2015 and It's Now or Never!

Afternoon Em,

It sounds like this is how they behave - they probably do the "no talking" thing to others. Don't let them change you.

I have a sister who does this sort of cr@p and I just act as if I no idea she is not talking to me or mad - I don't change my behavior because of hers. She still gets a Christmas and birthday card and eventually she just starts talking to me again. I learned a long time ago - that she "owns" this problem and I cannot control the situation except my part on it.
It sounds like you did well - you went, were flexible and made the most of it.

I hope you get to enjoy your recently tidied garden. It's lovely out. :D
 
MinnieMel said:
Afternoon Emm,

It sounds like this is how they behave - they probably do the "no talking" thing to others. Don't let them change you.

I have a sister who does this sort of cr@p and I just act as if I no idea she is not talking to me or mad - I don't change my behavior because of hers. She still gets a Christmas and birthday card and eventually she just starts talking to me again. I learned a long time ago - that she "owns" this problem and I cannot control the situation except my part on it.
It sounds like you did well - you went, were flexible and made the most of it.

I hope you get to enjoy your recently tidied garden. It's lovely out. :D
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Afternoon Mel.. I have to admit that the stage was set very much by moi! Not a great thing to have to own up to but I guess I'm reaping what was sown... only excuse being that I was very mentally unbalanced by the dysfunctional home life when I was young and then having a very brutish husband didn't help matters with my being a very bad depressive.. so I spent some many years not being any help to my D's when their families were little. I have had many a chat with them about that aspect over the years and they forgave me my faux pas which I was very relieved about but I can't help feeling it's all along these lines... sort of bad karma!

Certainly has been a great day altho' I haven't been outside at all. My back was an absolute Barsteward today and I eventually resorted to a small dose of morphine which eased it at last.
Did one of my fav jobs of sorting my paper work.. used to love running an office so it does bring back pleasant memories... and I'm a fanatic at keeping things in an orderly fashion...even my hoarded stuff in the bedroom is put into matching boxes all neat and tidy!..

Never did get the hang of my tablet.. got the pw from reception at the hotel but still couldn't do it. :confused:

Diet has gone well altho' the carbs are still rather high.

Breakfast - Crunchy Bar Oats&Honey 1
Lunch - Bread 34g + Cheese 30g
Snack - Digestive Biscuits 2 + Milk 120ml + Decaf Coffe + Sugar 2g
Dinner - Quiche Lorraine + Br.Sprouts 6 + Carrot 74g
Supper - Cherries 15 + Alpro Choc Dessert 125g
Extra - 240ml

Cals 1391 Carbs 152 Fat 63 Protein 57 Sugars 76 Fibre 14
 
Hi Emmaline,

Just subscribing to your thread :) I'm Jen-cheng and have rejoined under a new name after falling off the bandwagon :) hope all is well with you x
 
cavegirl13 said:
. . . Would you like to come and do my paper work.I have receipts etc all over the place.I need to file them all away once the carpets are laid and furniture back in the house.:)
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And mine too! I'm just the opposite. My filing when I worked was immaculate. Since I retired . . .
 
Evening Em,

You did the best you could at the time with and for your children -- and you certainly seem to be making a lot of effort these days. (((((HUGS)))))

Right back in plan . . . You don't mess about. Your food looks pretty spot on.

I'm not great with paperwork (these days) . . . that's because it's one of the things DH will do around the house. So, I encourage him to do it.

I hope you get to sit out and enjoy your garden a bit -now that you're back.
 
Hi everyone, I'm the D that mum has spoken about :wave_cry: it was something my OH said to me the other day that made me curious as to what mum would post about her visit to Waterford
i find it very sad to think that you have only heard one side of the story and that story was twisted to make me out to be a very cold person
i haven't come on to have a argument but to say mum why?
first the dumping you at hotel is not true, I had said to you I had rang hotel about parking as it was on a main road and they said there was a loading bay but couldn't stay to long as parking attendant was quite stricken but when We got there it was coned off so had no choice but to leave the car out on the main rd so had to jump out and get your things out of car and get the car moved, where the dogs were concerned you know when you stayed in the past they get a early walk(6-7am) and then I do them around the 1-2ish before going to work we had spoke about this when I rang you the week before you came.
the Saturday I thought went well we had lunch by the sea and had a laugh and took a long drive round in a circle to find the playground since the kiddies had been so good, while you had a nap in the car.
Sunday I picked you up at 3pm not 4pm had a chat in car about the garden, how the kids were so good on Saturday, went and showed you the shop that lisa and I are hoping to set up a coffee shop in our village, after caravan we went inside and is at in sitting room with a cuppa and chated about how we do silly things of eating wrong things and then regretting it and spoke about britains got talent and many other subjects when lisa and family came and then dinner was ready ( that my OH had made so I could sit and chat with you ) when we had finished I asked would you like another cup of tea you said no and went into sitting room while I cleared up with lisa, I then came and sat down when you said you were ready to go and it was nearly 8pm when I dropped you back.
the time in the airport was a conversation on your procedures you have had done I told you about when had mine done and then about the one you are about to have done I spoke about when I got it done, we spoke about different airlines and there baggage restrictions and other subjects.
the kissing me and I turned away is not the case I actually lent and hugged you. I was upset when I left as there was no thanks from you for my effort to spend time with the ( picking and dropping to airport bearing in mind the hotel was 30 mins from my home and then a further 20 mins to airport.
dont feel I can ring as in the past you have put the phone down before we can resolve the situation,
Enough said as I'm disappointed you posted this as I bet you didn't put on here that I rang you every day when you were in hospital to see how you were and offered to come over when you came out but you declined the offer.
 
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Hi Emmaline,

Just subscribing to your thread :) I'm Jen-cheng and have rejoined under a new name after falling off the bandwagon :) hope all is well with you x
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Hi Jen/Rhino, Nice to see you back. Hope all goes well and you get your diary up and running again soon... Take care.. :)

cavegirl13 said:
Evening Emm,

I've just become 'friends' with one of my sisters on fb.The one that I haven't really spoken to since my dad died back in 87.So it will be interesting to see if she talks to me.
As far as I'm concerned the past is the past so hopefully we can get on now.:) Not really bothered if we do or don't but she is the reason I don't go to the family get together's.

Would you like to come and do my paper work.I have receipts etc all over the place.I need to file them all away once the carpets are laid and furniture back in the house.:)
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Do hope your sister responds kindly to your invitation Mary... it's much nicer if we all get along better really but ..as they say.. you can lead a horse to water..etc.
Methinks you have plenty to get on with at the mo' with all the refurbishing you are doing... I'll bet you'll be glad when you can put your feet up for a bit.

Pommette said:
And mine too! I'm just the opposite. My filing when I worked was immaculate. Since I retired . . .
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.. and you're so busy too Bev with all that debtors work that keeps you so tied up.
Hope today was a good one for you.

MinnieMel said:
Evening Emm,

You did the best you could at the time with and for your children -- and you certainly seem to be making a lot of effort these days. (((((HUGS)))))

Right back in plan . . . You don't mess about. Your food looks pretty spot on.

I'm not great with paperwork (these days) . . . that's because it's one of the things DH will do around the house. So, I encourage him to do it.

I hope you get to sit out and enjoy your garden a bit -now that you're back.
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Thanks Mel for those comforting words... there's no going back is there?!

I'm not one for just sitting in the garden but I shall venture forth tomorrow ..all being well, and perhaps do a little bit of weeding or something.
View from my window is much nicer now the front border has been seen to.
 
cavegirl13 said:
I love sitting in a garden.Even if it's just for 30 mins.Next door has a birds nest on his gable end where the 2 roofs meet so I've been sat out watching and listening to them.The baby ones when they are being fed make a racket.:)
They also have bumble bees flying around their bathroom window which I'm hoping they will fly off soon as there is a few of them up there.:rolleyes:
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How lovely Mary..and you've just given me an idea!
I bought a pair of binoculars quite some time ago with the idea of doing some bird watching.. think I'll start putting them to good use.
 
irishlady said:
Hi everyone, I'm the D that mum has spoken about :wave_cry: it was something my OH said to me the other day that made me curious as to what mum would post about her visit to Waterford
i find it very sad to think that you have only heard one side of the story and that story was twisted to make me out to be a very cold person
i haven't come on to have a argument but to say mum why?
first the dumping you at hotel is not true, I had said to you I had rang hotel about parking as it was on a main road and they said there was a loading bay but couldn't stay to long as parking attendant was quite stricken but when We got there it was coned off so had no choice but to leave the car out on the main rd so had to jump out and get your things out of car and get the car moved, where the dogs were concerned you know when you stayed in the past they get a early walk(6-7am) and then I do them around the 1-2ish before going to work we had spoke about this when I rang you the week before you came.
the Saturday I thought went well we had lunch by the sea and had a laugh and took a long drive round in a circle to find the playground since the kiddies had been so good, while you had a nap in the car.
Sunday I picked you up at 3pm not 4pm had a chat in car about the garden, how the kids were so good on Saturday, went and showed you the shop that lisa and I are hoping to set up a coffee shop in our village, after caravan we went inside and is at in sitting room with a cuppa and chated about how we do silly things of eating wrong things and then regretting it and spoke about britains got talent and many other subjects when lisa and family came and then dinner was ready ( that my OH had made so I could sit and chat with you ) when we had finished I asked would you like another cup of tea you said no and went into sitting room while I cleared up with lisa, I then came and sat down when you said you were ready to go and it was nearly 8pm when I dropped you back.
the time in the airport was a conversation on your procedures you have had done I told you about when had mine done and then about the one you are about to have done I spoke about when I got it done, we spoke about different airlines and there baggage restrictions and other subjects.
the kissing me and I turned away is not the case I actually lent and hugged you. I was upset when I left as there was no thanks from you for my effort to spend time with the ( picking and dropping to airport bearing in mind the hotel was 30 mins from my home and then a further 20 mins to airport.
dont feel I can ring as in the past you have put the phone down before we can resolve the situation,
Enough said as I'm disappointed you posted this as I bet you didn't put on here that I rang you every day when you were in hospital to see how you were and offered to come over when you came out but you declined the offer.
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Gosh!! Seems like I got it all wrong again! What can I say but my view was how I saw it and it's surprising to me that you forget the amount of times I was snapped at when we were out whilst you chatted amiably away to Lisa.
If you remember your meeting didn't finish till 3pm so it was well after that you picked me up and I particularly noted how early I got back to the hotel.
I'm so glad that you have read how I really feel about things and I won't be coming over again so you can put your mind at rest as far as that goes.
I'm sure the rest of the family will be pleased about that too.
 
Emmaline said:
Gosh!! Seems like I got it all wrong again! What can I say but my view was how I saw it and it's surprising to me that you forget the amount of times I was snapped at when we were out whilst you chatted amiably away to Lisa.
If you remember your meeting didn't finish till 3pm so it was well after that you picked me up and I particularly noted how early I got back to the hotel.
I'm so glad that you have read how I really feel about things and I won't be coming over again so you can put your mind at rest as far as that goes.
I'm sure the rest of the family will be pleased about that too.[/
2.30 and you were picked up at 3, as I said you asked to be taken home,
I'm sorry but that is not the case, we had a laugh about when Aoife got upset about not being able to get into her buggy and I said she is a right drama queen and you said well we don't need anymore of them in the family and we laughed it off.
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irishlady said:

2.30 and you were picked up at 3,
I'm sorry but that is not the case, we had a laugh about when Aoife got upset about not being able to get into her buggy and I said she is a right drama queen and you said well we don't need anymore of them in the family and we laughed it off.
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I really don't see the connection... but then I'm a silly old fart who's not worth bothering about. Any suggestion about coming over was done in quite a half hearted way ..I felt.
It's alright Sandra, you keep making me the villain of the piece and I'll swallow it like I always do... but I am still wondering what on earth I did to warrant being treated this way in the first place!.. I wonder why Les would have suggested that I wouldn't be happy with things if there wasn't something amiss.
 
I'm not going to be popular for butting in - but what the hell.

Both of you stop it.

This whole discussion seems to be about what time who did what - and both of you can't be right - someone must be mis-rembering something.
There are always 2 sides to every story - and neither will be 100% right.
They will both be coloured by your own perception of what you see as the truth.

Bickering back and forth on a public forum is not going to win either of you any friends.
This diary ain't even in the members section so any member of Minis can come on here to read this squabble.

You need to settle this difference in private by talking TO each other and not AT each other - nor shouting.
And listen to each other too - that's the hardest thing to do in any fight as your instinct is to just snipe back.

I'll not say any more for fear of offending both of you any further.
 
Pommette said:
I'm not going to be popular for butting in - but what the hell.

Both of you stop it.

This whole discussion seems to be about what time who did what - and both of you can't be right - someone must be mis-rembering something.
There are always 2 sides to every story - and neither will be 100% right.
They will both be coloured by your own perception of what you see as the truth.

Bickering back and forth on a public forum is not going to win either of you any friends.
This diary ain't even in the members section so any member of Minis can come on here to read this squabble.

You need to settle this difference in private by talking TO each other and not AT each other - nor shouting.
And listen to each other too - that's the hardest thing to do in any fight as your instinct is to just snipe back.

I'll not say any more for fear of offending both of you any further.
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Thanks Bev.. and very true!
We have pm each other a few times since and I shall refrain from saying anymore about it.. in fact I was trying to think of a way to draw a line under this anyway so this has done it for me.
 
Afternoon Em!

I hope you found a shady spot to bird watch! I enjoyed my dog walk along the River Ouse this morning.
 
Evening Em,

Emmaline said:
Went out to the bank and then intended to go and get my car valeted but I found it far too hot for sitting and waiting in a queue in the car so came home.

Young woman called for the OU law books for her nephew so I am well pleased that they will be made good use of.
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You're doing great with the decluttering.

I need to valet my car -- it's full of dog hair (those pugs shed). It wax very hot today.
 
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