so for example why the hospital we chose, why the pushchair we chose etx.
Then had to label parts of the body and lady went through each bit and how women's body is changing to prepare for labour. We looked at the different hormones and how to maximise those, so for example the important of staying calm and being told that we are doing a job in the early stages of labour.
Then looked at the different stages of labour and contractions. What to do at each stage. How it can affect people.
We have some papers to read before Saturday's session.
Main things we took away from today was
1. Pack a picnic- important for partner to have food and drinks, as well us.
2. What to wear - important partner has a t shirt packed because it will be very hot. Important we are comfy in what we are wearing.
3. The calmer you are the easier labour will be
4. Standing up, kneeling or bending down will help in each stage of labour compared to lying down on a bed. Let gravity help.
Am exhausted. Struggling with acid reflux again so had lots of milk and propped up in bed. Let's hope I sleep better tonight x
Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
Laura (MrsLMC) recommends keeping calm as possible too.. She's been there twice so I'm believing her lol
But I have noticed when I was having those really strong cramps a few weeks back.. If I remembered to breath, they eased off.. Was hard to remember as the pains were so strong at the time but once I did, they eased off... So need to remember that on D Day...
missy1978
Big Bird
But how do you keep calm when you're already anxious? I don't doubt that it works. Just not sure how I'm supposed to do it and the idea that I'm making labour harder for myself is really upsetting tbh. Wish someone could tell me what to do :/
Cai
has a thin girl inside!
Drugs calmed me in hospital!!
epidural saved my life!! Midwives ad doctors are v calming and great at their job! Not once did I feel they were stressed about Stevie when in reality they were worried about his heart rate and oxygen levels!! I didn't know till the end!
xx
missy1978
Big Bird
Drugs calmed me in hospital!!
I'm worried about epidurals tbh - need to speak to the physio about this but have been warned off them because of the PGP... Apparently when you can't feel your legs it's easy for them to over stretch your joints when they move you and it can cause permanent damage :/ Then again, I can't lie comfortably on my back so not sure how the whole thing would work anyway?
I guess ignorance is bliss sometimes eh? Main thing is it was fine and your boy is healthy and well <3 xxx
Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
I'm worried about the epidural too TBH... Never was before but have heard it can slow labour and make it more difficult etc... But I really don't think I'll be able go through labour without it.. So either way... I'm worried!!!
Also I've heard to let gravity help as much as possible and spend as little time as possible on yer back... But if I have epidural am gona assume I can't do that... I've yet to discuss pain relief with the MW/Consultant so i'm trying not to let my brain go there until I have facts.. And am steering clear of Google coz you only get the scary stories on there and that'll not do me any good at all...
Also I've heard to let gravity help as much as possible and spend as little time as possible on yer back... But if I have epidural am gona assume I can't do that... I've yet to discuss pain relief with the MW/Consultant so i'm trying not to let my brain go there until I have facts.. And am steering clear of Google coz you only get the scary stories on there and that'll not do me any good at all...
Cai
has a thin girl inside!
I never had a pain relief chat with anyone!! When I got there I took what they offered.
I must admit tho I didn't have a birth plan! I was happy to turn up and what happens happens!! Lol. Well let's face it no plan starts with 'get stupidly high blood pressure and be induced' lol xx
missy1978
Big Bird
Dubchick81
Finally Pregnant!!
sarah_lou1981
Back again!!
I'm not doing a birth plan either. I'm so used to being in control with lists and things that if I make a birth plan and it doesn't go to plan I'll get annoyed. So I figure it's best to go in and just see what happens. That way I haven't lost control because I never had it to start with!
sarah_lou1981
Back again!!
Anyone else seen this.....
http://news.sky.com/story/1167229/breastfeeding-new-mums-to-get-shop-vouchers
It's actually made me fuming!!! I'm choosing not to breast feed but some people have no option and HAVE to bottle feed. Nothing like putting more pressure on people and making them feel guilty!!
http://news.sky.com/story/1167229/breastfeeding-new-mums-to-get-shop-vouchers
It's actually made me fuming!!! I'm choosing not to breast feed but some people have no option and HAVE to bottle feed. Nothing like putting more pressure on people and making them feel guilty!!
PrincessPeach
Pregnant with Baby No 2!
I'm just winging it lol
I know that probably sounds a little "wreckless" but I'm trying to not worry. I know that it's going to be the worst pain I've probably ever been in, I know there are plenty of risks etc but I'm just going to trust that my body will "know" what to do, or at the very least if something is wrong or not. This is why when people mention birth plans, I don't really have one. In my perfect scenario, I'd have a water birth and a bit of gas and air and out she comes - but being realistic, there are so many things that could affect that plan. Whether I get a water birth or not depends on for a start - how the rest of my pregnancy goes, but also what my labour is like. If all IS well and fine, it then depends if the pool is free! (There's only 1 at my hospital!), and then if I'm in the pool - it's how I cope. It might just be too much for me in which case I'll need to get out so I can have alternative pain relief.
I'm aware though that I could be induced, there could be problems with blood pressure and all sorts of things, I may want an epidural, I may even need a c section and so I'm just preparing myself for all sorts of scenarios, as unfortunately it really is "unknown".
The only thing I'd like to do (if I'm able to) is stay quite mobile throughout, and I'd prefer not to give birth lying down (just looks so unnatural) but I know that may not be an option depending on how it all goes. Which is why, for now at least I'm just going to go with it. Let my body go with what it wants to do, and let the midwives and docs do their jobs. xx
I know that probably sounds a little "wreckless"
but I'm trying to not worry. I know that it's going to be the worst pain I've probably ever been in, I know there are plenty of risks etc but I'm just going to trust that my body will "know" what to do, or at the very least if something is wrong or not. This is why when people mention birth plans, I don't really have one. In my perfect scenario, I'd have a water birth and a bit of gas and air and out she comes - but being realistic, there are so many things that could affect that plan. Whether I get a water birth or not depends on for a start - how the rest of my pregnancy goes, but also what my labour is like. If all IS well and fine, it then depends if the pool is free! (There's only 1 at my hospital!), and then if I'm in the pool - it's how I cope. It might just be too much for me in which case I'll need to get out so I can have alternative pain relief.I'm aware though that I could be induced, there could be problems with blood pressure and all sorts of things, I may want an epidural, I may even need a c section and so I'm just preparing myself for all sorts of scenarios, as unfortunately it really is "unknown".
The only thing I'd like to do (if I'm able to) is stay quite mobile throughout, and I'd prefer not to give birth lying down (just looks so unnatural) but I know that may not be an option depending on how it all goes. Which is why, for now at least I'm just going to go with it. Let my body go with what it wants to do, and let the midwives and docs do their jobs. xx
