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[JanD]

Oh God - what a dilemma! I'm assuming you mean she doesn't know?! I wouldn't be wanting to upset her before the baby's born ... can you have a word with him? Pack it in or I tell type of word?
The very best thing in these circumstances imho is to keep right out of it but if it's your best friend I imagine that would be practically impossible I would think! How awful for you xxx

 

[RetailChick]

Well the tricky thing is he is in australia, shes home in Ireland. They agreed she would come home when she found out, he would stay and work until xmas and save as much as possible. He is still not home. She is so devestated, then he told her that he kissed some random girl on a night out and it knocked her for 6. Now I know that it wasnt some random girl or just a kiss but a full blown affair with a good friend of both of them I cant tell her, shes been in and out of hospital with her bloodpressure due to the stress hes causing her this will tip her over the edge.....my cousin who is really good friends with both of them and is in australia too has had a conversation with him today along those lines Jan.......didnt seem to have much affect on him.

 

[summergurl]

Well if I was in your position & someone has already had words with him I'd tell my best friend. As much as its going to kill you to break her heart in the long run she'll understand why you did.

Just put yourself in her shoes, would you want to know right away? Would you be ok with her if she had to tell you something like that?

:hug99: xxxxx

 

[JanD]

Doesn't seem like he's too bothered then does it? Mind you is this his first child? I think sometimes men find it hard to accept that they are going to be 'lumbered' with this responsibility (even if it was all planned) and their 'fun' might be curtailed and so embark on something to confirm to them that they're not 'past it'. Maybe once he sees 'junior' he'll fall in love and they'll all live happily ever after . You can't say anything to her though, certainly not with the BP issues! All you can do is be there to support her when and if the proverbial hits the fan. Not easy for you though. xx

 

[JanD]

LOL! Well there's two completely opposite opinions ... just to confuse you xxx

 

[summergurl]

Lol sorry if we do confuse you!!!

 

[irish molly]

Doesn't seem like he's too bothered then does it? Mind you is this his first child? I think sometimes men find it hard to accept that they are going to be 'lumbered' with this responsibility (even if it was all planned) and their 'fun' might be curtailed and so embark on something to confirm to them that they're not 'past it'. Maybe once he sees 'junior' he'll fall in love and they'll all live happily ever after . You can't say anything to her though, certainly not with the BP issues! All you can do is be there to support her when and if the proverbial hits the fan. Not easy for you though. xx

You have a difficult situation to deal with. I agree with Jan and feel that your pals health is more important right now . She does know he is alone and may be prone to stray. Even deep down she may know the relationship is rocky. Your confirming it right now may not be the best thing for her.
Concentrate on her and baby for now.

 

[kered]

I agree with Jan too, because of her issues with her bp, I wouldnt say anything to her. It must be really hard for you though.

 

[kered]

LOL man I cant wait to be older

Ugh its so disheartening-scales is jumping up at a rapid speed

The good thing about being older is the NO periods, but the HOT FLUSHES are cr*p.

Emma, rude question, but how old are you? It's gets much harder every time you hit another decade......get to your bloody 50's and you might as well give up and buy elasticated waists

Which is a bad mistake, I have lived in leggings since pre-xmas. Back on the straight and narrow from Tuesday this week and I wore my trousers today - wow, they only JUST fit. Keep to the fitted clothes and use your dress as scales.

 

[SandraB]

The good thing about being older is the NO periods, but the HOT FLUSHES are cr*p.



Which is a bad mistake, I have lived in leggings since pre-xmas. Back on the straight and narrow from Tuesday this week and I wore my trousers today - wow, they only JUST fit. Keep to the fitted clothes and use your dress as scales.

The elasticated waists comment was a dig at Jan, Mary cos she's admitted to wearing them already

 

[SandraB]

Emma, on the subject of your best friend.....whatever you do is going to be wrong! If you tell her she'll be horrified and your friendship might never be the same again cos let's face it it's always a case of the shooting the messenger and if you don't tell her and eventually she finds out and then finds out that you know, well again she's never going to forgive you......personally I'd wait until the baby is born cos she really can't take that kind of news at the moment.

In any event he sounds like a right ba8tard, but it's an all too common scenario these days isn't it? What's your opinion of this guy? Have they been together a long time? Would she actually be better off without him? As for the woman he's having the relationship with, did you say that she's a 'friend'? With friends like that who needs enemies?!

I really feel for your Emma as you're in a no-win position

 

[kered]

The elasticated waists comment was a dig at Jan, Mary cos she's admitted to wearing them already

LOL I know that Sandra, was just pointing out my ignorance as to how comfortable I felt in my leggings until I put on my trousers this morning

 

[SandraB]

LOL I know that Sandra, was just pointing out my ignorance as to how comfortable I felt in my leggings until I put on my trousers this morning

As the saying goes, ignorance is bliss! I've started putting jeans on again but wearing long-legged pants underneath so that they don't rub on my scar.....I don't want to live in trackies now that I can actually wear jeans again

 

[RetailChick]

Ok I couldnt sleep last night for worrying about it all. I phoned my cousin in OZ to find out how she was so certain about it all, long story short the b8stard and his bit of fluff told his best friend (a girl, and really good friend of mine and my cousin) everything, that they were in love and how long it had been going on for.

I then decided to talk to my best friends sister (we all may as well be sisters) I told her what I knew and said I was struggling with what to do as I knew how fragile my friend was. She was very upset too, we left it saying we'd speak today.

Just got off the phone with her there, shes adament we dont tell her. She said they had another row over the phone this morning, he's still not making any effort to get home. So basically shes inconsolable and her bp is through the roof again
Her sister rang the boyfriend in OZ and told him that she knew what had been going on and that amy deserves to know the truth but not until the babt arrives-he denied everything- a88hole!

So in short there is no way we will tell her while she is pregnant, shes in too bad a state right now. If he arrives home and baby is born and he still doesnt come clean I will obviously have to re evaluate

Thanks so much for all the advice guys, and sorry if the above story doesnt make sense its very jibbery!!! xx

 

[RetailChick]

Thursday

pre brekkie-ww yogurt (1pp) baby had development check no time for anything else before
B- Main bar (6pp) turned down sausages
L-soup (2pp) ww yog (1pp) lf crisps (3pp)
D- chicken stuffed with philly/bacon and salad (6pp)
Milk- (1pp)
S- 1 cookie (2pp) macaroon bar (2pp)


24/29pp so far


37/49 slushies

 

[kered]

Ok I couldnt sleep last night for worrying about it all. I phoned my cousin in OZ to find out how she was so certain about it all, long story short the b8stard and his bit of fluff told his best friend (a girl, and really good friend of mine and my cousin) everything, that they were in love and how long it had been going on for.

I then decided to talk to my best friends sister (we all may as well be sisters) I told her what I knew and said I was struggling with what to do as I knew how fragile my friend was. She was very upset too, we left it saying we'd speak today.

Just got off the phone with her there, shes adament we dont tell her. She said they had another row over the phone this morning, he's still not making any effort to get home. So basically shes inconsolable and her bp is through the roof again
Her sister rang the boyfriend in OZ and told him that she knew what had been going on and that amy deserves to know the truth but not until the babt arrives-he denied everything- a88hole!

So in short there is no way we will tell her while she is pregnant, shes in too bad a state right now. If he arrives home and baby is born and he still doesnt come clean I will obviously have to re evaluate

Thanks so much for all the advice guys, and sorry if the above story doesnt make sense its very jibbery!!! xx

Poor girl, probably better off without the rat. I hope she manages to get her bp lowered.

 

[RetailChick]

Yeah horrible altogether. Cant get my head around it, they are together nearly 8 years and he's been a great boyfriend. You just never know I guess.

 

[kered]

Absolutely, makes you think doesn't it.

 

[summergurl]

I'm glad you have made a decision about it sweet. But like sandra said be prepared for her to shoot you down if you do have to tell her because 1 you've kept it from her and at the time she prob won't understand why you did and 2its always the messenger who gets it in the neck.

I hope it all gets worked out & rats like him don't deserve decent girls so aus can keep him!!!! Lol

 

[RetailChick]

I know Tanya, thanks for the input. Horrible situation altogether x

Least it takes my mind off WI tomorrow! Well it did until I thought of it there lol