Determintation and Motivation!

Oh and TOTM arrived! Thank The Lord! Did not need babies right now! Phew!
 
Mine didn't and isn't going to... Oh fuuuu*****k x
 
Reeeeeeaaallly? Have you checked?!!!!

Xx
 
Yep I have indeed, this morning.. We're discussing our options xx
 
Oh my goodness lovely, congrats xx exciting, scary and crazy! Hope you're ok xxx here if you need to chat by DM if easier xxx
It may be a bit more about not gaining excessively then...! Xxx
 
Ah god, I'm not sure what we're going to do yet as a lot depends on uni, and if they'd let me stay in 3rd year as I can't afford to defer for a year as the fees go up. Going to call one of my tutors this avo and ask her advice. Going to dr in morning to
discuss how long we have to make a decision. Can't really believe this has happened! Proper scary, but veering more towards yes than no with it, just really depends a lot of Uni outcomes as I've worked so hard to get to this point I just can't drop out this far along.

Thank u! If only this had happened in like 6 months would be perfect timing! Xx
 
charl_young said:
Ah god, I'm not sure what we're going to do yet as a lot depends on uni, and if they'd let me stay in 3rd year as I can't afford to defer for a year as the fees go up. Going to call one of my tutors this avo and ask her advice. Going to dr in morning to
discuss how long we have to make a decision. Can't really believe this has happened! Proper scary, but veering more towards yes than no with it, just really depends a lot of Uni outcomes as I've worked so hard to get to this point I just can't drop out this far along.

Thank u! If only this had happened in like 6 months would be perfect timing! Xx
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It's such a hard decision Hun, but you will come to the right one for you both. I am sure your tutors will help you too, esp as you have come so far. Must have been a mega shock! I know I would have ended up in a pickle as although there is nothing stopping me right now, I am just getting to the point where I can start doing the things I want to do study and work wise... And I think if I stopped for another one, I'm not sure that would ever happen..
How's Dan feeling about it all?x
 
We both were instantly like no, it's bad timing and we aren't ready. But really thinking about it, if I can complete 3rd year still then the timing might really be best now, as my masters will be way more intense and it's 3 years and I really want to do my phd straight after and that'll be impossible with a baby and once it's all done in 8 years time I'll be too old! (Not biologically but for when I want them) I'm 28 now and I want my kids to be young at similar as poss times. I don't really want my boys to grow up then start all over again really... It's so hard! I just sent one of my more helpful tutors an email so hopefully she'll get back to me quickly xx
 
Oh dan actually really wants this now.. Scary! But I'm quite excited xx
 
Totally know what you mean, I really wanted to have my kids young and as close together as poss, there's 2 years between them, and I really think if we were going to have another it would have to be now or probably not.. So probably not... I've always said never say never, and if I changed my mind it would not be the end of the world, even in a couple of years, but I really appreciated having close siblings when I was growing up so have always said I'd have to have another two if there was a slightly bigger gap! Lol Bet your boys would love having a babe, and they are a nice age where they could be really helpful :) I recon uni will do their best to help you through before hand. Ah, am excited for you Hun xx
 
Exactly the boys are 6 now and that's already quite a gap! We have decided either way we're getting (or staying) pregnant this year. It's just really if I think I can handle missing most of 3rd year but getting the work done still. I really don't know if I can do it. I know it sounds truly awful but we are thinking of maybe no this minute but timing it for it coming may next year which would give us until near oct free for me to look after the lil one without having to think about childcare costs and all my work would be done so I'd be pregnant through third year and give birth at the end rather than have a baby as its starting. There seems something ethically wrong with this tho. I just can't help but think if I do it now and struggle so hard it's the diff between getting a first and failing my whole degree. It's turning into a massive decision now really! Xx
 
Bless you love, you will get there and you are doing the right thing by talking it through and working out how it's best for everyone xxx
 
Food today... RED nose day

Breakfast: about 15 g of oat bran, what was left in the packet so I had an alpen bar too ( B), milk (A) banana

Lunch: salad and ham, BBQ sauce sw style

Dinner: boiled ham with mash bns and swede, carrots and broccoli, mullerlight vanilla choc

Snacks: alpen bar 1/2 B, melon, wholemeal rock cake (7)

Drinks: tea, coffee, sf squash, diet Pepsi
 
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thumbelloulou said:
Bless you love, you will get there and you are doing the right thing by talking it through and working out how it's best for everyone xxx
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Hey! Thanks love. We went to the dr this morning, and afterwards it did hit me, why would we put that much pressure on ourselves. We would be so tired and so stressed and let's face it my Uni work would probably be nothing like what I could do. So we aren't, but we are planning to try again properly in July - Sept cycles. So we aren't now, but it's made us really think about when and what we want to do. So I'm really excited now for the summer and doing all this planned and properly. Like I wanna get fit and as healthy as poss, quit smoking before it happens etc etc. thanks for your advice it's been helpful :) xx
 
Ah, you're welcome xx Sounds like a relief to have a plan lovely xx esp after the weekend it sounds like it might even have brought you two a bit closer. You will feel much more relaxed about it if you plan it and the stress of everything would not have been any good for anyone. You can put all your focus on uni now and know that the plan will all come together :). I completely admire your strength xx

Quitting smoking it a tough one, been there done it! Didn't smoke through either pregnancy and just stopped both times, but then easily started again months down the line, the kids never saw us and I even used to hide it from my mum... She never let on if she thought any different, but as far as she was aware I gave up when I was pregnant with Lilly! I just got to the point in '11 when I decided enough was enough hiding it and that the kids would really twig sometime ( couple of moments when I'd denied!) and I gave up on 5th nov 11, did 8 months, but then when mum died it was too easy to start again. I didn't give myself a hard time and gave up again on 5th nov last year and been stopped since.. You've got to be really ready to do it, even the first time my mum was really ill, hubby away in afghan etc and people thought I was mad, but I was just ready :)
There'll be a clinic at your docs, which I found really helpful and did patches and gum.. Just wait until your totally ready though and then you will be finexx
 
Right food in Saturday...

B: lm sausages, grilled tomato and mushroom, vanilla Muller

L: ham salad

D: oops, missed dinner, snacked off the kids plates and went out out and drank way too many birthday drinks!

S: alpen light (1/2b),

Drinks: tea, coffee

Going out tonight for birthday drinks tonight, and possibly late nibbles at a friends.. need to try and stay on track food wise and I will not worry too much on booze... I should go for vodka or gin really, but I do like my wine....!!
 
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I really need to stop myself sabotaging today.. Feel like poo, and my back is worse than ever, so want to eat for comfort all round.. Have been in bed all day so far.. Hubby taken kids out which is nice to have some spac, but I've achieved nothing ire than putting a load of washing on, only so they have school clothes tomorrow!
:(

2 ginger nuts and some peanut butter toast...... :(
 
Ok.. Damage limitation


B: muesli, milk (A&B)

Lunch: peanut butter (3) on wm toast (B) with ww spread (1)

Dinner: roast chicken thighs with veg, mashed swede and bns, broccoli, carrot and cabbage

Snacks: 2 ginger nuts (5), cheese (A) 3 garlic breads :( (10) alpen light (3) muller light


Syns: 22
 
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Damage limitation not working after I found some garlic bread in the oven left over from oh's dinner last night:(
 
Right then, Monday.... Going for a Se type day...

B: muesli and milk (a and b)

L: didn't really get any but snacked on fruit

D: veg bake - all superfree, with hex cheese on top (a)

Snack: alpen light (b) teeny bit of ham, plum, apple, melon, aldi cheese grids (4.5)

Drinks: tea, coffee, sf flavoured water, wine (12)

16.5 syns
 
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